Dating in Med School

[lilycat]

I was inspired to start this thread by a comment/question on another topic...

Originally posted by andrea:
•Katie and Lilycat, do med students in your class date each other? I wonder if there is pressure to date and if dating a classmate is a good thing.•

My med school class is ~168 students. I would say that nearly 80% of my classmates are in serious, committed relationships, either locally or long-distance. I think in the 2nd-year class it's more like 40% are in relationships.

As for dating within the class, 2 relationships have started since August, but that's it. Most students at my school seem to be really against dating within your own class, since you are together all the time, have to see each other every day, etc. Dating between classes seems more acceptable, but we don't really ever see 3rd and 4th year students, so the options are pretty limited.

As for pressure to date, it's kind of weird. On one hand, the majority of my classmates are in serious relationships, and for the first time in many years, I'm not, which can feel strange. At the same time, the people who are single are very vehement about it, for lack of a better term. Especially the guys -- they insist that they will be single well into their 30's, definitely through residency, and claim to not be even remotely interested in "settling down" until after residency. This tends to encourage the "player" way of thinking during med school.

Anyways, as one of the token single med students in my class , I've come to the realization that my personal life is pretty much going to go on hold for some time, just for lack of being able to meet people.

I'm curious what the situation is like for some of the other med students out there.

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[deleted4401]

It is just as bad for the single guys, I think. For every interesting, attractive, kind girl in my class there is a local or long distance boyfriend. It totally sucks. And I'm not from around this area, so it has been hard to find girls not in my class. I've found a few, but I find Tulane undergrads to be a bit flaky (I'm not hating on them, they just .. uh .. seem to have their minds on things that aren't as important to me anymore).

And then once in a while, there is a cool, attractive, fun girl that happens to be single ... and you find you have no interest in her (and feeling's mutual) except to be best buds.

I don't know, it's better than undergrad because the people are nicer, smarter, and more well-intentioned, but for some reason a heck of a lot more difficult.

"Single" Simul
Tulane Med '05
-btw, that player mentality is common amongst the med school men, and you can watch 'em pick up undergrad/local girls here ... pretty funny stuff

 

[spacecadet22]

Lilycat,
Gurl...you atleast have 167 classmates. There are still options, one just has to be patient. At my school, there are only 100 of us and it seems like 80% are in relationships of the serious nature so slim pickins...not even all that much eye candy and I think it would seem like incest with such a small class. Maybe we should set up an SDN dating service so we can match people up from other medical schools with ones at our respective medical schools?
Also, does your school have a law or business school...organize a mixer, call it CLUB MED and hang posters that say things like "Wanna meet a soon-to-be doctor?" or even "1$ drinks." The single folks will come out of the wood work!
Anywho, we are all in the same boat right now so my sympathy is with you. Keep your chin up, find some other single ladies, and head out to the bars!

 

[AceUF78]

 

[Katie]

the dating situation in med school flat out sucks. period. I briefly dated my friend's roommate after I got here which was a horrible mistake since he lives with her and I was pretty much living there too (not technically, I have my own unfortunate dorm room) and it worked out very badly. He is not a med student. So not only am I reeling from that, but the fact that everyone is engaged, married, or in long-term relationships here (including the long-distance $#-+, sorry to offend anyone with my opinions), or just doesn't care about being with anyone is not helping my social life either. it is very frusturating and when I get thinking of how I am probably never going to get married because of the lack of opportunity to meet people and am probably not going to have sex with another person for ages (if ever again) it makes me very depressed to the point of tears. many people would probably call me shallow on the latter point, but i unfortunately have "raging horomones" at the ripe age of 24. i should probably take some kind of medication to dampen those. sorry for babbling, I just needed to vent. I am happy to be in med school and know I should use the time to try and honor more classes, but there really isn't much of a point since residency directors don't care that much about your grades during the first two years (unless you do v. poorly). It is hard to honor anything around here because the averages are so damn high. If you get a 93 on an exam in Mole Bio you will not get Honors. anyway, I have talked long enough and that is off-topic. take care all..

 

[fourthyr]

The player mentality is strong with me. But, I find it useful, just because I've been focusing on school so much, that it's been great to actually meet people and develop myself as a frickin' real person.

