Dating atmosphere in med school?

[chasm-e-baddoor]

Don't be friends first- make your intentions known and stop being a coward. That's how you actually get laid.

Where did I say I expect girls to sleep with me because theyre my friends?

I said I'd rather sleep with girls that I know to some extent. If i were to make my intentions known right off the bat then why wouldnt I just go to a club or party and hook up with girls looking for it?

I like my way better since a booty call is more regular

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[famoussquamous]

So, anyone experience something like that in their class? People that got married in your class then divorced, etc. Also did you see that most of the people that came in with someone break up with them or did they stay together?

 

[fancymylotus]

basically.

and no I haven't somehow gotten dragged into bull**** relationship drama despite having not engaged sexually with anyone in my class, why would you think that???

That's coz I'm not there

 

[Mad Jack]

Where did I say I expect girls to sleep with me because theyre my friends?

I said I'd rather sleep with girls that I know to some extent. If i were to make my intentions known right off the bat then why wouldnt I just go to a club or party and hook up with girls looking for it?

I like my way better since a booty call is more regular

Working your way in by being friends first is always the wrong way to go about it. Always.

 

[Mad Jack]

basically.

and no I haven't somehow gotten dragged into bull**** relationship drama despite having not engaged sexually with anyone in my class, why would you think that???

I know that feel

 

[famoussquamous]

Where did I say I expect girls to sleep with me because theyre my friends?

I said I'd rather sleep with girls that I know to some extent. If i were to make my intentions known right off the bat then why wouldnt I just go to a club or party and hook up with girls looking for it?

I like my way better since a booty call is more regular

It's just common that a lot of guys will try to worm their way inside a woman through being "friends" that they assume you are one of them. They think you're just using the friendship as a platform to get it in with the girl. Those are the guys you need to watch out for, since they're supposedly the ones that will try to use your trust to take advantage of their friend. Yes there's a courtship process when talking to a girl, but that's different than being her "friend"



Also usually when people hook up at college parties after the first few months of school the people usually sorta know each other or came together. I feel like that's more common than complete randos.

 

[charmiedermie]

wtf I guess I'm ugly or something, I've never had anyone ask for trouble with a vending machine or bring their medical book and then try to mack on me
Maybe it's the dressing up part that I'm missing

The book was lying on the table so it was obvious to anyone passing that we weren't dental, law, or business students studying. We'd never do it in the med school library since classmates actually know us and it isn't necessary.

 

[famoussquamous]

I don't think I ever personally did it actually, but lots of people including my friends did.

I don't really think it was trolling given that it was a reserved area, it was our only study area, and we literally couldn't find seats half the time. Security did regular sweeps and checked IDs anyways because it was such a consistent problem. Usually what would happen is if you walked in and there were no cubicles or group tables available you'd go ask security to check IDs and inevitably 3-4 people would get the boot. That's the only time I can remember ever saying something personally is when I couldn't find a seat.

The only time people went out of their way were when undergrads were being obnoxious (talking on the phone, e.g.) or thought they were being "sneaky" by doing something stupid like propping up a medical textbook on their table. Turns out we actually know who our classmates are.

So did you guys not have your own library? From that explanation what you did sounds reasonable tbh. Did they at least put out a big sign that said "med students only" in front of the section

 

[chasm-e-baddoor]

Working your way in by being friends first is always the wrong way to go about it. Always.

Let me restate - I dont go making friends with girls hoping to get laid.

Maybe I shouldnt even use the term "friend"

It's more like an acquaintance who I know at least something about and is not some random stranger i meet at a club.

Examples from college -

lab partner
classmate
meet in activity club

i didnt go around campus telling girls I want to get in her pants.
and i definitely wouldnt do that in medical school, the hospital etc.

 

[Mad Jack]

Let me restate - I dont go making friends with girls hoping to get laid.

Maybe I shouldnt even use the term "friend"

It's more like an acquaintance who I know at least something about and is not some random stranger i meet at a club.

Examples from college -

lab partner
classmate
meet in activity club

i didnt go around campus telling girls I want to get in her pants.
and i definitely wouldnt do that in medical school, the hospital etc.

You totally don't even understand what I'm saying. But yeah, your approach isn't the worst. Or the best. But, you know. If it works for you.

