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Bumped for Valentine's Day....
HAHAHA do you have a link for this??
Bumped for Valentine's Day....
I definitely don't have the time or energy right now. I mean, maybe if some amazing guy came along, but at the moment... no.
So a few months after I posted that I am eating my words because apparently time and energy were not an issue. I haven't run into any major conflicts with schoolwork yet, but do be prepared to survive on even less sleep than you got before.
Gradcest? Generally allowed. Utterly inevitable.
Isn't that always how it happens--when you're not looking for it? : )
But, are you really eating your words--or was he an amazing guy?
More the latter
HAHAHA do you have a link for this??
More the latter
I can't believe all the nerds on this forum have never heard of xkcd!!
http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/science_valentine.png
Just go ahead and date your professors.
I'm wondering if anyone has any info on a few things: (1) the social scene around Nova and/or Baylor (esp. for single 30-somethings; i.e. is it completely non-existent in Waco?), (2) for those of you in grad programs now (or have already finished), in YOUR experience, what is/was the on-campus time requirement for the 1st 4 years (I'm wondering if it might be possible for me to do practica in Austin and maybe only have to commute to Waco once/twice a week for class?), or (3) whether anyone knows of any good-looking, intelligent, single, 30-something men who are looking for a relationship. Hahaha!
Is this ever an option, in a case where the professor is in your department but isn't your adviser or in a direct supervisory position over you? I'm not in school right now, but I've heard of this happening, and I always thought it was a little iffy. OTOH, by the time you're working toward a doctorate, you're both presumably responsible adults, so... who knows.
Huh, interesting. Can you elaborate? I'm really curious... and it's not because I'm contemplating doing it myself. I'm just not clear on whether you mean it's unethical or just generally inadvisable.
Huh, interesting. Can you elaborate? I'm really curious... and it's not because I'm contemplating doing it myself. I'm just not clear on whether you mean it's unethical or just generally inadvisable.
I've done the long distance thing and as long as we could see each other about once a month, I actually preferred it in some ways. We both had time to do our own things.
I'm dreading having to do this with my current boyfriend. I know we'll make it work, but I'm not looking forward to the added agony of missing him on top of all the stress of grad school.
One word: Skype.
Just the thought ecks me out.
Huh, interesting. Can you elaborate? I'm really curious... and it's not because I'm contemplating doing it myself. I'm just not clear on whether you mean it's unethical or just generally inadvisable.
Bumped for Valentine's Day....
OK, I'm coming into this thread late because I just found it, but I'm glad this topic was started because it's especially important to me! I'm a 34-yr-old single female and I'm looking to go back to graduate school for the 2nd time. I'm interviewing at Nova in Ft. Lauderdale and Baylor University, so assuming I get into both of those programs, I'll have a very important decision to make. I already get the feeling that both programs are excellent, but even though there will be slight differences between the two and I may be leaning towards one program over another, the LOCATION will definitely come into play (and will likely be the largest factor) in my decision-making. Let's be honest here... by the time I graduate with my PsyD, I'll be 40!!! (That hurt me on the inside to type that.)
If I get accepted to Baylor, it'll be hard to pass up the financial aid package (assuming they still have that kind of funding this year), but I don't know if I can see myself living in/near Waco, and I've heard that Austin is too far to commute.
I'm wondering if anyone has any info on a few things: (1) the social scene around Nova and/or Baylor (esp. for single 30-somethings; i.e. is it completely non-existent in Waco?), (2) for those of you in grad programs now (or have already finished), in YOUR experience, what is/was the on-campus time requirement for the 1st 4 years (I'm wondering if it might be possible for me to do practica in Austin and maybe only have to commute to Waco once/twice a week for class?), or (3) whether anyone knows of any good-looking, intelligent, single, 30-something men who are looking for a relationship. Hahaha!
Thanks!
MOD NOTE: It is against SDN policy to solicit medical/psychological opinion about an individual's situation.What do people think about dating political opposites?? Can a marriage work with this difference?? (Sorry for the lengthy post, I commend anyone who got to the bottom!)
Okay, decided on a new dating rule: Any guy who asks if I'm "analyzing" him automatically dumped. Immediately. NEXT!
Okay, decided on a new dating rule: Any guy who asks if I'm "analyzing" him automatically dumped. Immediately. NEXT!
It's not just inadvisable. It IS unethical. Even if the professor isn't your advisor, there is a power differential. The individual could end up teaching one of your classes, or end up being your practicum supervisor, or may end up on your dissertation committee. But, even if none of those situations were possible for you, the professor is being paid to teach students. You are in a subordinate position--not equal to the professor. Thus, it is considered unethical for so many reasons. . . .
And, you certainly wouldn't want your credentials challenged by other professors and students who might believe that you are being favored for something because of your "special" relationship with a professor.
and a few of them (*gasp*) have small children. Most people seem to be doing okay.
And about putting dating off...if you want a research career, you'll always be busy. If you dont, you'll probably always be busy anyway. you might as well learn to balance work and your personal life now.
I am a single male so I am one of the lucky ones! I know there are people in other departments, and you never know what will happen, but I just seem to get along with fellow psycho nerds . The main problem I have found in my undergrad days is that a lot of my female friends are in relationships, but ehh, what can you do? I am going to be open to other fields, but I just think the chances are best with someone I come into contact with pretty much every day because that is how it has always worked for me in the past. I will just have to be careful if it does happen, and I will be!
Ha! Maybe during interview season...?
It's a professional forum, so that probably wouldn't be the best thing to post.Oh man do I have a great X-rated interview hook-up story from back in the day.... Prob not appopriate to share though. I think she's a post-doc now actually. Not sure where though.....
Oh man do I have a great X-rated interview hook-up story from back in the day.... Prob not appopriate to share though. I think she's a post-doc now actually. Not sure where though.....
It's a professional forum, so that probably wouldn't be the best thing to post.
dude.... stop policing the forums like someone's mother...
It's not just inadvisable. It IS unethical. Even if the professor isn't your advisor, there is a power differential. The individual could end up teaching one of your classes, or end up being your practicum supervisor, or may end up on your dissertation committee.
...if you're a straight male, you shouldn't have any trouble finding available women.