That's what people do; they go out, date, meet lots of people, find out about themselves, and have fun at the same time. You meet a lotta ****ty, superficial, slutty girls; and they're fun for about 2 seconds. But, occasionally, you come across someone smart, sexy, and surprisingly intelligent.

You'd be surprised how closed minded and inexperienced all of us really are. We've been bred and hnad picked to study, to focus on grades, and to go to the next level. Settling down in med school with someone that's going through the same things you are is very easy and natural. But, is that really who you are? Are you really just a living book who enjoys other living books? Go out, go to a bar, ask someone out, and take a chance, esp. on someone outside the medical arena. What can you lose?

Hence, I enjoy being a "player". And I can't imagine being "whole" as a person until I finish my residency and find out what really makes me tick.

Good luck huntin' boys and girls...

PS Sorry if this was offensive or simple minded or something. Just my opinion.....

 

[lilycat]

Originally posted by fourthyr:
•The player mentality is strong with me. But, I find it useful, just because I've been focusing on school so much, that it's been great to actually meet people and develop myself as a frickin' real person.

That's what people do; they go out, date, meet lots of people, find out about themselves, and have fun at the same time. You meet a lotta ****ty, superficial, slutty girls; and they're fun for about 2 seconds. But, occasionally, you come across someone smart, sexy, and surprisingly intelligent.

You'd be surprised how closed minded and inexperienced all of us really are. We've been bred and hnad picked to study, to focus on grades, and to go to the next level. Settling down in med school with someone that's going through the same things you are is very easy and natural. But, is that really who you are? Are you really just a living book who enjoys other living books? Go out, go to a bar, ask someone out, and take a chance, esp. on someone outside the medical arena. What can you lose?
•

Probably the best aspect of this post is that it was a reminder not to always make assumptions about my classmates. I would say that your points were pretty much right on about 70% of my classmates, nearly all of whom have just graduated this May, but I was offended because I just don't fall into any of the neat and tidy descriptions you gave. However, then I reminded myself that they are the same assumptions I often make about other med students, so it's really not totally out there.

I'm pretty far from the typical premed -- I'm a little older for one thing (24), my life hasn't completely revolved around getting into med school -- I wasn't really concentrating on getting into med school until the last couple of years, and I can pretty much guarantee I wasn't hand-picked because I study hard, focus on grades, and am a living book -- I think my Dean of Student Affairs would agree with that assessment.

I don't think there's anything wrong with the "player" mentality -- it just isn't for me for a variety of reasons. Even just last winter/early spring I was dating 5 different guys for a while, and still going out to clubs and bars and meeting new guys. It was sort of fun and flattering at first, but then it just got old. When it comes down to it, I just prefer being in a more committed relationship, ie, dating someone exclusively.

What it basically comes down to is that the way med school is structured, I don't think it will allow me to spend much time on my personal life -- basically a first for me. I don't have anything against meeting a non-med student -- I'd actually rather prefer it. I just don't think it's a real possibility the next 4 years, especially time-wise.

Just as an aside about meeting people in bars -- anyone ever noticed how guys have much more success using the line, "Yeah, I'm a med student (resident, doctor, etc.)," than girls do. Like it or not, we're still in a society where guys can be intimidated by stuff like that.

As opposed to my guy friends, I don't think that holding off of serious relationships until after residency is quite as feasible for me, age-wise. At least among my friends and family, I definitely feel that there is some pressure to marry by a certain age, and that same pressure just doesn't seem to be there for the guys.

 

[melancholy]

Hey Lilycat- Wow.. you're currently attending Baylor? My brother graduated from there.. and I lived in Houston most my life until I went off to college and eventually med school.

What's the average age of your class? You mentioned 24 being "old".. for a pre-med or for a medical student? I know a couple people who just graduated from college (23).. but the average age in my first year class is about 26-27 I think. Therefore, I'm still a bit on the younger side (24) although probably not in maturity as compared to some of my older peers.