 

[famoussquamous]

The book was lying on the table so it was obvious to anyone passing that we weren't dental, law, or business students studying. We'd never do it in the med school library since classmates actually know us.

If I saw someone reading a med school text book that'd be mad suspect. Most students I know either use read the PDF book or just read the powerpoints.

 

[Instatewaiter]

I read literally none of this thread but really 23 pages about dating atmosphere in medical school?

 

[charmiedermie]

If I saw someone reading a med school text book that'd be mad suspect. Most students I know either use read the PDF book or just read the powerpoints.

Sigh. The book(s) on the table weren't actually meant to be read.

 

[fancymylotus]

Sigh. The book(s) on the table weren't actually meant to be read.

I got you

 

[famoussquamous]

I read literally none of this thread but really 23 pages about dating atmosphere in medical school?

We all got issues man.

 

[charmiedermie]

I got you

I thought the purpose would be obvious when I wrote it. I guess not. Lol. Best use of my Robbins Pathology book ever though.

 

[Mad Jack]

I thought the purpose would be obvious when I wrote it. I guess not. Lol. Best use of my Robbins Pathology book ever though.

Robbins is the most expensive doorstop I've ever owned.

 

[famoussquamous]

Sigh. The book(s) on the table weren't actually meant to be read.

You misunderstand, I'd be suspect of you actually being a med student lol.

 

[deleted500612]

You totally don't even understand what I'm saying. But yeah, your approach isn't the worst. Or the best. But, you know. If it works for you.

lol pretty sure you guys are both misinterpreting each other's comments. You are correct that trying to be friends with a girl to get in her pants is the wrong way to go about it. He is right that aggressively soliciting a complete stranger is also usually not the way to go about it either. I find that most commonly people end up getting it in with acquaintances, friends of friends, or even just someone you've hit it off with over the course of an evening, etc. People you are familiar with but don't consider yourself friends. Pretty sure that is what you are both trying to say in different words.

 

[touchpause13]

I read literally none of this thread but really 23 pages about dating atmosphere in medical school?

Welcome to SDN

 

[charmiedermie]

Robbins is the most expensive doorstop I've ever owned.

And clinically it is utterly useless. Great if your patient is already dead though.

You misunderstand, I'd be suspect of you actually being a med student lol.

Yeah but dental, law, and business students have no idea how medical students study for exams.

 

[fancymylotus]

I thought the purpose would be obvious when I wrote it. I guess not. Lol. Best use of my Robbins Pathology book ever though.

The med students were a fun distraction from teef

 

[charmiedermie]

The med students were a fun distraction from teef

I liked the dental students bc of their teeth! Lol. The guys had time to work out a lot too!

 

[PL198]

Nah in med school they just side with the more popular one, gender irrespective. It's the high-school cliquish nature of med school. Plenty of times the girl gets ostracized b/c the guy is one of the "cool kids" and there are plenty of other clucking hens to come around and say they don't know why he was bothering with someone like her

story of my life

 

[PL198]

Him and I talk like this all the time

I like you more after seeing your booze collection

 

[PL198]

I thought the purpose would be obvious when I wrote it. I guess not. Lol. The only use of my Robbins Pathology book ever though.

FTFY

 

[Psai]

If I saw someone reading a med school text book that'd be mad suspect. Most students I know either use read the PDF book or just read the powerpoints.

I'm reading case files as a real, physical book with paper pages at this very moment

 

[charmiedermie]

I'm reading case files as a real, physical book with paper pages at this very moment

I think they have Case Files in app form as well as pdfs u can print.

 

[famoussquamous]

I'm reading case files as a real, physical book with paper pages at this very moment

Don't books like, give you paper cuts and stuff?

 

[fancymylotus]

story of my life

Solution- do what I did. Date a med student. Long distance.


(jk. Would not advise. Do not do as fancy does)

 

[Eokpar02]

wtf I guess I'm ugly or something, I've never had anyone ask for trouble with a vending machine or bring their medical book and then try to mack on me
Maybe it's the dressing up part that I'm missing

I feel the same way. Women never have asked me for these things either so I guess I am ugly as well.

 

[famoussquamous]

I feel the same way. Women never have asked me for these things either so I guess I am ugly as well.

