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For those of you that have significant others who are not in med school/residency/doctors, what do they do? I'd be interested in seeing if most people in this professional track marry/date those in the same or if most people end up with those in other fields? Or if most male doctors marry nondoctors/doctors versus the choices that female doctors make in terms of spouse? Any ideas?
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I'm a male (hopefully) future doctor seriously dating a female future nurse. She wants to be a stay at home mom once kiddies arrive tho.
 
male medical student. My long-time girlfriend is soon to be a middle school teacher
 
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soon to be med student, dating gf soon to be wife (i plan to get engaged in two or so years in med school) of two years. Shes going to be a teacher. She can stay at home and take care of the kids (she wants to do this also) once i start making $$ and start practicing. Since shes going to be there for me through thick and thin and move with me through residency, she can do whtever she wants once our income is stable. Hopefully I want to get married and move intogether before residency starts.
 
My girlfriend (who I will probably wind up marrying) will be either a high school art teacher or a college art professor- she hasn't decided whether she only wants to do a masters or continue on for her PhD.
 
Female M1.

My boyfriend of 5 years is a marine biologist and oceanographer working for NAVO - Department of Defense.
 
My girlfriend is a graduate student, getting a Ph.D. in biomedical informatics. She was pre-med for a while but decided against it. We share the same basic interests, she'd just rather work with computers.
 
Wow, fourth teacher. My wife has a Masters in education and teaches middle school.
 
I'm applying to med school. My boyfriend will either go into finance or follow his heart and work for national geographic or discovery channel (the business side of things probably since he's an econ major..).
 
My girlfriend of three years that I've lived with for two years...that dumped me a month ago...wants to be an English/creative writing professor. She's applying to MFA programs next year.
 
Serious GF of 3 years will be starting working as a Child Life Specialist around the same time that I begin medical school (hopefully)
 
female pre-med. my bf (who I wanted to marry up until this morning but he is being a complete ass today for some reason) does computer graphics/webpage design but wants to get into historical/political research and writing. he also sings and plays guitar in a local band. he works from home and will be able to keep working from home if he gets into writing. i'm so relieved i found someone who doesnt mind being a stay at home dad. When he's not being a jackass, he's actually pretty cool :D
 
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Child Life Specialist
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What the hell is that precisely? You mean one of those people that try to "mainstream" ******ed kids and provide encouragement for them when they go a full hour without their helmet?
 
he also sings and plays guitar in a local band.
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Q: How do you get a guitarist off your front porch?
A: Pay for the pizza.

Q: What do you call a guitarist without a girlfriend?
A: Homeless.

Q: How do you confuse a guitarist?
A: Put real sheet music in front of them. :laugh:
 
I'm not in med school yet. My boyfriend of 3 years is a physical education major, and he's planning on teaching while I'm in med school and residency, but once we have kids, he wants to be a stay at home dad.
 
DropkickMurphy said:
What the hell is that precisely? You mean one of those people that try to "mainstream" ******ed kids and provide encouragement for them when they go a full hour without their helmet?
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A child life specialist works in a hospital with peds... Basically just helps take care of them, prepare the kids for basic proceedures by explaining them to the kids and their parents, give parents a break by watching over the kids and playing with them - that kinda thing.
 
Soggun said:
A child life specialist works in a hospital with peds... Basically just helps take care of them, prepare the kids for basic proceedures by explaining them to the kids and their parents, give parents a break by watching over the kids and playing with them - that kinda thing.
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Oh, good....it actually serves a meaningful purpose then. :thumbup: I was afraid you were dating a tree hugging, bleeding heart hippie there for a second...... :laugh:
 
my gf of almost two years owns a business. I probably couldn't date another doctor. I wouldn't want medicine to be in my face all the time.
 
Soggun said:
A child life specialist works in a hospital with peds... Basically just helps take care of them, prepare the kids for basic proceedures by explaining them to the kids and their parents, give parents a break by watching over the kids and playing with them - that kinda thing.
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SO....a baby sitter/nanny! You should be so proud!:thumbup:
 
wannaGETinDR said:
SO....a baby sitter/nanny! You should be so proud!:thumbup:
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She's not my child, I don't need to be proud of her... I am glad she's going to be doing what she loves though. Definately the most important thing when choosing a profession.
 
My hubby went to college for theater, but currently waits tables to bring home the bacon. Our deal is that he works to put me thru medschool, and then I bring home the bacon and he can chase his dream of acting/writing without worrying about money issues.
 