At any rate, I think there has been at least one relationship that started this semester.. perhaps some other ones that have blossomed in seclusion. (Sneaky med students know how to avoid notice.. heh heh). To me, it is just a matter of being resourceful in finding time to meet other people. I do find it is refreshing to go out and chat with new people.. even just out of the med school is fine. That being said, Western U. (COMP is part of Western U.) also has a pharmD's, PA's, PT's, nursing students, and in a few years, vet students. The PharmD c/o 2005 has a 5:1 female/male ratio.. imagine 20 guys and 80 girls... . (Ok, I guess it doesn't look as appealing to females). At any rate, it's nice to stay in touch with the outside world.. we see enough of our classmates already... and probably will see them for years to come.

 

[melancholy]

Anyone home? Guess you're all busy hehe.

 

[lilycat]

Originally posted by melancholy:
•

What's the average age of your class? You mentioned 24 being "old".. for a pre-med or for a medical student? I know a couple people who just graduated from college (23).. but the average age in my first year class is about 26-27 I think. Therefore, I'm still a bit on the younger side (24) although probably not in maturity as compared to some of my older peers.
•••

The average age of my class is 22.6 or 22.7 -- over 60% of my classmates just graduated this last May or June. I was actually pretty surprised by the "youthful" make-up of my class when I started.

 

[different strokes]

Originally posted by SimulD:
•It is just as bad for the single guys, I think. For every interesting, attractive, kind girl in my class there is a local or long distance boyfriend. It totally sucks. And I'm not from around this area, so it has been hard to find girls not in my class. I've found a few, but I find Tulane undergrads to be a bit flaky (I'm not hating on them, they just .. uh .. seem to have their minds on things that aren't as important to me anymore).

And then once in a while, there is a cool, attractive, fun girl that happens to be single ... and you find you have no interest in her (and feeling's mutual) except to be best buds.

I don't know, it's better than undergrad because the people are nicer, smarter, and more well-intentioned, but for some reason a heck of a lot more difficult.

"Single" Simul
Tulane Med '05
-btw, that player mentality is common amongst the med school men, and you can watch 'em pick up undergrad/local girls here ... pretty funny stuff•••

For me there were smarter people in undergrad when I was a physics major. But, not necessarily nicer than the med school crowd. Most in my med class are in serious relationships. One lady is married to an oceanographer and a male friend of mine is married to an administrative nurse.

 

[different strokes]

 

[Doctor Wyldstyle]

Heh heh, does that line really work? Anyone want to post the responses they've gotten when the other person finds out your a med student? heh heh.

Originally posted by lilycat:
[QB]
Just as an aside about meeting people in bars -- anyone ever noticed how guys have much more success using the line, "Yeah, I'm a med student (resident, doctor, etc.)," than girls do. Like it or not, we're still in a society where guys can be intimidated by stuff like that.
QB]••

 

[fourthyr]

Dropping the med student bomb usually doesn't explode in your face or theirs.... it just doesn't go off... it kinda goes... "plop"

Most common responses include....
"Oh... so what's your major"
"You're pre-med, right?"
"How many years of undergrad do you have left?"
"Oh... I've always wanted to go to college too."
"What's your specialty?"
"Yeah.... sure. Shouldn't you be studying?"
"You're a resident right? <you say "no" and attempt explaining> Oh... I don't get it."

Least common response was....
"What's avogadro's number?" followed by
"What's the lac operon"

If they're interested, at least it's a conversation starter, but never really a wow-er; unless they have a family member or friend involved.

 

[Future_Doc]

fourthyr - that's the funniest thing I've ever read - especially the last part about the responses you never hear.

 

[yigit]

What a great thread! So funny to see the sexually frustrated med students comin' out of the woodwork.

Before I started school I was convinced that the med school card would be the ticket to ever-lasting booty. Boy was I wrong! I am getting about 1/10th the action I did back in the day. I just don't have time to meet anyone. The player mentality is somewhat strong with me as well, but unfortunately I must take Netter's word on the pelvic anatomy of the female.

Time, money, youth, and now this!!! The sacrifices I make for medicine are starting to get out of hand...what's next?

 

[Scrofula]

Originally posted by yigit:
•What a great thread! So funny to see the sexually frustrated med students comin' out of the woodwork.

