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I shut down the other forum since I felt it was unfair to have a forum where females couldn't speak. I think that should be on a different website not just a different thread. Plus in hind sight i kinda got carried away with some stuff and i realize that this was wrong.

I would like to offer an apology to Tink and to Diesel. They were just sharing their opinions and i should have created a more friendly enviorment(or atleast posted different questions that everyone could discuss) for them to share it. While I still meant most of what I said I don't think I should have asked you to stop posting.
 
swifteagle43 said:
I would like to offer an apology to Tink and to Diesel. They were just sharing their opinions and i should have created a more friendly enviorment(or atleast posted different questions that everyone could discuss) for them to share it. While I still meant most of what I said I don't think I should have asked you to stop posting.
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Awww. That's so sweet of you swifteagle 😍 Apology accepted 🙂
 
tinkerbelle said:
Awww. That's so sweet of you swifteagle 😍 Apology accepted 🙂
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Do I see a Bollywood movie in the making? I play the part of the gundo. ha
 
Does this remind anyone of those parties that your parents have - where the men go to one room and the women go to the other? :laugh: :laugh:
 
chanjurban said:
Does this remind anyone of those parties that your parents have - where the men go to one room and the women go to the other? :laugh: :laugh:
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lol...
 
swifteagle43 said:
I shut down the other forum since I felt it was unfair to have a forum where females couldn't speak. I think that should be on a different website not just a different thread. Plus in hind sight i kinda got carried away with some stuff and i realize that this was wrong.

I would like to offer an apology to Tink and to Diesel. They were just sharing their opinions and i should have created a more friendly enviorment(or atleast posted different questions that everyone could discuss) for them to share it. While I still meant most of what I said I don't think I should have asked you to stop posting.
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Um u cant kick us off our site
evo do something
::sad::
 
swifteagle43 said:
I shut down the other forum since I felt it was unfair to have a forum where females couldn't speak. I think that should be on a different website not just a different thread. Plus in hind sight i kinda got carried away with some stuff and i realize that this was wrong.

I would like to offer an apology to Tink and to Diesel. They were just sharing their opinions and i should have created a more friendly enviorment(or atleast posted different questions that everyone could discuss) for them to share it. While I still meant most of what I said I don't think I should have asked you to stop posting.
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aww thats ok
remember : 99% of the time i do not keep up with what others are saying
i do this to save time and my feelings 😉
works like a chhhhharm!
 
virilep said:
Do I see a Bollywood movie in the making? I play the part of the gundo. ha
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HAHAHAHAHA. I think they should one day make a movie in bollywood strictly from the point of the villan.

Make it like a comedy about a villan who just sucks at everything he does and then he finds love and stops being a villan. Kinda like a comedy romance.
 
Definite lounge thread in the making 👍
 
swifteagle43 said:
HAHAHAHAHA. I think they should one day make a movie in bollywood strictly from the point of the villan.

Make it like a comedy about a villan who just sucks at everything he does and then he finds love and stops being a villan. Kinda like a comedy romance.
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You just described me 😳
 
so getting back to this pre-med MD thing. I was thinking to myself how many desi girl doctors are not married. isn't it kinda crazy? I know 3 that aren't. I wonder how the whole thing works out. any thoughts ladies?
 
virilep said:
so getting back to this pre-med MD thing. I was thinking to myself how many desi girl doctors are not married. isn't it kinda crazy? I know 3 that aren't. I wonder how the whole thing works out. any thoughts ladies?
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I've experienced the opposite -- most female desi physicians I've met are married (to physicians of course, :laugh: ). My mom's a pediatrician (dad's an engineer -- woah, how could it be, how could it be?!).. Lots of my aunts are physicians and got married in medical school, and lots of my female cousins are doctors and either engaged or married with children. Most got engaged in medical school. Plus I've been traveling for interviews in different cities, and many times I've stayed with relatives, so I've gone to random desi get-togethers in these cities and once again met married desi female docs. There's hope yet, ladies! Seriously though, it definitely eased my worries... 👍
 
Ambs said:
I've experienced the opposite -- most female desi physicians I've met are married (to physicians of course, :laugh: ). My mom's a pediatrician (dad's an engineer -- woah, how could it be, how could it be?!).. Lots of my aunts are physicians and got married in medical school, and lots of my female cousins are doctors and either engaged or married with children. Most got engaged in medical school. Plus I've been traveling for interviews in different cities, and many times I've stayed with relatives, so I've gone to random desi get-togethers in these cities and once again met married desi female docs. There's hope yet, ladies! Seriously though, it definitely eased my worries... 👍
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I hope to marry a desi female physician. I don't think I could deal with a ditzy wife. I want someone wit my intelligence or higher. I am trying to pick a desi girl cause in my experience most of the white girls i know are somewhat ditzy(want another beer?) 🙂 There are intellectual & cute white girls but they go for the rich white guys or the hot white guys. 🙁
 
virilep said:
so getting back to this pre-med MD thing. I was thinking to myself how many desi girl doctors are not married. isn't it kinda crazy? I know 3 that aren't. I wonder how the whole thing works out. any thoughts ladies?
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a few things:

-i think many desi girl docs (or their controlling parents) want someone in that same income level (not for materialistic reasons, but for the ego/self-esteem of the average desi man, who may get insecure if his wife makes more than him)

- a lot of desi girl docs (or their controlling parents) want someone who also has higher education, whether it's a masters or phd in something

- many desi girl docs just keep going on ahead with their stuff, like going straight to residency, then fellowship, and finally when they get to an attending position, they feel relieved and ready to get married. Unfortunately, by old-school desi mentality, they are now too old.

disclaimer: the above is just from what i have seen. there are MANY exceptions.
 
swifteagle43 said:
I hope to marry a desi female physician. I don't think I could deal with a ditzy wife. I want someone wit my intelligence or higher. I am trying to pick a desi girl cause in my experience most of the white girls i know are somewhat ditzy(want another beer?) 🙂
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whoa dude....hold up with the horses. every race has their ditzy girls ;-) but i definately think the intelligence thing is important. i dunno about you guys and gals... but I'll give you an example of a common sense thing that if you go to india and get a girl/guy, for some reason isn't there. ok, so my cousins just got married in india last year and their wives came here in august. I went there for a couple weeks to hang out and one of the bhabi's put ice cream in the fridge instead of the freezer when they brought it back from the store.... now, even though I'd love my wife, I have a love for haagen daaz butter pecan ice cream. so see, it's just one simple little thing, but there are plenty of those little things that just don't make sense for me to go to india to find a wife (this is getting back to the other thread question). then I made a bet with my uncle, cuz we always play a game called spider solitaire on the computer, that if I can find a girl that can beat the game on the 4 suit deck (u'd know what i'm talkin about if you played the game) then I'd marry her. I wasn't for real, but just a joke that means something about intelligence/common sense. sorry..incessant rambling stopping...now.
 
virilep said:
whoa dude....hold up with the horses. every race has their ditzy girls ;-) but i definately think the intelligence thing is important. i dunno about you guys and gals... but I'll give you an example of a common sense thing that if you go to india and get a girl/guy, for some reason isn't there. ok, so my cousins just got married in india last year and their wives came here in august. I went there for a couple weeks to hang out and one of the bhabi's put ice cream in the fridge instead of the freezer when they brought it back from the store.... now, even though I'd love my wife, I have a love for haagen daaz butter pecan ice cream. so see, it's just one simple little thing, but there are plenty of those little things that just don't make sense for me to go to india to find a wife (this is getting back to the other thread question). then I made a bet with my uncle, cuz we always play a game called spider solitaire on the computer, that if I can find a girl that can beat the game on the 4 suit deck (u'd know what i'm talkin about if you played the game) then I'd marry her. I wasn't for real, but just a joke that means something about intelligence/common sense. sorry..incessant rambling stopping...now.
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So, do you mean Indian ladies don't know the difference between refrigerator and a freezer? 😕 How can you generalize such things? Any way, Good Luck in your life finding a partner (I mean it in most sincere way. No sarcasam).
 
no dude, i didn't generalize at all. I gave you an example of thing I found. i didn't say ALL of them are the same. chillax.
 
ufff why do these desi threads all the time end up being about desi guys, desi girls, marriage, abcds, fobs, etc
 
pakidoc said:
ufff why do these desi threads all the time end up being about desi guys, desi girls, marriage, abcds, fobs, etc
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well.. you just about coverered everything there is to talk about. "desi guys, desi girls, marriage, abcds, fobs, etc" got anything interesting to talk about that's within the thread topic? I don't mind talkin about it. how about them falcons?
 
virilep said:
well.. you just about coverered everything there is to talk about. "desi guys, desi girls, marriage, abcds, fobs, etc" got anything interesting to talk about that's within the thread topic? I don't mind talkin
about it. how about them falcons?
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Yeah I got something else to talk about. I want to go back and teach in Pakistan/India/Bangladesh. I was thinking of after practicing a few years of medicine to go back and teach.

You won't make as much money but hopefully your debt will be payed off(or you are going debt free straight outa medschool like me).

A lot of our parents got educated in pakistan/india/bangladesh and then abandoned the country in better lives for themselves. They often got free educations from the state. I think it would only be right that we go back and do some work to help the countries out. Has anyone else thought about going back?

