Dating atmosphere in med school?

[Corriefangirl]

I know everyone hates these kinds of threads but I am genuinely curious about the dating scene at a typical med school. I went to a private, top tier undergrad and the dating culture consisted mostly of drunken hookups and guys showing zero commitment tendencies. Do people still recklessly hook up in med school or are the guys there more serious about dating/having a girlfriend since they're older and in professional school? At some of the schools I've interviewed at (particularly southern schools) a lot of the students (male included) took pride in the fact that they were engaged or already married, would you say this typical? I know I'm generalizing a lot but just as college guys are known for "banging hoes" I figure there is a general trend for med school guys as well.

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[USMC2MD]

A lot of students settle down, it happened during the second half of the first year. In the beginning everyone is just having fun but you realize that people are diving into relationships. I consider myself a mature and committed guy but don't believe in relationships or marriages myself but I know plenty of medical students that do.
Medical school is slightly more mature than undergrad but don't forget in 1st year most of these kids just got out of undergrad.

 

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[hownowmauvecow]

definitely varies from school to school. and some medical school classes are just a bit more incestuous than others (very much so for my class). I would say for the most part people tend to be more mature, but you will still run into people who only want drunken hookups and have no desire for a relationship. There might also be hesitancy on some people's parts in dating a fellow student since a breakup might make things difficult if they have to see them everyday. That being said, I am dating one of my classmates and I have found that him (as well as most the guys in my class) are nice guys and there are very few that I know that are only interested in "banging hoes"

 

[LakersWestSide]

It's funny I always wanted a relationship. It never worked out though in college and wasted almost 2 years of my broken heart lol, girl was a drama queen. A lot of ppl are surprised I am not in a relationship, good looks, healthy, gym rat, and socially adept but matter of fact is in college I was in a stage where I was against hookups and brushed aside any chance to advance. But now, I am at a point where I might date or "bang hoes" haha.

 

[Etorphine]

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[GUH]

I know everyone hates these kinds of threads but I am genuinely curious about the dating scene at a typical med school. I went to a private, top tier undergrad and the dating culture consisted mostly of drunken hookups and guys showing zero commitment tendencies. Do people still recklessly hook up in med school or are the guys there more serious about dating/having a girlfriend since they're older and in professional school? At some of the schools I've interviewed at (particularly southern schools) a lot of the students (male included) took pride in the fact that they were engaged or already married, would you say this typical? I know I'm generalizing a lot but just as college guys are known for "banging hoes" I figure there is a general trend for med school guys as well.

If you don't want to do the hookup thing anymore, then you have the power to choose not to hook up.

 

[Corriefangirl]

If you don't want to do the hookup thing anymore, then you have the power to choose not to hook up.

Definitely. I mean I don't really respect girls that do that and I wouldn't respect myself of I participated. But then it's like I have to resign myself to be a lonely spinster

 

[Corriefangirl]

yea, i agree, just have to wait until the men "grow up" because they are the only ones with commitment issues

also lol at "i went to a private, top tier undergrad" with relevance to the topic. People don't date in medical schools within the 25-100 range.

I only mentioned that because, I found that the dating culture is very male friendly at those kinds of schools (just my observation), girls are generally treated like ****/c*m dumpsters. Whereas at state schools/larger schools there is alt more variety and different scenes for dating

 

[Thyroxine]

The majority of my class (guys and girls) are in a relationship with someone from undergrad/back home.

Needless to say, my pre med school fantasies of what the dating scene would be like (lots of hot, intelligent, single girls) were just that - total fantasies. The girls are hot, and they are intelligent - but they're definitely not single

That and the fact that I no longer have time to socialise/party as much as I used to in undergrad mean that I am currently going through the mother of all dry spells

 

[shamwowzer]

i've found in my short experience that girls in med school are ball busters and mercenaries.

 

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[GUH]

Definitely. I mean I don't really respect girls that do that and I wouldn't respect myself of I participated. But then it's like I have to resign myself to be a lonely spinster

Unless you're over 40 or don't take good care of yourself, don't sweat it.

...That and the fact that I no longer have time to socialise/party as much as I used to in undergrad mean that I am currently going through the mother of all dry spells

I'm going on three years now and I won't even start med school for a few months! I haven't been worrying about it too much though; it'll be one less thing to worry about (99 problems blablabla). Not gonna lie and say that I haven't tried at all but it really hasn't been so bad.

 

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[NightOwl09]

It is definitely a geographic thing as well. I am from the Midwest and plenty of people get engaged either senior year of college or right after. The fact that my boyfriend and I have been dating for six years and are not engaged is considered weird. We have no plans to anytime soon either considering I'll be a broke med student and he'll be a broke teacher next year.

