Dating in Med School

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Hey Everyone,

I've been on many interviews and I've noticed many of these med students are either married, engaged or have a gf/bf before they entered med school and are continuing to date them.

Is that how it is for the majority of med students? Or just my luck to find them all?

For the single med students out there, who do you date? When do you find the time and where you find ppl? Thanks in advance!:)
 

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In my class, most people came in with serious significant others. Out of those now, all of them are either broken up or engaged. Very little in between room. Most of them being in the broken up category.
 

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i've dated plenty of guys this year. by plenty i guess i mean like 4 or 5. i've dated people in my class (not recommended) and people outside of my class. i'm not looking for anything serious so i like to shop around. dating's totally possible.
 

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Originally posted by nighttrain
what about dating your patients??

first, it's unethical. also keep in mind that 99.9% of them are unattractive.
 

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has anyone ever had to examine a REALLY hot patient? what do you do?
 

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I agree that it seems as though everyone has a significant other in med school. Many (such as myself) broke that off in the beginning. In my class, at least, it seems as though a lot of people are sticking it through or have gotten engaged.

For those single med students ... an interesting thing occurs: the combination of stress and not getting out too much means that once we all do get out and start drinking, random hooking up occurs. This is dangerous and not recommended. Keep in mind that although med students are technically adults, their behavior is reminiscent of junior high school kids. Everyone is in your business. Plus, let's not forget, that we have to look at eachother for the next few years. Embarrasing moments will be heard by all.

Having said this, though, I too have had a few of these weak moments succumbing to temptation.

Aside from those within the class, dating is possible. I have dated a lot so far. The biggest problem is finding time for these people. Many simply can't understand what it means to be studying hours upon hours a day and that yes, sometimes you would rather be spending time with your cadaver....
 

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Originally posted by rjhtamu
In my class, most people came in with serious significant others. Out of those now, all of them are either broken up or engaged. Very little in between room. Most of them being in the broken up category.

M1 year all my friends thought the same -- of course they all felt like they were the only single people. As I was engaged (married the summer after M1), I felt like everyone was single.... Of course It WAS noteworthy that my fiance actually lived in my apartment with me. Maybe it was that everyone else was committed, but no one's s.o. lived nearby.
 

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I hope I'm not the only sinlge M1 this Fall. It seems that another med student would understand my schedule and know that school will come first. However, I do think it would be hard to date someone you are in class with everyday, and will see for four years regardless how the relationship turns out. Maybe I'll meet a M2,3, or 4. :) Any cute guys out there at MCW?
 

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I second what mdchick said...

Post-exam hookup is ALMOST inevitable and can/will cause uncomfortable moments between the two involved mainly because as med students we do regress... Sad to say but it is true...

Try your best to look outside of your class for dating etc... Finding people outside of med school is TOUGH...mainly because you barely have time to spend with your friends and family outside of studying further more to meet someone to date... that is primarily why you end up hooking up with your fellow classmates. I do know quite a few people that started dating residents etc... once on rotations..

From my observations, those that come in with significant others have a DIFFICULT time with the transitions. Those that make it through the transition, will make it and probably get engaged andt hen married.



Best of luck...
 

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although it hasn't happened for me yet, I think a good # of people end up meeting their spouse in med school. My family medicine preceptor and his wife met during their first year of med school and became good friends b/c they had just gotten out of long-term relationships and didn't want to jump into a new rel right away. they ended up getting married at the end of second year, and now have 3 adorable kids and a busy shared practice. 2 couples in my class just got engaged, and at least 2 or 3 more couples are still together after almost 2 years. Both the Dean of Students and Dean of Admissions are married to fellow physicians, and nearly all of the OB/GYN chief residents are married or engaged to other docs. A definite possibility, don't knock it! Not to say you shouldn't start with the friendship/dating part first:)
 
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Well, that's a relief. I was really getting worried there for a moment thinking that I'd have to enter med school with a significant other or otherwise I'd be screwed.
 

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Shiga's Rule #1

You will invariably end up on rotation with the person who will make you life the most awkward.

therefore, reduce the awkward intensity by never dating your class mates.

Shiga's Rule #2.

Nongraduateprogram-type students will have little understanding for the work intensity you're handling "What? you have to study for your exams 2 weeks in advance!!" It's unethical for you to put them through that misery.

therefore, you may only date those who share a similar environment of academic intensity.

Shiga's Rule #3

The odds of meeting someone who shares a program with similar intensity who is not in your class is slim to none.

therefore, prepare yourself for celibacy.
 

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There's always paid women or escorts you can hire if you get too lonely. none of the hassles mentioned above.
 

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i know of a couple of dentist-doctor relationships. those type of relationships seem to be pretty successful. i plan on getting with a doc myself.
 

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Originally posted by shigalosis
Shiga's Rule #1

You will invariably end up on rotation with the person who will make you life the most awkward.

therefore, reduce the awkward intensity by never dating your class mates.

Shiga's Rule #2.

Nongraduateprogram-type students will have little understanding for the work intensity you're handling "What? you have to study for your exams 2 weeks in advance!!" It's unethical for you to put them through that misery.

therefore, you may only date those who share a similar environment of academic intensity.

Shiga's Rule #3

The odds of meeting someone who shares a program with similar intensity who is not in your class is slim to none.

therefore, prepare yourself for celibacy.

I have always dreamt about celibacy. I raise my glass to this!
 

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I was single when I started med school two years ago. First year, I didn't date much because I was focusing on studying -- meaning that my scope of human contact didn't extend much beyond my class.

Second year, I've dated some M1's, residents, etc. But I'd really like to know how people manage to meet guys OUTSIDE the friendly confines of med school!
 

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Several of you mention dating residents, but is that allowed? I thought that residents are your teachers during clerkships, so do you meet them outside the clerkship setting or is it commonplace for students and residents to date?
 
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DoctorWannaBe said:
Several of you mention dating residents, but is that allowed? I thought that residents are your teachers during clerkships, so do you meet them outside the clerkship setting or is it commonplace for students and residents to date?

Good question. We had a couple of these relationships over the past 10 months, but they were heavily frowned upon.
 

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Shiga probably nailed it on the head. However, I do think there are opportunities out there for dating non-grad students. You just need to put a pager on them :D
 

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toysareus said:
Is anyone here in NYC?
I know everyone is busy but it is nice to go out once and a while and meet boys. Are there any single girls in nyc that are intersted in hanging out sometime and going to bars, lounges, etc? I hope this doesn't sound too weird. Dating classmates is def. out of the question for me. Too much drama and baggage. Do you really want to see the same person from 8-5 and then when you go home?????

Sounds cool. Boy here interested, in NYC. Have heard single chicks in med school tend to be the "leftovers" and unattractive, though. Hopefully this is not the case.
 

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Xmulder said:
Sounds cool. Boy here interested, in NYC. Have heard single chicks in med school tend to be the "leftovers" and unattractive, though. Hopefully this is not the case.
Well, if you're like me and entering medical school at 22, then there's always the chance to see if college upperclassmen really do fall for the "I'm in medical school" line :)

On the other hand, the 22 year olds have to admit that they are moving from an arena of, well, high opportunity to one less so. Should be interesting.
 
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