Before I started school I was convinced that the med school card would be the ticket to ever-lasting booty. Boy was I wrong! I am getting about 1/10th the action I did back in the day. I just don't have time to meet anyone. The player mentality is somewhat strong with me as well, but unfortunately I must take Netter's word on the pelvic anatomy of the female.

Time, money, youth, and now this!!! The sacrifices I make for medicine are starting to get out of hand...what's next? •••


Trust me guys, you'll get a lot more sex in the end if you're in a committed relationship. It just gets too difficult to find the time and energy to go out and meet someone at a bar after you've been doing pap smears for 10 hours. Come Friday night you'll just end up watching pornos by yourself (not that there's anything wrong with that...hehe). If the playa instinct is strong within you then by all means persue it--just make sure you get some, because being sexually repressed just sucks.

Sorry for the babble...now where's my girlfriend????

The goal is to go from to

 

[Doc Holliday]

Happily married and regularly wearing the " " to prove it! dh

 

[Cobragirl]

Happily married and wearing the BIG too!!!

 

[mhaddi]

Hey,
As a former datee of a former classmate, I would advise against dating if it's only for "convenient" purposes, and you know what I mean. As med students, you tend to "bond" with people you would not ordinarily be friends with, etc. You find yourself spending lots of time around each other, you are lonely, and you're in an isolated environment. It's best to be strong, and hold out for someone who's on the same emotional maturity level as you are. I went out with a 31 one year old boy who freqently mentioned his ex's, and referred to them as the "c" word, very mature. Also, he thought he was a genius, whatever! Anyone who studies non-stop can blow the roof off the tests in med school. There are a lot of losers with low self esteem who are looking for approval in medicine, they are unhealthy, stay away from the ego-maniacs, they are sad, sad creatures, very ugly people. And all too often found in medicine, the supposedly highest respected profession in the nation. No wonder it attracts people with low self-esteem, looking for an ego boost.

 

[tbrow5]

Its funny! Most of the time when I meet girls and they ask me what I do I tell them I'm a medical student. They invariably say something like "oh, so are you going to be a paramedic or a nurse?"

 

[Katie]

hmm, tbrow's message surprises me not at all.. I dated someone once who asked me, "so, what degree will you have when you graduate med school." And trust me, this individual was not asking about the MD/DO debate, believe me, I know! Anywho, I'm glad that the happily married people on here are happy, but just make sure you don't end up being "smug marrieds" I don't know if you've seen the Bridget Jones movie, but the Smug Marrieds are a bunch of married couples who gather around the dinner table smirking about how long they have been together then all turn on Bridget and ask her why she isn't married. They then proceed to ask her why there are so many unmarried women out there these days in a way that implies that she must be an absolute freak. I liked Bridget's answer ("well, it's rather hard to attract men when we have scales on our bodies, isn't it?) but it was scary how much I related to that scene at the age of 24. I'm not getting too much grilling right now, but when many of my classmates start getting married in a few years I'm not looking forward to the looks and questions from the neighbors, relatives, well-meaning classmates, etc..

 

[Doc Holliday]

Good point, Katie. I have to tell you though, I work way too hard at my marriage to ever be smug about it. Sometimes I think all the " " is from making up for the fights!

BTW, Bridget Jone's Diary was bloody hilarious. Somehow I still struggle with Hugh Grant as a leading man after his indecent "incident" in LA though. dh

 

[lilycat]

Originally posted by Katie:
• I don't know if you've seen the Bridget Jones movie, but the Smug Marrieds are a bunch of married couples who gather around the dinner table smirking about how long they have been together then all turn on Bridget and ask her why she isn't married. They then proceed to ask her why there are so many unmarried women out there these days in a way that implies that she must be an absolute freak. I liked Bridget's answer ("well, it's rather hard to attract men when we have scales on our bodies, isn't it?) but it was scary how much I related to that scene at the age of 24. I'm not getting too much grilling right now, but when many of my classmates start getting married in a few years I'm not looking forward to the looks and questions from the neighbors, relatives, well-meaning classmates, etc..•••

Aaaaccckk! I know exactly what you mean. If I identify that much with Bridget Jones' Diary at 24, I can only guess how I'll feel when I'm 30.

