Depends on what his spouse does for a living (and if they put them through school), what state they live in, if they have kids, etc. The docs that I know that really had to pay out were all EM physicians for some reason. An EM attending I worked with actually told me he pays out $12,000 a MONTH to his first wife who he married at age 19. She helped him through med school. He was currently on his third wife. Another EM physician I worked with when I was a scribe knocked up a nurse and he got hit with alimony (from his ex-wife) and child support (nurse’s baby). The child support was around $10,000 a month or something crazy like that too!! My coworkers would joke (when he wasn’t there) that the nurse doubled her salary by sleeping with him
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The divorce itself will cost 60kish (at least that’s what it cost for two of my friends, both friends have kids and had homes).
I feel bad for the OP. We are all susceptible to temptation. Just don’t act on it!
A marriage can end for a variety of reasons and it really does take two. I suggest the OP do everything in his power to save it, but sometimes you can’t. Marry wisely, my friends!