Also I am interested in making a charity that goes back to south asia to build schools(and possibly houses) in poor areas with a low level of education. I don't know if any of you are interested in helping me but if you are PM me for details. Does anyone else want to do this project with me?
 
swifteagle43 said:
Yeah I got something else to talk about. I want to go back and teach in Pakistan/India/Bangladesh. I was thinking of after practicing a few years of medicine to go back and teach.

You won't make as much money but hopefully your debt will be payed off(or you are going debt free straight outa medschool like me).

A lot of our parents got educated in pakistan/india/bangladesh and then abandoned the country in better lives for themselves. They often got free educations from the state. I think it would only be right that we go back and do some work to help the countries out. Has anyone else thought about going back?

Also I am interested in making a charity that goes back to south asia to build schools(and possibly houses) in poor areas with a low level of education. I don't know if any of you are interested in helping me but if you are PM me for details. Does anyone else want to do this project with me?
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Some good ideas you got there.
Sure id be willing to help you out...
I was thinking of setting up a scholarship fund sorta thing whereby I can pay for the school and college education of kids back home who cant afford it. well, only if I have enough $ to do so one day...
 
Well...this is my first post on SDN (and found it a really good source of premed info) cause I just got into it and of course, being indian, due to curiosity I ended up reading the desi men thread a few days ago and through that I discovered ratedesi.com.

I don't know if anyone one else thought this, but all I could think was "wow...what a degradation of indian culture"... I don't know, maybe I just saw an unrepresentative sample of young indians in america (few of whom know how to speak it seems).

I don't think I'm better than anyone or anything...but I guess I haven't been exposed to a lot of indians other than family, growing up in a predominantly white town in western PA, going to a 1% minority college, etc.

Well, I was just randomly commenting cause there's so much damn snow and I haven't been able to do anything all day 🙁
 
Preeti09 said:
I don't know if anyone one else thought this, but all I could think was "wow...what a degradation of indian culture"...
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I'd agree with you on that!
Some of the posts in the recent desi threads are utterly ridiculous.
 
Swifteagle, where the purple dino gone?
 
pakidoc said:
Swifteagle, where the purple dino gone?
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Yo dude- the purple dino needed a rest. I was in party mode last semester(hence the hippo) but its time to start working out again(hence the monkey doing situps).

Anyway- I DEFINATELY want to setup a scholarship fund as well. If you want to get together we can definately do this!
 
I am a hopeless FOB !!
 
virilep said:
we always play a game called spider solitaire on the computer
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haha....I'm addicted to spider solitaire as a form of procrastination to the point where it's almost a problem... 😳
 
virilep said:
then I made a bet with my uncle, cuz we always play a game called spider solitaire on the computer, that if I can find a girl that can beat the game on the 4 suit deck (u'd know what i'm talkin about if you played the game) then I'd marry her.
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Preeti09 said:
haha....I'm addicted to spider solitaire as a form of procrastination to the point where it's almost a problem... 😳
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Do i see love in the air? Virlie can I start calling her bahbi yet? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
 
swifteagle43 said:
Do i see love in the air? Virlie can I start calling her bahbi yet?
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:laugh: 👍
 
swifteagle43 said:
Do i see love in the air? Virlie can I start calling her bahbi yet? :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
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actually we'll have them play the game against each other first/...But if virilep is a gentleman, he'll let preeti win anyways! :laugh: 😛 😉
 
priyanka said:
actually we'll have them play the game against each other first/...But if virilep is a gentleman, he'll let preeti win anyways! :laugh: 😛 😉
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whoa...hold up, hold your horses. she said she played it. she didn't say if she was good at it! 🙂 HAHA
 
swifteagle43 said:
Yeah I got something else to talk about. I want to go back and teach in Pakistan/India/Bangladesh. I was thinking of after practicing a few years of medicine to go back and teach.

You won't make as much money but hopefully your debt will be payed off(or you are going debt free straight outa medschool like me).

A lot of our parents got educated in pakistan/india/bangladesh and then abandoned the country in better lives for themselves. They often got free educations from the state. I think it would only be right that we go back and do some work to help the countries out. Has anyone else thought about going back?