 

[pcl]

Originally posted by lilycat:
•

Aaaaccckk! I know exactly what you mean. If I identify that much with Bridget Jones' Diary at 24, I can only guess how I'll feel when I'm 30.
•••

Yeah, I felt that pain too, but I have a few less years until 30. Sometimes I can't decide if I'm more like Briget Jones or Ally McBeal. Both prospects actually are a little scary. All I know is that I'm tired of being single, but it doesn't look like theres an end in sight (sigh). Good thing I have NO time to worry about it!

My school is the same way, most people dating someone seriously or engaged. Although there are something like 8 married students. I used to date all the time in my past (engineering) life, but I haven't met anyone interesting in ages. And at this point, it would have to be perfect or not at all.

Good Luck!

 

[Dont Shoot Me, I'm Hindu]

Maybe we should set up an SDN dating service so we can match people up from other medical schools with ones at our respective medical schools?
Also, does your school have a law or business school...organize a mixer, call it CLUB MED and hang posters that say things like "Wanna meet a soon-to-be doctor?" or even "1$ drinks." The single folks will come out of the wood work! ••


Club Med!!! That's Funny, cuz that's what I used to call the Kaplan Course in NJ. The Kaplan Course was basically a 6-week singles cruise (for those of us that availed of this opportunity).

Its like Big Brother or Survivor, where the stress levels, and cramped living quarters just breed hook-ups....

Honestly, med students are among the most sexually frustrated people in the country. A dating service would do a huge service to our community.

THe "Im a doctor" line is crap. "Plop" is right...It hardly ever works.I swear..girls assume that we are boring and dorky. Im talking about party girls here...they are usually looking for something (athletic, musician, artist, businessman, traveller) more romantic.

The only type of girls that that line will get you are gold-diggers, or people who buy into the whole "ER" "Chicago Hope" Hype.

Also, I think that I would find it attractive if a grl in a bar said "Im a Doctor." I think that Doctors tend to be attracted to others in the field, cuz it is could be something really deep that we have in common.

 

[Dont Shoot Me, I'm Hindu]

SDN DATING SERVICE:

Ive got an idea.....

ANyone who is single and wants to hook up w/ someone in the medical community, put a post up in the classifieds section of SDN!!

Example:

Hi, my name is AR Rahman...I am a 3rd year medical student at Harvard Medical school

Im 6'0" 170 lbs. I have brown eyes, and black hair

My interests are studying, looking at CT Scans in my spare time, hanging out in the library, studying, TNF alpha, taking long walks (usually to the hospital or library), hanging out in the hospital, studying, ordering pizza to my apt. where i study, hanging out at the nurses station on the wards in the hospital, Mast Cells, studying, Sarcoidosis, going on pre-rounds really really early in the morning, studying....did I mention that I hang out in the hospital a lot???

If anyone else has the same interests, or wants to date someone REALLY interesting like me, just call 555-DORK.

I dont know why, for some reason, I just havent found that special someone.
Ciao!!!

 

[lilycat]

Originally posted by AR Rahman:
•

Example:

Hi, my name is AR Rahman...I am a 3rd year medical student at Harvard Medical school

Im 6'0" 170 lbs. I have brown eyes, and black hair

My interests are studying, looking at CT Scans in my spare time, hanging out in the library, studying, TNF alpha, taking long walks (usually to the hospital or library), hanging out in the hospital, studying, ordering pizza to my apt. where i study, hanging out at the nurses station on the wards in the hospital, Mast Cells, studying, Sarcoidosis, going on pre-rounds really really early in the morning, studying....did I mention that I hang out in the hospital a lot???

If anyone else has the same interests, or wants to date someone REALLY interesting like me, just call 555-DORK.

I dont know why, for some reason, I just havent found that special someone.
Ciao!!!•••

I loved this post! I haven't lauged so much at something on SDN in a while.

 

[Fix-it-Man]

hehehe!

 

[utmed02]

Out last Friday night when 2 guys asked me what I did, after saying 'med student', I got:

"Why aren't you wearing those scrub things?" and
"Shouldn't you be studying?

