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Hey all, sorry for the novel. There is a tl;dr at the bottom. A family member put in me in very precarious situation the other day when she essentially asked me if I think her son might have autism. Being an MS4, I started with the standard "I am in no way qualified to answer your question." After that I told her the truth, which was that I thought it was really unlikely, but I haven't had the proper training to tell her anything useful. I did not add that if she thinks it's an issue she should go have him evaluated, which is where I could use some sage advice.
Quick overview: 7 yo M only child to older parents (late 50s). No SPMHx, FHx of schizoid and depression (maternal uncle and grandmother respectively). Bright kid, skipped a grade, doing well in school. *Very* social child (likes to tell jokes, be goofy, outgoing), no repetitive behaviors or obsessions, negligible witnessed preoccupation with order but wnl from my [limited] experience although parents claim he is moderately preoccupied with sameness/order. Makes appropriate eye contact for age.
So here is the meat of my situation: after a few days together, I think his parents are rewarding/reinforcing behavior that could be misconstrued by others as being autistic. Case in point: kids spills his juice on the table in a restaurant, starts turning red, holding back tears, crosses his arms and is visibly upset. He clearly states, "now I can't drink my juice," "I want more juice," and jesters to his mother when the waitress comes by to make sure she knows to bring him more. The parents (and my four year old son) wipe up the table while the kid is sulking. The parents tell the kid he is embarrassed and proceed to tell the whole table that he gets very upset when things go wrong. Instead of trying to deescalate or teach perspective, the parents seem to enforce/enable him. The pattern I see is: kid gets upset, parents ascribe a feeling, ignore the actual issue, missed teaching opportunity and the kid knows how to manipulate them for attention or a desired result if he doesn't get what he wants/something goes wrong. They're teaching/rewarding him to be rigid and inflexible. Combine that with his intelligence and I can understand while his teachers might think he's autistic.
Tl;dr
Parents seem to be enforcing/enabling rigid and inflexible behavior in 7yo M. Teachers are concerned kid is autistic, mother asked for my opinion.
Thoughts? I know early intervention is key, but are there any tips I could give to the parents on what to look for in a professional when seeking assistance? Do practitioners normally do a family assessment? Also, CAP is my area of interest and if there are any good reads for this please let me know, thanks!
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Quick overview: 7 yo M only child to older parents (late 50s). No SPMHx, FHx of schizoid and depression (maternal uncle and grandmother respectively). Bright kid, skipped a grade, doing well in school. *Very* social child (likes to tell jokes, be goofy, outgoing), no repetitive behaviors or obsessions, negligible witnessed preoccupation with order but wnl from my [limited] experience although parents claim he is moderately preoccupied with sameness/order. Makes appropriate eye contact for age.
So here is the meat of my situation: after a few days together, I think his parents are rewarding/reinforcing behavior that could be misconstrued by others as being autistic. Case in point: kids spills his juice on the table in a restaurant, starts turning red, holding back tears, crosses his arms and is visibly upset. He clearly states, "now I can't drink my juice," "I want more juice," and jesters to his mother when the waitress comes by to make sure she knows to bring him more. The parents (and my four year old son) wipe up the table while the kid is sulking. The parents tell the kid he is embarrassed and proceed to tell the whole table that he gets very upset when things go wrong. Instead of trying to deescalate or teach perspective, the parents seem to enforce/enable him. The pattern I see is: kid gets upset, parents ascribe a feeling, ignore the actual issue, missed teaching opportunity and the kid knows how to manipulate them for attention or a desired result if he doesn't get what he wants/something goes wrong. They're teaching/rewarding him to be rigid and inflexible. Combine that with his intelligence and I can understand while his teachers might think he's autistic.
Tl;dr
Parents seem to be enforcing/enabling rigid and inflexible behavior in 7yo M. Teachers are concerned kid is autistic, mother asked for my opinion.
Thoughts? I know early intervention is key, but are there any tips I could give to the parents on what to look for in a professional when seeking assistance? Do practitioners normally do a family assessment? Also, CAP is my area of interest and if there are any good reads for this please let me know, thanks!
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