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Happy house husbands, they exist.
A lot of women become PAs/nurses because of this exact reason. I know one woman who regrets becoming a doctor because she had to exit the field after having a child and had a TON of loans.
Why would a woman have to leave medicine because she had a child? There are women having children DURING med school and doing well. Were there special circumstances that made her quit?
I don't know if you have any children (I don't) but from what I understand they need a TON of attention.
I don't think this applies here. This is for doctors who want to meet other doctors.
For single pre-meds? Do you think you'll meet your future husband/wife in med school? Do you prefer someone in another field? Disregard looks, personality, bank account, etc. Who's hoping that med school has other perks like meeting their McDreamy?
Mass Effect 3 got delayed to 2012 (-__________________-)
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Happy house husbands, they exist.
Define "doing well". How much time do they have to take care of their children while becoming a doctor.
She decided that she would rather spend her days taking care of her children rather then practicing medicine. I don't know if you have any children (I don't) but from what I understand they need a TON of attention.
It's not like children have never been successfully raised by other family members. I know, for example, that if I end up marrying another doctor, my parents (and grandparents as well) would love to spend as much time with any kids I have as possible. It poses unique challenges, of course, but they certainly aren't insurmountable.
It takes a village to raise a child, as the saying goes. We don't bother family too often for childcare, we just ask my mom to babysit every few weekends so we can have a date. If my in-laws (who are retired) were local, though, they'd probably be watching Chicklet every day. I wish they hadn't moved so far away. We'd have so much more money.
It takes a village to raise a child, as the saying goes.
It's not like children have never been successfully raised by other family members. I know, for example, that if I end up marrying another doctor, my parents (and grandparents as well) would love to spend as much time with any kids I have as possible. It poses unique challenges, of course, but they certainly aren't insurmountable.
I know! I'm disappointed. I was hoping we'd get it for Christmas, but as long as it's out that I can play it during the summer between M1 and M2 I'll be happy.
My husband wants to work from home but our kids will still go to daycare and then school. But if they need to come home sick, he can get them easier than I can, and he will be there when they get home from school more often than I will, get them a snack and set them up to do their homework. I'm hoping I can make my specialty choice work with my family life fairly easily, but I know I won't really have that option during post-graduate training, and our oldest will be starting grade school the same year I start residency.
Sure they do. They also can go to daycare and then, obviously, school.
I was working PT while I was studying for the MCAT. I got to study on days I was home, and my daughter (who was less than 18 months old at the time) was with me. I only needed to really be away from her when I was taking practice tests, at which point we'd try to get her to nap and if not, my husband would keep her occupied in another room. I also finished my pre-reqs when she was an infant (I had her a week after fall finals and went back to finish my last 2 pre-reqs when she was 3 weeks old). I did more than alright. Ask me in three months how I'm doing in medical school, but I'm not particularly worried.
It takes a village to raise a child, as the saying goes. We don't bother family too often for childcare, we just ask my mom to babysit every few weekends so we can have a date. If my in-laws (who are retired) were local, though, they'd probably be watching Chicklet every day. I wish they hadn't moved so far away. We'd have so much more money.
Becoming a doctor is more then just a 9-5 sort of thing. Daycare and school only go so far (And I would think that daycare is a far worse option then having a mother take care of them on a daily basis until kindergarten)
From talking to other doctors they have had to miss tons of children's activities in order to maintain their spot. (At least they had their mother to go to these events with).
I would like to ask a current doctor or med school student how they realistically do this with two parents who have such a high demanding work load.
Both of my parents are physicians and were busy passing their USMLEs and doing their residencies/specializations after we moved to the US. We are lucky we had my grandparents to take care of us. You make it work. Like I said, I, personally, would not have had my parents do it any other way. Yes, there were music recitals and athletic competitions that were missed (one of my parents couldn't get off for my HS graduation even and at that point was an attending), but really in the grand scheme of things there are things that matter to me so much more. My parents have always been my biggest supporters, and they were always trying to be there/there when I really needed them. I know that they'll always have my back and that I can contact them if I need someone to talk to or if I need help.