 

[KyGrlDr2B]

Anyone care to comment on how 2 med students at the same school who are dating handle things? My bf and I are in a LDR but we are going to the same school next yr. While it will be nice to have sex on a day other than Fri, Sat, or Sun for a change, I'm hoping we don't drive each other crazy getting used to seeing each other so much. Just curious...

 

[cmz]

My God... you just made me realize how pathetic my life is, KyGrlDr2B. Thanks.

 

[lilycat]

Originally posted by cmz:
•My God... you just made me realize how pathetic my life is, KyGrlDr2B. Thanks. •••

 

[KyGrlDr2B]

I'm sorry . What'd I say wrong?

 

[Dont Shoot Me, I'm Hindu]

Anyone care to comment on how 2 med students at the same school who are dating handle things? My bf and I are in a LDR but we are going to the same school next yr. While it will be nice to have sex on a day other than Fri, Sat, or Sun for a change, I'm hoping we don't drive each other crazy getting used to seeing each other so much. Just curious... ••

KY grl...do u have intimacy problems? Why wouldn't you want to be w/ your bf more? You should find someone else, maybe. SOmeone who doesn't get annoying after three days would probably be a good start.
Realtionships during med-school can make you or break you. I can speak from experience in both fields. Its great to have someone that will look out for you, cares for you, and makes you feel loved. Not to mention, someone who will throw you down onto the sofa and proceed to get some serious Coitus on. (even on weekdays)
Love can ^%&* you up though. If you are not careful, and you get burnt, it can mess up your academics.

ANyeway, why plan? just let stuff happen.

 

[KyGrlDr2B]

I was only bringing it up because everyone keeps implying we are going to get so sick of each other from seeing each other all day. WE've been dating two years and have been in a LDR for the whole time. We met in high school and were friends first anyway. But I wouldn't go to the same school as him if I thought we would break up or couldn't handle it. I was accepted to another school that is along the lines of the one I chose, it was a difficult decision which to choose.
Anyway, just disregard my post, ok. I'm not in the mood to get attacked/criticized.

 

[cmz]

Originally posted by KyGrlDr2B:
•I was only bringing it up because everyone keeps implying we are going to get so sick of each other from seeing each other all day. WE've been dating two years and have been in a LDR for the whole time. We met in high school and were friends first anyway. But I wouldn't go to the same school as him if I thought we would break up or couldn't handle it. I was accepted to another school that is along the lines of the one I chose, it was a difficult decision which to choose.
Anyway, just disregard my post, ok. I'm not in the mood to get attacked/criticized.•••

My post wasn't meant as an "attack" I think it's good that you found someone. I have a couple of roomates that are in the same boat you're in (or soon will be). Trust me when I say this... medical school is an entirely different world when you're with someone than if you're not with someone. You're supposed to be here to perform to a certain standard I guess -- the whole goal is to be the best doctor you can possibly be. Go about that any way that seems necessary to you. Perhaps you and your boyfriend can treat your time together in med school as sort of a pseudo-LDR -- study, study, study, and then screw when you need to.

 

[Dont Shoot Me, I'm Hindu]

I think KyGrl, was referring to me, when she spoke of getting attacked.

I wasn't trying to attack you.

Take a chill pill.

 

[Badgerbabe]

KyGirl,
Your question about the long-distance stuff is a valid one, my roommate is dealing with the same thing right now. She and her bf had been dating three years and had been long distance the whole time. He finally got accepted to our university as a tranfer student this semester, and since he moved to the city, she has been contemplating breaking up with him. This is NOT simply because she gets sick of him, but because there are fundamental problems with their relationship that she could ignore when she only saw him every two weeks or so.
My point is this: I wish you and your bf the best of luck in med school. I think it will probably be a time of extreme bonding between you, especially being at the same school. But it may not be and that's ok, too. Whatever is going on in your present realtionship will only be magnified by spending more time together.
Good Luck!
Shannon

 

[KyGrlDr2B]

Thanks Badgerbabe. I appreciate your honesty. I am not unrealistic and I do realize that this will probably be the time I'll find out if he's a "keeper" or not. Hopefully if the relationship does end, we can remain friends because we have helped each other through so much. But of course, I hope it doesn't end .

