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Last week as a volunteer I had an incident with a patient’s mom that said I was rude. She didn’t really give a reason she just said something along the lines of “not getting my vibe” and told me to go away. This is the first time a patient or relative had a problem with me (I have 130+ hours here), however, this is within 3 weeks of an incident where a ED nurse thought I was being disrespectful (which I didn’t mean to be and already talked to the volunteer director). The volunteer director heard about this more recent issue and wants to meet up again and thinks I’m struggling as a volunteer.
So has anyone else been called out for not being nice enough or providing good customer service to patients? I didn’t really think much of it at the time and the next patient I helped get imaged liked me enough to ask me what to do with her stress fracture.
I approached her and her kid and told them I was going to lead them to X-ray, then I walked her and her kid down to X-ray. After the techs were done I was supposed to lead them out and I asked if they were ready and that’s when she told me I was rude. Maybe I walked too fast? Idk.
This is sarcasm right? However the nurse I “disrespected” actually thought that it was a big red flag.
No. I am being truthful.I approached her and her kid and told them I was going to lead them to X-ray, then I walked her and her kid down to X-ray. After the techs were done I was supposed to lead them out and I asked if they were ready and that’s when she told me I was rude. Maybe I walked too fast? Idk.
This is sarcasm right? However the nurse I “disrespected” actually thought that it was a big red flag.
Sure... except I act how I did around every single patient and this is the first one that’s had a problem with me.
What happened with the nurse was that he saw me transporting patients with the bed low and told me I should raise it so it might be more comfortable. I don’t remember what my exact reaction was but I think I just nodded said something like “yeah sure.” That was the red flag that he saw.
Fair enough. I’m not sure she complained either. I think the reason anyone knows anyway is because I told the Xray techs about it.
I didn’t think it was very important, just like a friendly suggestion like it might make it just a bit easier for me. And I don’t remember what I said. I maybe whispered a “thanks” but I’m not sure.
So... 1 person it’s his/her problem. 2 people it’s my problem? 2 is where you draw the line?
I can comprehend it, but I don’t think it’s me.
Given your posts here, it's probably you. But you do you.
Still, try to ask for feedback... what is done is done. In order to give the volunteer director a better impression of yourself you gotta appear humble.Oh it doesn't bother me much in and of itself. What bothers me more than I like is this might make the volunteer director think I'm a big dbag (which I don't think I am) and maybe I could lose to opportunity to volunteer here.
"Yeah sure" is all you said to the nurse after he gave you that advice?
Did you say "thank you"?
Your description could give others the impression that you were being abrupt or sarcastic.
Did you try to rectify by transporting patients at the bed height suggested by the nurse?
It wasn’t with a patient, and it’s a he. He just kinda stopped me in what I was doing which was either cleaning a room or getting from A to B (I don’t remember, it was 8 in the morning). He just came beside me and said “you know how you’re pushing that bed.” I thought it sounded pretty casual but okay.
And no one thinks this is really petty?
Tiny little details that may seem completely insignificant to someone with little to no experience in a field may not be as unimportant as they seem once you've gained more appreciation for why things are done in that very specific manner.And no one thinks this is really petty?
And no one thinks this is really petty?
I agree. There needs to be no “but” unless you have a reason to disagree, ie a journal article stating that it is not the best way to do something, and in this case, you want to bring it up one on one and after the situation is resolved.How is this petty? Would you rather be ordered to do something or rather have someone casually recommend it? A recommendation from someone with more experience than you should be interpreted as "you should probably do it that way next time". Honestly, from reading your responses on this thread, I feel like there's some social disconnect and issues with receiving criticism here that you need to figure out. It's hard to really say, but every time someone tries to give you constructive feedback, you appear to accept it but then state reasons why you still feel like you didn't do anything wrong.
Was it a "yeah, sure" followed by you continuing to do it the wrong way (so basically you dismissing the advice)? Because that actually is a huge red flag.What happened with the nurse was that he saw me transporting patients with the bed low and told me I should raise it so it might be more comfortable. I don’t remember what my exact reaction was but I think I just nodded said something like “yeah sure.” That was the red flag that he saw.
Did you heed their advice the next time?No. I wasn’t near a transport bed or a patient at the time.
You seem to be finding an excuse to everyones potential explanation. The only person that can properly address this issue is YOURSELF.Yeah, but he already told the volunteer director about it, nor was he there the next time I was there before I switched departments.
I’m different on the internet than in person.
He was trying to save your back, years of doing that and you’ll do real damage to your back. Always use proper body mechanics.It was the height of a hospital bed that was maybe too low for my height. I like to keep them low for a lower center of gravity. I have had heavier patients lean on the rails and when I raised the bed and started pushing it would sometimes feel like it might tip over. It don’t know if it actually would, but it did feel unstable.
It wasn’t with a patient, and it’s a he. He just kinda stopped me in what I was doing which was either cleaning a room or getting from A to B (I don’t remember, it was 8 in the morning). He just came beside me and said “you know how you’re pushing that bed.” I thought it sounded pretty casual but okay.
As a disabled veteran who DID use proper body mechanics both in the military and as a nurse for the most part, he’s not joking.He told me that. Something like “a nurse with a bad back is an unemployed nurse.” I thought he was joking or exaggerating.
My late sister-in-law was a nurse. Your guy was 100% spot on.He told me that. Something like “a nurse with a bad back is an unemployed nurse.” I thought he was joking or exaggerating.
This fiasco might save you from 2-4 years of med school debt.Terminated from volunteer position. Fantastic...
I don't think this is going to stop me.
Whenever I see somebody say this online I always think that they are masking their true personality that they display online with a facade in reality to get what they wantI’m different on the internet than in person.
I think I'm pretty good with interviews. But what exactly is it with my personality on here? I'd like to know.
It was the height of a hospital bed that was maybe too low for my height. I like to keep them low for a lower center of gravity. I have had heavier patients lean on the rails and when I raised the bed and started pushing it would sometimes feel like it might tip over. It don’t know if it actually would, but it did feel unstable.
Your attitude on here wreaks of entitlement.I think I'm pretty good with interviews. But what exactly is it with my personality on here? I'd like to know.
Where? I don't think I said anywhere I deserved anything or was owed anything?
I can admit it's my fault... when I know it's my fault. There's a lot of subjectivity here.
I didn't dismiss them. I was providing context to some of the replies. The first few replies reinforced what I already thought so yeah when I came back I thought I was right. It did take a while for me to think that I might have not been as friendly as I thought.
I don't think my replies are combative. I don't think I was hostile at all.
Lack of humility? I know as a volunteer I'm the lowest of the low. I don't see how I was arrogant in any of this?
I can tell you exactly why that nurse acted the way he did. He pretty much thought you were saying “F*^% you”Nope. This was my first actual work/volunteer gig as an adult.
That’s our point, you interpret it that way, but maybe other people don’t. Very rarely do I hear “sure” and think “ah he took in everything I just said”.Huh? I've always interpreted "sure" means "yes I'll do it."
Huh? I've always interpreted "sure" means "yes I'll do it."
I'm sure you did mean it as a joke (although, c'mon man that's too far) but think about how you come across to us saying those kinds of things. You come off as VERY immature.Did you not see the emoji? It was meant as a joke. I have no hard feelings toward her at all.