Don't feel TOO sorry for yourself there chief.

 

[PL198]

Solution- do what I did. Date a med student. Long distance.


(jk. Would not advise. Do not do as fancy does)

she got the short end of the stick, I couldn't care less

you guys are welcome for 3000 great posts

 

[touchpause13]

I like you more after seeing your booze collection

I like you more after consuming some of my booze collection

PS I'm just teasing you
PPS I'm not a bully

 

[Kaustikos]

I only used textbooks to bait girls at libraries or Starbucks. Girls see me pull out my med books and all the clothes come off. It's totes a panty dropper.
Then they see me practice my knot tying and they all come to my yard.
Then I'm all "Why don't you slip into something more comfortable so we can begin this physical exam... The sheets of bed work just fiiiiine"

Okay, I'm done. I think I just gave the prelude to every porno involving medical students... Of which there are zero. Because this never happens. Unless you're Ryan Gosling.

 

[fancymylotus]

I like you more after consuming some of my booze collection

PS I'm just teasing you
PPS I'm not a bully

PPPS what are you gonna do if I move to your state?!

 

[touchpause13]

PPPS what are you gonna do if I move to your state?!

Stalk you, duh

 

[Red Lobster Actual]

Okay, I'm done. I think I just gave the prelude to every porno involving medical students... Of which there are zero. Because this never happens. Unless you're Ryan Gosling.

 

[fancymylotus]

Stalk you, duh

Three way party. Me you and @NilocDent my adorable bff

 

[Kaustikos]

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[Red Lobster Actual]

Game
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You win the Internets.

Couldn't have done it without you. *Fistbump*

 

[PL198]

Couldn't have done it without you. *Fistbump*

you're still in denial about your identity

 

[Kahreek]

For me it is all about being the cool guy, girls seldomly hook the line at night outs. Bottom dwellers, catfishes if you will.
Recently i was shadowing some ortho resident helping him with stuff betwen er and or. And i got hit multiple times by various staff and alumni. Damn the jock club feels good as hell. It is like you just have to look at the plebs with your biceps tilting out from your tunic and say "yeah lets reduce that fracture"

 

[Mad Jack]

For me it is all about being the cool guy, girls seldomly hook the line at night outs. Bottom dwellers, catfishes if you will.
Recently i was shadowing some ortho resident helping him with stuff betwen er and or. And i got hit multiple times by various staff and alumni. Damn the jock club feels good as hell. It is like you just have to look at the plebs with your biceps tilting out from your tunic and say "yeah lets reduce that fracture"

 

[freemontie]

Working your way in by being friends first is always the wrong way to go about it. Always.

It's just common that a lot of guys will try to worm their way inside a woman through being "friends" that they assume you are one of them. They think you're just using the friendship as a platform to get it in with the girl. Those are the guys you need to watch out for, since they're supposedly the ones that will try to use your trust to take advantage of their friend. Yes there's a courtship process when talking to a girl, but that's different than being her "friend"

Also usually when people hook up at college parties after the first few months of school the people usually sorta know each other or came together. I feel like that's more common than complete randos.

You know it's all about perception. In the "Office" did he "worm his way inside a woman"?

 

[PL198]

You know it's all about perception. In the "Office" did he "worm his way inside a woman"?

do you realize you're using a TV show to make a statement about real life

 

[freemontie]

do you realize you're using a TV show to make a statement about real life

Yes....obviously. Do you have an actual question?

art imitates life, life imitates art. albeit heavily exaggerated on tv. point stands vis-a-vis men developing romantic interests in female friends doesn't necessarily have to be taking advantage/slimy/worming, etc.

 

[Mad Jack]

Yes....obviously. Do you have an actual question?

art imitates life, life imitates art. albeit heavily exaggerated on tv. point stands vis-a-vis men developing romantic interests in female friends doesn't necessarily have to be taking advantage/slimy/worming, etc.

Doesn't have to be. Usually is.

 

[PL198]

Yes....obviously. Do you have an actual question?

art imitates life, life imitates art. albeit heavily exaggerated on tv. point stands vis-a-vis men developing romantic interests in female friends doesn't necessarily have to be taking advantage/slimy/worming, etc.

lol ok

 

[PL198]

movies are real, they're how I get all my information on how to live