 

[Wordead]

It is definitely a geographic thing as well. I am from the Midwest and plenty of people get engaged either senior year of college or right after. The fact that my boyfriend and I have been dating for six years and are not engaged is considered weird. We have no plans to anytime soon either considering I'll be a broke med student and he'll be a broke teacher next year.

It is really weird and disturbing to me how many girls in the midwest under 22 have multiple kids.

 

[goofball]

The male med student's dilemma:

Girls in medical school: so tired from working all the time that they don't care about their romantic life, they just want to sleep.

Girls outside medical school: don't understand that med students work all the time.




Am I right?

 

[penguinism]

The male med student's dilemma:

Girls in medical school: so tired from working all the time that they don't care about their romantic life, they just want to sleep.

Girls outside medical school: don't understand that med students work all the time.

Am I right?

Not entirely.

 

[Thyroxine]

The male med student's dilemma:

Girls in medical school: so tired from working all the time that they don't care about their romantic life, they just want to sleep.

Girls outside medical school: don't understand that med students work all the time.




Am I right?

Yes + very little time to go out and meet non-medical students. Catch 22 for sure

 

[NightOwl09]

It is really weird and disturbing to me how many girls in the midwest under 22 have multiple kids.

I'm from the suburbs of a large city (in Midwestern terms) so that's not really the case for people I grew up with. I went to a large public university where I met a lot of people from small towns and many of them have friends who didn't leave for college and are now engaged/will have kids and stay-at-home in the next few years. That's never been my plan and my boyfriend grew up in California before moving to the Midwest before high school so we're on the same page.

 

[GalenAgas]

I know everyone hates these kinds of threads but I am genuinely curious about the dating scene at a typical med school. I went to a private, top tier undergrad and the dating culture consisted mostly of drunken hookups and guys showing zero commitment tendencies. Do people still recklessly hook up in med school or are the guys there more serious about dating/having a girlfriend since they're older and in professional school? At some of the schools I've interviewed at (particularly southern schools) a lot of the students (male included) took pride in the fact that they were engaged or already married, would you say this typical? I know I'm generalizing a lot but just as college guys are known for "banging hoes" I figure there is a general trend for med school guys as well.

The highest quality MEN in medical school generally do not waste time dating their classmates (exception is if the man was dating the woman before starting medical school).

The reality is that a good looking socially adept man with game who is also a medical student will be able to pull whatever he wants. He won't want the very average looking female classmates with good personalities since he can get the 10/10 females with excellent personalities outside of medical school. The below average looking females who have bad personalities or have personalities/lifestyles not suitable for marriage... well they're SOL. Unfortunately the last group is common in medical school.

-Med Stud

 

[GalenAgas]

wtf is this?

 

[GalenAgas]

The male med student's dilemma:

Girls in medical school: so tired from working all the time that they don't care about their romantic life, they just want to sleep.

Girls outside medical school: don't understand that med students work all the time.




Am I right?

No you are wrong. Most women actually think I'm busier than I really am. I actually play into this a little bit because it makes my time with her seem even more special. Women dont' like men who dont' ahve anything going on in their lives. High quality women will understand the schedules of successful men.

Just as an example, the last girl I was dating is an I-banker and completely understood my schedule. Actually being an MS2 (or MS3, probably) is chill by comparison. Doctors should only date high quality women since they are more likely to understand the schedule:

High Quality:

• 10/10
• > 6/10 + successful
• or
• attractive and successful

Then there's the impossible quadrifecta which I've pulled off for a couple of hookups but not a relationship

European, Attractive, Successful, and Bisexual

 

[Wordead]

No you are wrong. Most women actually think I'm busier than I really am. I actually play into this a little bit because it makes my time with her seem even more special. Women dont' like men who dont' ahve anything going on in their lives. High quality women will understand the schedules of successful men.

Just as an example, the last girl I was dating is an I-banker and completely understood my schedule. Actually being an MS2 (or MS3, probably) is chill by comparison. Doctors should only date high quality women since they are more likely to understand the schedule:

High Quality:

• 10/10
• > 6/10 + successful
• or
• attractive and successful

Then there's the impossible quadrifecta which I've pulled off for a couple of hookups but not a relationship

European, Attractive, Successful, and Bisexual

This homey tongue so smooth you think he have pernicious anemia. Lay down dat gospel, neg dem bitches and they be putty in your hands.

