Neither.
I simply pointed out that your statement was incorrect. Along with that I also made the point that social skills have gone the way of the dodo.
Carry on.
Oh, you sweet-talker, you.
Then, may I point out that you misinterpreted my statement?
Are you asking random strangers if its ok to be friends with certain people because someone might think something about you?
- I'm quite certain I haven't said this in any of my posts.
Med students are still kids, and most physicians aren't quite grown up either.
What ever happened to being yourself and that being who you are?
- This is fluid.
Why do you even care how anyone else perceives you?
Let's face it, different things are important at different stages of life. That toy car was your world when you were 4. Just a toy car now, but that doesn't matter. Your mom hugging you outside school at 12 might seem like a joke now, but at that time it was mortifying. Just because it's silly now, doesn't mean it didn't mean something then. In our teens and early twenties, it's important how you're perceived since we're still figuring out what type of person we are as we switch from relying primarily upon the ventral striatum to the prefrontal cortex for decisions.We recognize that in any field, to be successful, networking is an important component - and we realize how difficult or easy that can be made based on others' perceptions.
Most importantly - just in terms of quality of life, social relationships are quite vital.
http://www.powdthavee.co.uk/resources/valuing_social_relationships_15.04.pdf
Initiating a friendship costs time and effort. People who see you in a social setting are potential friends (we only meet so many people in our lives) and if they see you in poor light, even though that's not 'who you are', they are less likely to engage you and you'll never have a chance to know if you're kindred spirits.
So, when you say:
To the above sentiment, you are not how you are perceived.Trying to live that lie is going to be a sad, sad life, particularly in medicine.
No one is saying live a lie. I did not recommend 'not being who you are'. Please point it out, if I did. The point is that if others think well of you to start with, it gives you greater freedom to be yourself in public and lead a happier life. This is why we dress well, groom ourselves, speak well, are polite etc. As we grow older, this bit becomes second nature to us and we don't consciously have to pay as much attention to it anymore.
edit: This doesn't change the fact that, for all
practical purposes, to the world, you are who you are perceived to be.
I remember back when who you were wasn't tied to strangers perceptions and tweeter updates.
- Honestly, this statement is full of crap. I don't think there has ever been a time when people were more accepting than now.
indeed. The last post was more for humor than anything else. Let me restate it.
I love the announcement that one is done posting. Classic.
