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Dear Snow White (and all the women out there who have been broken hearted),
I don't know how old you are but I think as you get older, you will see things in a different light and you will realize that what happened had to happen for a reason...so that someone better would come along. There is a reason for everything that happens in your life whether you believe it or not.
A friend of mine once told me a memorable phrase, " It takes a jeweler to know what a jewel is so if a man doesn't appreciate who you are it's because he is not a jeweler."
I think the worst thing you can ever do is to cry over a broken relationship, neglect yourself and believe it is the end of your life. Never waste or shed a tear for one who would never cry for you. I had my share of tears and I vowed that I would never let it happen again. All the experiences I had only made me stronger and more independent so that I would never bow my head in weakness to any man ever again...never send love poems to a man again...never cook for a man again...never idolize a man no matter how attractive or seemingly nice or charming he appeared. I promised myself never to show how I felt without being certain of how a man felt for me in return...in other words, I still believe that man is the agressor and women are to be pursued...no matter how educated women are , we will never be the same as men.
The feminist movement has completely given women the wrong impression that we are equal...yes, men and women are equal in terms of their human rights , however, biologically, just like other creatures in the animal kingdom, males have to work hard to impress the opposite sex to prove that he is worthy as a mate and potential father of your progeny !Laugh if you want but it is biological and you can't fight what is natural!
Men need to be challenged! They need to work hard to earn your respect and love! Women who pursue men are likely to end up in a failed relationship somewhere down the line...maybe in one month, a few years or 30 years...when women demonstrate more initial interest towards a man than a woman does, the relationship is doomed to fail. Men want to feel like they have won the lottery and are dating the prom queen! They don't want a woman who has no self respect or self dignity and believes she can never meet another man who will ever love her!
We are so deluded when we are young. We get so attached to these ideals that we forget to live our lives. Snow White, the best thing you can do right now is live as passionately as you can. Keep yourself occupied! Live with a vengeance everyday! Get involved not only with your career but with community/volunteer work and hobbies or perhaps volunteer to become a doctor in the third world with organizations such as "Doctors Without Borders". You don't only find love from a man but from your family, friends, patients, co-workers and other people who cross your path and most importantly...love from within. I don't know if you believe in God, but if you don't , one day you may realize that the most important love in the world is that between you and your Divine Creator as well as self-love. If you have a lot of faith in God, you won't feel like you are really missing something because God's love is unconditional and no man can ever match that.
I think being single will give you the chance to explore and get to know yourself . It is an opportunity to seize! An opportunity to evolve and become more introspective and spiritual. If you have faith, you won't feel as sad nor as lonely. And besides, one day or another , you will be separated from loved ones on the earthly plane but not from God...God's love is there from the moment you breathe your first breath till the last breath you expire and after.
Anyhow, Snow White, remember, there is "plenty of fish in the sea" so go out and swim! Live! There is more to life then men...there is so much more! Life is too short to shed tears for people who can't appreciate the jewel that you are!
Last words of wisdom from my mom (and most mothers I think ) , "When you seek you will not find but when you live your life and least expect it, the right one will be searching you."
I don't know how old you are but I think as you get older, you will see things in a different light and you will realize that what happened had to happen for a reason...so that someone better would come along. There is a reason for everything that happens in your life whether you believe it or not.
A friend of mine once told me a memorable phrase, " It takes a jeweler to know what a jewel is so if a man doesn't appreciate who you are it's because he is not a jeweler."
I think the worst thing you can ever do is to cry over a broken relationship, neglect yourself and believe it is the end of your life. Never waste or shed a tear for one who would never cry for you. I had my share of tears and I vowed that I would never let it happen again. All the experiences I had only made me stronger and more independent so that I would never bow my head in weakness to any man ever again...never send love poems to a man again...never cook for a man again...never idolize a man no matter how attractive or seemingly nice or charming he appeared. I promised myself never to show how I felt without being certain of how a man felt for me in return...in other words, I still believe that man is the agressor and women are to be pursued...no matter how educated women are , we will never be the same as men.
The feminist movement has completely given women the wrong impression that we are equal...yes, men and women are equal in terms of their human rights , however, biologically, just like other creatures in the animal kingdom, males have to work hard to impress the opposite sex to prove that he is worthy as a mate and potential father of your progeny !Laugh if you want but it is biological and you can't fight what is natural!
Men need to be challenged! They need to work hard to earn your respect and love! Women who pursue men are likely to end up in a failed relationship somewhere down the line...maybe in one month, a few years or 30 years...when women demonstrate more initial interest towards a man than a woman does, the relationship is doomed to fail. Men want to feel like they have won the lottery and are dating the prom queen! They don't want a woman who has no self respect or self dignity and believes she can never meet another man who will ever love her!
We are so deluded when we are young. We get so attached to these ideals that we forget to live our lives. Snow White, the best thing you can do right now is live as passionately as you can. Keep yourself occupied! Live with a vengeance everyday! Get involved not only with your career but with community/volunteer work and hobbies or perhaps volunteer to become a doctor in the third world with organizations such as "Doctors Without Borders". You don't only find love from a man but from your family, friends, patients, co-workers and other people who cross your path and most importantly...love from within. I don't know if you believe in God, but if you don't , one day you may realize that the most important love in the world is that between you and your Divine Creator as well as self-love. If you have a lot of faith in God, you won't feel like you are really missing something because God's love is unconditional and no man can ever match that.
I think being single will give you the chance to explore and get to know yourself . It is an opportunity to seize! An opportunity to evolve and become more introspective and spiritual. If you have faith, you won't feel as sad nor as lonely. And besides, one day or another , you will be separated from loved ones on the earthly plane but not from God...God's love is there from the moment you breathe your first breath till the last breath you expire and after.
Anyhow, Snow White, remember, there is "plenty of fish in the sea" so go out and swim! Live! There is more to life then men...there is so much more! Life is too short to shed tears for people who can't appreciate the jewel that you are!
Last words of wisdom from my mom (and most mothers I think ) , "When you seek you will not find but when you live your life and least expect it, the right one will be searching you."