I think I'm inclined to agree with you, but I would be careful with intonation, here. I also work in a low-income clinic, and I definitely understand how it's easy to roll your eyes at patients when they just can't understand why they have persistent cavities. But keep in mind that a lot of people in these populations are largely uneducated, they don't have educated friends posting health/wellness articles on their Facebook feeds, and what appears to be common sense to us is not so intuitive to them. Th average person sees a dentist twice a year (in California, DenitCal insurance only covers a prophy once a year). When they're drinking soda with their dinners, the last thing on their mind is, "Oh, my dentist is going to hate me." Also, keep in mind that many areas are food deserts, and eating potato chips and soda is much more accessible than fresh fruits and vegetables. I know of families who have to take 3 buses to get to their nearest full-service grocery store. When mom is close to payday, it's difficult to get all 4 young kids and herself onto 3 buses, fare, and then carry it all back.
My family struggled quite a bit, and I was not able to see a dentist myself from the time I was 11-12 until I was 27. We just didn't have the means. I generally took care of myself, but I very much remember crying from embarrassment when I had 3 cavities and a root canal. I haven't needed any interventions since, but it's because I had access to regular cleanings after this time because of insurance, a car, and a steady job.
I get what you're saying, though. People want to get frustrated at me all the time when their interventions aren't covered, and that's extremely irritating--but they still need care, and having a "GTFOOMO" attitude is kind of toxic and transparent. I think
@strep mutans point here is to just be careful to not get carried away with these thoughts, or working with patients with high need is going to be difficult. But then again if your plan is to work private practice in a nice area of town, maybe you won't need to even worry about it.