Do you still send thank you notes even after you've gotten in?

[funshine]

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I really didn't think I'd get in, and was planning to send thank you notes only after I got waitlisted...i.e. I didn't want to put any "pick me! I LOVED your school's blah blah blah" brown-nosing crap in my notes. But instead, I got in, my interviewers have sent me congratulatory emails, and I feel embarrassed about my bad manners. I've already replied to their emails. Do you think sending thank you notes NOW is still in order? I don't want to be misconstrued as the *doesn't send thank you notes unless she's accepted* type...I think I'd rather just look like I have bad manners. Seriously though...which would you do?

 

[etown]

I really didn't think I'd get in, and was planning to send thank you notes only after I got waitlisted...i.e. I didn't want to put any "pick me! I LOVED your school's blah blah blah" brown-nosing crap in my notes. But instead, I got in, my interviewers have sent me congratulatory emails, and I feel embarrassed about my bad manners. I've already replied to their emails. Do you think sending thank you notes NOW is still in order? I don't want to be misconstrued as the *doesn't send thank you notes unless she's accepted* type...I think I'd rather just look like I have bad manners. Seriously though...which would you do?

Don't worry about it, they didn't. Honestly, we don't even know what they do with the thank you notes, and you've politely and graciously replied to the e-mails, so don't sweat it.

 

[Rafa]

If they send you congrats, you can reply, or not. But I wouldn't feel obligated to write them fresh tqs for interviewing you. If I were an interviewer, that would just look strange. I wouldn't think less of you - I'd just attribute your thanks to your thinking I gave you a good review, and got you in. But I wouldn't notice if you didn't send me one.

 

[funshine]

If I were an interviewer, that would just look strange.

Yeah, that's what I was thinking too. Thanks for the confirmation! 🙂 When I get neurotic, I can't trust my own sense of what's strange/unnecessary and what's not.

 

[DrKitty]

In addition to sending thank-you letters to your interviewers post-interview, is it good manners also to send thank-yous to these people once you are accepted to that school? anybody has done that?