10/10 post, casanova status

 

[Anigma07]

No you are wrong. Most women actually think I'm busier than I really am. I actually play into this a little bit because it makes my time with her seem even more special. Women dont' like men who dont' ahve anything going on in their lives. High quality women will understand the schedules of successful men.

Just as an example, the last girl I was dating is an I-banker and completely understood my schedule. Actually being an MS2 (or MS3, probably) is chill by comparison. Doctors should only date high quality women since they are more likely to understand the schedule:

High Quality:

• 10/10
• > 6/10 + successful
• or
• attractive and successful

Then there's the impossible quadrifecta which I've pulled off for a couple of hookups but not a relationship

European, Attractive, Successful, and Bisexual

Not a bad list, I would add freaky in bed (prob goes with the bisexual but I'm talking about having that F me look on their face all the time) and attractive friends-- in case you want to try something new. Successful is debatable, looks definitely over this.

 

[goofball]

neg dem bitches

 

[ComradeDoktor]

The majority of my class (guys and girls) are in a relationship with someone from undergrad/back home.

Needless to say, my pre med school fantasies of what the dating scene would be like (lots of hot, intelligent, single girls) were just that - total fantasies. The girls are hot, and they are intelligent - but they're definitely not single

That and the fact that I no longer have time to socialise/party as much as I used to in undergrad mean that I am currently going through the mother of all dry spells

What part of the country do you go to school in?

 

[GalenAgas]

This homey tongue so smooth you think he have pernicious anemia. Lay down dat gospel, neg dem bitches and they be putty in your hands.

10/10 post, casanova status

Not a bad list, I would add freaky in bed (prob goes with the bisexual but I'm talking about having that F me look on their face all the time) and attractive friends-- in case you want to try something new. Successful is debatable, looks definitely over this.

 

[CodeBlu]

I know everyone hates these kinds of threads but I am genuinely curious about the dating scene at a typical med school. I went to a private, top tier undergrad and the dating culture consisted mostly of drunken hookups and guys showing zero commitment tendencies. Do people still recklessly hook up in med school or are the guys there more serious about dating/having a girlfriend since they're older and in professional school? At some of the schools I've interviewed at (particularly southern schools) a lot of the students (male included) took pride in the fact that they were engaged or already married, would you say this typical? I know I'm generalizing a lot but just as college guys are known for "banging hoes" I figure there is a general trend for med school guys as well.

Hahaha, just kidding. In all honesty, I've seen a lot of people settling down with their boyfriends or girlfriends. A lot of people that came into my class with relationships ended up staying in them. I can only think of 2 cases where they broke up to date someone in the class.

 

[Corriefangirl]

Hahaha, just kidding. In all honesty, I've seen a lot of people settling down with their boyfriends or girlfriends. A lot of people that came into my class with relationships ended up staying in them. I can only think of 2 cases where they broke up to date someone in the class.

Lol! I actually have been called a stage 5 clinger before but I've gotten a lot better. I'm just hoping that I'll be more successful romance wise than I was in college. I'm really not bad looking, I get asked out a lot but it's usually by guys that are commitment phobes, and usually they're younger than me. kinda weird..

 

[Corriefangirl]

Y'all are hilarious btw. I've enjoyed reading some of this

 

[Dapado33]

This homey tongue so smooth you think he have pernicious anemia.

 

[JP2740]

Ugh, I wouldn't want to date a chick in med school. I like dating the lay people, who think I'm god for my future career in saving lives and performing surgeries.

 

[survivordo]

There was a LOT of relationships in my class. Thinks about it, people tend to get with people that are sociopolitically similar to them so the further you move along in training I think the more likely it is for people to get together. I'm marrying someone from my med school class and there are like 6 other couples who are doing the same. On top of that there were a ton of people in committed relationships outside of the class. Some random hookups in the beginning but mostly seriousness going on.

Survivor DO

 

[JP2740]

Hahaha, just kidding. In all honesty, I've seen a lot of people settling down with their boyfriends or girlfriends. A lot of people that came into my class with relationships ended up staying in them. I can only think of 2 cases where they broke up to date someone in the class.

After looking at the pic, I keep reading "Stage 5 Ginger"

 

[Thyroxine]

What part of the country do you go to school in?

I'm a British med student

 

[EsquireIII]

So much easier to just go to the pub and pick up women then date anyone in med school really. Not sure I would want to date any of my classmates anyhow. Med school women aren't really great craic anyhow. All study... no play. I need action for stress relief.

