Hi Lilycat,
You said:
•••quote:••• As an additional aside -- there are ways of respectfully disagreeing with people without being rude or insulting them. It may be a difference of personal style, but I've gotten a lot of feedback that at least on this board, it tends to rub people the wrong way, to say the least. If anything, I think the art of learning to respectfully disagree or offer a dissenting a viewpoint is exactly that, an "art," and if it's well done, can be far more effective in getting the point across. ••••Thanks for the lecture. Let me be very clear about this, since your comments seem most directed at me. I am not here to coddle people's emotions or massage their feelings. Life is way too short to invest that kind of emotional currency on a student doctor forum.
I am here for spirited debated and charged conversation. To the best of my knowledge I am not in violation of your TOS based upon the above post that you find so appalling.
Having said that, when I reply, I largely don't consider the poster so much as the post. I attack messages and ideas, and to the best of my ability, try to avoid direct assaults. I am certain that over 90% of those I criticize are fine human beings. We are all wrong at some point in time. Heck, at the 95 percentile, I'm still wrong 5% of the time.
I understand that there are those who find this demeanor offensive. I find discussions about indian women, thongs, the best position 'to do it' in equally offensive, yet your site seems to sanction this kind of high school locker room discussion without recourse.
Since I have become the subject of debate lately, I would make the following recommendation. Decide on your private board whether or not you wish to have an opinionated, charged yet cogent and knowledgeable poster within your ranks. I fully understand if you choose not to, it's your site and perogative. If you would rather not have me, I will simply disappear. No need to delete my account and my internet skeleton will not be exhumed much like the late 'davidgreen'.
If you do decide to have me, I would recommend you attempt to take your job a bit more seriously. As a moderator/administrator, you represent your company. Singling out individual posters in this way is terribly unprofessional. Further, your juvenile quip about my spelling snafu is equally unprofessional. If my editing or lack thereof is so offensive, install a spell checker. Many internet forums have em.
I wont change my writing style, and certainly wont take lessons from you. I have enough professional experience to know what works. I will abide by your TOS. If your TOS are too abrasive for me to handle, than I will stop posting as well.
What I can offer you is my wealth of experience and knowledge. I will not adhere to some whimsical style that you may find warm and pleasing. I certainly wont be lectured on professionalism by those who wage battles that are, quite frankly, unprofessional.
Let me know.
K.P.