Also I am interested in making a charity that goes back to south asia to build schools(and possibly houses) in poor areas with a low level of education. I don't know if any of you are interested in helping me but if you are PM me for details. Does anyone else want to do this project with me?
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I actually have this other goal in my life. for my gaam in india. so we'll see 🙂
 
I was back in India over break and I got a chance to see some of the
Drs practing out in the small villages. Its really tough so see because all of the doctors have just had enough of the corruption and they all want to come to the US. I decided that I have to go back once I am doctor. The scholarship sounds really good too. I know a couple of different groups back there who can coordinate it. Let me know if you were interested in that.


pakidoc said:
Some good ideas you got there.
Sure id be willing to help you out...
I was thinking of setting up a scholarship fund sorta thing whereby I can pay for the school and college education of kids back home who cant afford it. well, only if I have enough $ to do so one day...
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The thing i don't like about indian/pakistani culture is that it tries to copy america 100 percent.

bollywood (i..e Indian Idol WTF?!?!?!?), this ratedesi.com crap <----- You're all sluts on this website if you do it, faux english accents, and going to mcdonalds because its the cool thing to do. a lot of the "pop" music in india/pakistan is so bad that it pisses me off because my mom watches it all the tiem. If this is modernization of pakistan/india i don't like it at all. It's making the both countries into a sort of botched version of hollywood.
 
Hermit MMood said:
The thing i don't like about indian/pakistani culture is that it tries to copy america 100 percent.

bollywood (i..e Indian Idol WTF?!?!?!?), this ratedesi.com crap <----- You're all sluts on this website if you do it, faux english accents, and going to mcdonalds because its the cool thing to do. a lot of the "pop" music in india/pakistan is so bad that it pisses me off because my mom watches it all the tiem. If this is modernization of pakistan/india i don't like it at all. It's making the both countries into a sort of botched version of hollywood.
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Indian Idol !! hahaha is that for real?? when did that start?
 
Hermit MMood said:
my mom has satellite so she gets channels form pakistan and india.

Indian Idol is real though, i dunno when it started.


http://www.setindia.com/shows/shows_inside.php?id=43

There, when i saw that picture, i just wanted to punch all their lame-brain faux-celebrity images +pissed+
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lol- yeah i don't like those phonies that try to act all americanized that never grew up here. They go like "yaaar want to go paahrty?" :laugh: :laugh:


The best thing a foreigner can have to hold dignity is to remain true to his/her roots and to learn with an open mind. The "fake it until you make it" mentality is the reason why we have so many of these fake people.

I am sure Flash's parents are one of those people 🙂 "Paahrty yhar? 👍 👍 "
 
haha... i don't see tinke, junebug, and diesel in the thread anymore. oh well. the memories...
 
swifteagle43 said:
lol- yeah i don't like those phonies that try to act all americanized that never grew up here. They go like "yaaar want to go paahrty?" :laugh: :laugh:
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Has any one seen the movie "Wheres the party yaar". Hilarious abcd/fob type movie made in houston, 2002.
 
swifteagle43 said:
lol- yeah i don't like those phonies that try to act all americanized that never grew up here. They go like "yaaar want to go paahrty?" :laugh: :laugh:


The best thing a foreigner can have to hold dignity is to remain true to his/her roots and to learn with an open mind. The "fake it until you make it" mentality is the reason why we have so many of these fake people.

I am sure Flash's parents are one of those people 🙂 "Paahrty yhar? 👍 👍 "
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This is flash's "fake it until you make it" dad responding - I share my son's assessment that you're a tool. 😎 And if you continue to feel the need to bring me, my mom or dad up in your silly threads, please note that it's flash, not Flash. Tell us again about your SAT score and GPA, all-knowing guardian of remaining true to one's root and being "real", great closer of one lame thread to start another lame one with the same purpose.
 
Hi ladies,

I'm curious if anyone here is from the caribbean (Trini) with East Indian/South Asian roots?
 
I fully concur that you cannot stereotype a woman's intelligence level based on her race. I know a plethora of very smart white females, and some desi ignoramuses.

I think that most people are looking for a mate who can understand them and who are interested in similiar things. I mean, I am dating a guy who is a double major in chemistry and computer science. I am a biology and chemistry major. We have common interests and for the most part, understand eachother's interests and vocabulary. I also think that each person should feel like the other is smarter. This will help you feel like you are dating up and to never degrade the other person. It also kind of helps as far as the trust thing is concerned.

As far as salaries go, I think each person has their own preferences to how they want their budget to look like. My roommate is practically engaged to a marine, who has nothing beyond a high school education, and his mother only has a 3rd grade education. The good news? My roommate is lucky enough that after she marries this guy, she gets to put him through police academy and they will support his parents for the rest of their lives.

This idea does not appeal to me at all, but she says that she is in love with him, so it will be worth it. I kind of think that as a principle, the man should be the one who brings home more money. That is just me. I mean, I intend to work, and I know that I am going to bring home a hefty check. So, I think it just depends on the person, and if they feel like showing love for someone is monetary or not...
 
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