 

[ComradeDoktor]

I know everyone hates these kinds of threads but I am genuinely curious about the dating scene at a typical med school. I went to a private, top tier undergrad and the dating culture consisted mostly of drunken hookups and guys showing zero commitment tendencies. Do people still recklessly hook up in med school or are the guys there more serious about dating/having a girlfriend since they're older and in professional school? At some of the schools I've interviewed at (particularly southern schools) a lot of the students (male included) took pride in the fact that they were engaged or already married, would you say this typical? I know I'm generalizing a lot but just as college guys are known for "banging hoes" I figure there is a general trend for med school guys as well.

OP, I'm really surprised by how different your college experience was from mine. I went to a big public school in California, and I always felt like everyone around me was in a committed relationship.

 

[Mt Kilimanjaro]

I only mentioned that because, I found that the dating culture is very male friendly at those kinds of schools (just my observation), girls are generally treated like ****/c*m dumpsters. Whereas at state schools/larger schools there is alt more variety and different scenes for dating

Is this an East Coast rich people thing? I went to a big state school in the heartland and we treated our ladies with respect.

 

[Porfirio]

Is this an East Coast rich people thing? I went to a big state school in the heartland and we treated our ladies with respect.

East Coast is such a different place when it comes to manners. The women here have no idea how to handle or what the heck to do with a guy who has "heartland or southern" manners.

 

[Wordead]

ITT I learned that there is no rape in the heartland because the gentlemen are so sweet

 

[Planes2Doc]

Gross Anatomy took a pretty big toll on my relationship with my girlfriend. We barely saw each other.

Things have been getting better since.

I guess it's just important to find someone who understands the demands, and won't get angry when you have to go through long stretches of not seeing one another.

 

[Fox800]

I can't fathom dating someone in my class, but that's just me. The last thing I want to do is come home and keep complaining/talking about school stuff. Dating women outside of my class helps me keep perspective about life outside of medical school. I tend to get really annoyed by classmates who bitch about how much they study, how hard class is, and generally never STFU about school. I also prefer to hang out/make friends with non-classmates.

I'd strongly advise dating outside of your class unless you like hearing about school all the time. Meetup.com is pretty awesome for meeting new friends/possible romantic interests. Last night I blew off studying to enjoy my last night of spring break. St.Paddy's bar hopping and spur of the moment decision to go to free salsa lessons at a bar: I'm in a much better mood today.

It's not hard to meet dateable people if you make an effort.

 

[Corriefangirl]

Yeah but it's easier for guys to find nice, responsible girls outside of school, a lot of guys that aren't going to school are wasters/losers. They like to talk about smoking weed, playing video games and wondering when the next party is (also unemployed).

 

[foley12]

seriously. All this talk about being in med school and having no time for anything is ridiculous. Throughout med school I had more free time than I knew what to do with. residency, on the other hand is rapidly approaching and it's gonna suck......

 

[Porfirio]

seriously. All this talk about being in med school and having no time for anything is ridiculous. Throughout med school I had more free time than I knew what to do with. residency, on the other hand is rapidly approaching and it's gonna suck......

So true - M1 has not been nearly as bad as most claim.

 

[JP2740]

Yeah but it's easier for guys to find nice, responsible girls outside of school, a lot of guys that aren't going to school are wasters/losers. They like to talk about smoking weed, playing video games and wondering when the next party is (also unemployed).

That sounds like my friends, and pretty much how I wish I was right now

 

[Fox800]

seriously. All this talk about being in med school and having no time for anything is ridiculous. Throughout med school I had more free time than I knew what to do with. residency, on the other hand is rapidly approaching and it's gonna suck......

M1 sucks when you're freaking out trying to find your studying groove. Once you hit your stride it's all good. I half-ass about 2-3 hours of school stuff a day. 1-2 days before the test I'll do a 10 hours per day. Plenty of time to go out and meet people/do fun stuff.

 

[alpinism]

Yeah but it's easier for guys to find nice, responsible girls outside of school, a lot of guys that aren't going to school are wasters/losers. They like to talk about smoking weed, playing video games and wondering when the next party is (also unemployed).

Just go somewhere w/ an attached grad school or other professional schools. Living in a big city also helps.

 

[bacotell]

I have tried dating in my school..and its a disaster for me as you see them all over the place and you end up talking about the same stupid med school crap every time. But for other people it works. If your a guy..just get some game and go out. The whole medical student thing has never hurt and Ive dated many more women outside of med school and had much more fun. I completely disagree with the "studying is a strain on my relationship"..maybe if you have a long distance or something. I actually think its advantage because you then enjoy the limited time you have with that person when you see them..and furthermore, if they dont understand the work required, move on.

Women..id say use your friends in the class to meet their friends at other schools or outside of schools, leads to more variety. Dont be afraid to say hello to someone..be out going.