 

[penelope]

Intraclass couples don't get to spend much QT together because you're both so busy studying, but you understand perfectly what your SO is going through and can provide great support for each other. Will you get sick of each other? Of course, when you spend every day together at school and every evening together studying! To keep from getting irritable, make a little time for yourself each week to be alone and paint your toenails, eat ice cream from the carton, whatever. I wouldn't recommend living together for this reason. And make sure the two of you GET OUT for dinner, movie, etc. at least periodically to get away from med school madness. Good luck!

 

[jkchou]

I think its probably better not to date someone within the class. As stated by one, just in case you break up, you still have to be in the same class as that person for the rest of the medical school. And, if it is a nasty break up, that can ruin your medical school experience. Plus, medical school is a very* tight community. There is practically no privacy as rumor/gossip run rampant, whether you like it or not. Best to date someone from another class, or better yet, another school. That way, what you want to be private will remain private.

 

[Hannibal Gabriel]

Wow. QT. It took me a second to realize you meant "Quality Time", and not the interval on the EKG. Anyway.

One thing I noticed was someone on here is going to join me at the University of Kentucky next year. God bless you, child. You and your boyfriend. My only advice would be, "Walk away from the light, Carol Anne!" but it's a little too late for that now, apparently, so never mind.

As for dating in med school...pretty much everybody in my damned class is married or engaged, and came that way. And as for whoever talked before about boosting self-esteem...hey, when I'm a troll with no redeeming qualities whatsoever, doing well on med school exam is about the only thing I have to boost my self-esteem. Can't speak for anyone else.

 

[djmd]

Hannibal hey, when I'm a troll with no redeeming qualities whatsoever••

Oh come on don't be so hard on yourself...
I'm sure you have some redeeming qualities...

For one you are smart..
and you eat people
Wait a second!!

 

[KyGrlDr2B]

Hey someone who actually goes to UK already. I really could've used you to pump for info earlier on....

 

[nitro girl]

on dating in med school

i dated a classmate last year, it went bad, had to see him all the time, weird weird weird. we still talk, now, a year later. took at long time though. Bars....cool guys dig smart chicks. don't let people tell you differently. i had a guy at a skateboard shop corner me, and persistently try to get my phone or email...he said "smart girls are so hot, i have always had a crush on my doctor...wow, Id like to marry...whoops..." he was funny. not isolated incident. don't be foolish, you are a commodity. if i guy can't hang with you being bright, then he probably isn't so bright himself.

 

[Hannibal Gabriel]

Hey, I only eat people when they deserve it.

 

[Dodge This]

I don't know what the original point of this thread is, but I'd like to share that dating someone in your class is a horrible idea. I started dating one of my classmates at the beginning of the year, it didn't work out after about a month, and now we don't talk to each other--ever. It's weird every time we see each other and it's been about 3 months now. Med school classes are just too small and you see each other way too much. It just isn't worth it.

 

[Yah-E]

I know that you guys have said "inter-class" dating, but what about "inter-program" dating? For those of you have a dental or other health professional programs within your school, take advantage of that! As a future dental student, I'm open to all the fine and smart ladies in the health profession (dental hygiene, nursing, medical, pharmacy, PAs, and optimetry students)! That's funny that "I'm a medical student" thing doesn't really work, it seem to work pretty well for me when I just say "I'll be going to a dental school!" then we proceed to talk about how much she prefers straight and white teeth in men and blah, blah, blah...but I get a number and a date or two! Maybe you guys can start to intermingle with other students in other programs to open up your choices of smart potential "dates" for next weekend! Just a thought! And by the way ladies, FYI, I would totally ask you out and do the hanging out and the dating thing if I was at your schools as a dental student!

 

[Katie]

unfortunately, most of the dental students at our school are very competitive and anti-social. socializing between med students and dental students is usually discouraged. as for whether or not you want to date another classmate, that's your business; i don't think people need to be on here telling others who they should date. the one definite intraclass couple here live in the same building and were not at all interested in each other for the first month of school, but now they get along great and seem very happy together.