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I feel inferior to my partner of 2 years because they're in medicine. I feel like their equal in all other respects. But the fact that their MD gives them SO MUCH social value makes me feel like nothing I can do will ever make me equal to them. I'm afraid that my work will always be overshadowed by their MD. And when I think about next year, when they're making 50K in residency and I'm eating ramen in grad school, it looks really bleak. Their privileged position - socially, financially - feels like this enormous hurdle. Right now, I'm taking on so many activities and saying "yes" to every opportunity and it is frankly exhausting. But what's worse is not being able to share my successes with my partner for fear of them seeing them as challenges to "beat". In my mind they've already won because their MD warrants no defense; they're basically a saint in the public eye. This is taking a toll on our relationship.
Have you gone through something similar? How did you overcome these feelings of inferiority? How did you and your partner stop competing with one another? How did you learn to work as a team, instead of as enemies racing to stay ahead of the other?
Have you gone through something similar? How did you overcome these feelings of inferiority? How did you and your partner stop competing with one another? How did you learn to work as a team, instead of as enemies racing to stay ahead of the other?
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