Hi everyone,
Joined the forum in order to ask a dating question - 13yo me would strongly disapprove. I'd like some input particularly from older students, interns, specialists.
An atypical med student, previously worked in research, science but not related to medicine, decided to leave it and apply to med school for a variety of reasons, and I love it.
I’ve been going to my doctor, at her private practice, since I was a teenager, while I was on my mother’s work health plan. Now that I’m not on it, whenever I need the doctor, I go to the health center (part of the national health service in my country).
My private practice doctor is also my NHS family doctor. However, when I go there, her intern is the one who sees me.
So far, I’ve only needed him to verify that my health condition complied with some criteria for getting into medical school, and again the same thing almost 2 years later for a new work opportunity I’m undertaking simultaneously.
In a few days, I’ll be going to see if a sun spot I had never noticed before needs to be checked.
I’m kind of uncomfortable. He’s very attractive, has no rings on his fingers, remembered details about me from one year to the next that wouldn’t be on the file, and kind of smiles like he’s trying not to smile, seemed kind of curious about me.
So, I’ll go to the appointment, I’ll probably be seen by him again, but I’ll be telling him I want to be seen by my long time doctor, my official family doctor, in the future.
After that, I won’t be seeing him again - no friends in common, never seen him outside of his office. I'd like to get to know him and suspect we’d get along well.
If you've read this far into my boring endless post, my questions:
1 - Am I completely imagining his holding back some potential flirting and curiosity, or could it be a thing? Bearing in mind I’ve *never* had crushes on teachers, professors, doctors, etc. I don’t even tend to become interested easily, and when I do, I can tell there’s mutual interest, and it's eventually declared by the other person. Here, I felt a similar sense of humour, felt a little tension, started noticing he was attractive and felt reciprocality. Also, I’ve noticed, since I got into medical school, doctors kind of treat me in a collegial way, some actually use the word colleague, so I gather he doesn’t see me as just a patient, but as a future colleague as well.
2 - If I’m not imagining things, after he becomes my ex-doctor-who-only-saw-me-3-times-and-2-of-them-were-paperwork, would it be completely insane of me to add him on facebook, where his public posts are photos of himself alone, or with a group of friends, while his social circle seems to be composed of people who include their SOs in the profile photo?
3 - If I’m not imagining things, and if I do add him, and if he accepts, what the hell do I say to him? I’ve never taken the initiative in pursuing someone, can you tell? -_-
Joined the forum in order to ask a dating question - 13yo me would strongly disapprove. I'd like some input particularly from older students, interns, specialists.
An atypical med student, previously worked in research, science but not related to medicine, decided to leave it and apply to med school for a variety of reasons, and I love it.
I’ve been going to my doctor, at her private practice, since I was a teenager, while I was on my mother’s work health plan. Now that I’m not on it, whenever I need the doctor, I go to the health center (part of the national health service in my country).
My private practice doctor is also my NHS family doctor. However, when I go there, her intern is the one who sees me.
So far, I’ve only needed him to verify that my health condition complied with some criteria for getting into medical school, and again the same thing almost 2 years later for a new work opportunity I’m undertaking simultaneously.
In a few days, I’ll be going to see if a sun spot I had never noticed before needs to be checked.
I’m kind of uncomfortable. He’s very attractive, has no rings on his fingers, remembered details about me from one year to the next that wouldn’t be on the file, and kind of smiles like he’s trying not to smile, seemed kind of curious about me.
So, I’ll go to the appointment, I’ll probably be seen by him again, but I’ll be telling him I want to be seen by my long time doctor, my official family doctor, in the future.
After that, I won’t be seeing him again - no friends in common, never seen him outside of his office. I'd like to get to know him and suspect we’d get along well.
If you've read this far into my boring endless post, my questions:
1 - Am I completely imagining his holding back some potential flirting and curiosity, or could it be a thing? Bearing in mind I’ve *never* had crushes on teachers, professors, doctors, etc. I don’t even tend to become interested easily, and when I do, I can tell there’s mutual interest, and it's eventually declared by the other person. Here, I felt a similar sense of humour, felt a little tension, started noticing he was attractive and felt reciprocality. Also, I’ve noticed, since I got into medical school, doctors kind of treat me in a collegial way, some actually use the word colleague, so I gather he doesn’t see me as just a patient, but as a future colleague as well.
2 - If I’m not imagining things, after he becomes my ex-doctor-who-only-saw-me-3-times-and-2-of-them-were-paperwork, would it be completely insane of me to add him on facebook, where his public posts are photos of himself alone, or with a group of friends, while his social circle seems to be composed of people who include their SOs in the profile photo?
3 - If I’m not imagining things, and if I do add him, and if he accepts, what the hell do I say to him? I’ve never taken the initiative in pursuing someone, can you tell? -_-