Yes, it's nice to always be there for your kids, but that's not always possible, and it definitely doesn't mean that your kids will necessarily grow up unhappy. It's just a little different, that's all.
You are an exception and FAR from the rule. I'm not worried about the kids being "unhappy" as much as I am worried about society.
This is a post from another forum that sums up my thoughts about 2 parents working:
I have every right to say that a majority of today's kids have little or no respect for authority. I see it every damn day. I have a 9 year old and he's exposed to the other children in the neighborhood. Keeping in mind that this is a nicer neighborhood, not slums.. inner city or full of section 8 families. We have Trenton down the street, age 8 who flips off cars that get mad at him for not moving off the road. He gives lip to adults when they correct him, yesterday is was tearing up a phone book and littering down the road. Simon, age 9 who had the cops over because he pulled a big ass bowie knife on another kid and threatened him. Cameron and Jojo, both 7 or 8 who are bullies. Payne who is a compulsive liar and downright rude.
At hockey we have kids who are a tad better off financially, they are the 'instant gratification' children. They get what they want NOW and throw tantrums if they don't get it. Have everything handed to them, backtalk their parents etc.
None of the children in the first group have ANY parental supervision. They walk out of their homes at 9 AM on the weekends and are still seen roaming the streets at close to 10 PM. Schooldays it's after school till very late. No one checks on them, no one monitors where they go or who they spend time with.
I'm in retail stores daily where I see kids pulling things off the shelves, opening things only to have parents throw them back on the shelves, throw tantrums because they can't have a certain cereal. Parents hand them the cereal.
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but no way in hell does my kid get away with that. I've had several people on the block tell me he's the most well behaved kid around, polite and respectful.
I was raised that way. You respect your elders, you say please and thank you. You ask for something knowing you don't always get it.. be thankful when you do and don't throw a fit when you don't.
You're expected to be polite and respectful to teachers and other students.
So much of the lack of parenting is due to 2 parents working. No one has time for their kids. They parents think it falls to the school system or to society to teach them right from wrong or how to deal with people. The schools are so handcuffed by what they are and are not allowed to do it's ridiculous !
I have friends that are teachers and they've been told not to grade papers in red ink because red is a sign of anger and it causes depression or feelings of under achievement in some students. WTF. No child left behind blows and the fact that corporal punishment was banned.. terrible move. The kids have no reason to fear or respect the authorities at the school.
This woman had every right to defend herself by striking that student. He's bigger than her and chances are if he hits her first, he could do serious and permanent damage to a 64 year old woman.
Until you are out there as a parent and seeing what is going on, you don't have much of a leg to stand on where parenting is concerned. Overall, the parenting of the last 20 years has gone terribly wrong. Kids know you can't hit them in public. They use that and it's bulls***
Daycare and school only go so far (And I would think that daycare is a far worse option then having a mother take care of them on a daily basis until kindergarten)
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I agree that kids aren't as respectful as they were in the past, and I agree that a non-parent can't really answer the question. However, to blame it on two parents working is simply ignoring the actual problem. Two parents who work could raise excellent children, and a couple with a parent who stays at home may raise terrible children. More a matter of the quality of the parents.
So much of the lack of parenting is due to 2 parents working. No one has time for their kids.
My goal is to marry a CRNA/NP/PA (generally younger than MD/DO at date of completion) before the end of 2nd year. That way I can have nice things through medical school and residency.
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I'm not joking
Yes, because having 2 working parents has anything to do with a child being polite and respectful, and working parents cannot possibly equal attentive parents. GMAFB.
However, I completely agree with the bolded above.
You think having a full time job with 8+ hour shifts and always being on call + being a full time parent is easier/more reasonable then just being a full time parent?
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What is scary is I met a early 30s extremely handsome male doc who was an anesthesiologist and could not fathom why he was still single....is it really tht hard for a male doc to meet women? Or perhaps it's selectiveness? It boggles my mind.
haha yess i sure hope soo =]
Marriage? No thanks. There's been too much relationship drama in my life already.
All I need is some strong scotch whisky and a loyal dog.
probably not
are there even hot girls in medical school? And by hot, i mean 8/10+?
Inb4 "its not about looks"