Female soon-to-be med student. My husband is currently working in consulting, but other business-related opportunities could be in his future, and possibly a future stay-at-home dad.
 
yalla22 said:
For those of you that have significant others who are not in med school/residency/doctors, what do they do? I'd be interested in seeing if most people in this professional track marry/date those in the same or if most people end up with those in other fields? Or if most male doctors marry nondoctors/doctors versus the choices that female doctors make in terms of spouse? Any ideas?
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I don't think that there is any specific correlation as far a difference between male and female docs-in-training are concerned. Where I live, women are required to be married (at least the first time) before the age of 23. If you are single and female at 23, then there must be something wrong with you. As a result, most of my female classmates are engaged or married to their typical frat-guy counterparts, i.e. businessmen/salesmen/bankers, basically suits. There are also plenty who are with dentists or lawyers.

It's more acceptable to be male and unattached, so guys typically just feed off of the lonely female leftovers suffering from low self-esteem because their 23+ and not attached.
 
i dont think i'm going to have a serious relationship untill after i get my m.d. degree. And then it is likely that the girl would be a teacher or in some health-related field, but she would be 10 years younger than me.
 
I'm a female soon-to-be med student (actually hoping for the md/phd of my choice) and my bff and future husband has a degree in multimedia design. He works in web design but he's trying to get into television production. I love science but his interest in the arts and music (he's also a saxaphonist) is a great balance.
 
12loser12 said:
I'm a male (hopefully) future doctor seriously dating a female future nurse. She wants to be a stay at home mom once kiddies arrive tho.
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I hope you're a male too. :p

Seriously though, my fiance is getting her masters in piano performance. She wants to teach piano lessons.
 
DropkickMurphy said:
Q: How do you get a guitarist off your front porch?
A: Pay for the pizza.

Q: What do you call a guitarist without a girlfriend?
A: Homeless.

Q: How do you confuse a guitarist?
A: Put real sheet music in front of them. :laugh:
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hahaha i know i know... i can't help it. I'm a sucker for those crazy red headed Irish boys.. *sigh*

Lets hear it for the future-MD sugar mommas out there!
 
Wizard of Oz said:
I don't think that there is any specific correlation as far a difference between male and female docs-in-training are concerned. Where I live, women are required to be married (at least the first time) before the age of 23. If you are single and female at 23, then there must be something wrong with you. As a result, most of my female classmates are engaged or married to their typical frat-guy counterparts, i.e. businessmen/salesmen/bankers, basically suits. There are also plenty who are with dentists or lawyers.

It's more acceptable to be male and unattached, so guys typically just feed off of the lonely female leftovers suffering from low self-esteem because their 23+ and not attached.
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Where do you live? I know it says Cooperstown, but that 23 cut-off sounds pretty foreign to me. My family is uber-foreign and I started getting marriage proposals at 16. Women definately have an expiration date when it comes to marriage in a lot of cultures...
 
Female (hopefully someday to be in medschool) here, my BF/Fiance is in school to be a nurse (Or as I teasingly say to him - a Murse)
 
Will be an M1 in August. My bf is finishing college and will be starting work as a network administrator next year.
 
Amazing! I hadn't expected this. My bf was a high school music teacher, but now he is working towards his masters in conducting and eventually wants to conduct a symphony. I find it very interesting that several of us have significant others who are into teaching. It's hard to put logic to this, but I feel like teaching and medicine have a lot in common - while it's great that we have knowledge, the greater gift is using it to help others. My boyfriend and I have similar ideals, but our career paths are different enough so that we don't get sick of each other ;)
 
All this stay at home someone" for the children... As if everyone who didn't have a stay at home parent turns into a complete mess. I guess I should ask my future husband to be a pre-school teacher...oh wait, but he's not a woman, not sure how he'll feel about that...

LOL...holy cow, all the women who are teachers married to doctors...
 
Well, I am on the fence with my fiance, we have been together for 7 years, engaged for 1 year, and we have never ever broken up but he really ticked me off recently by making a stupid wrong decision and I am thinking about leaving him. Anyways, He is so sweet normally that I hope it doesnt come to that. I have to say, guys can be really really selfish sometimes. So he wanted to be a pharmacist but now I think he is leaning towards some type of lab work. He will be getting his Bachelor of Arts in Biology in May, and doesnt want to go to grad school so who knows what he can do with that. He really wanted to be a doctor but his GPA is pretty average.
 
My recently ex-gf was into international relations / latin american studies and now I have gone to the dark side - the girl I am currently dating is a first year law student <gasp>
 
My gf/future wife used to be premed but now she's going into psychology and wants to get a PhD. We're planning on getting married btwn 2nd and 3rd year of med school. All this planning is so stressful! If I end up oos I don't even know what...ugghhh.
 
Male MSIV. Wife is a nurse.

Classic.

I'm a big fan of the nurses.
 
Wizard of Oz said:
I don't think that there is any specific correlation as far a difference between male and female docs-in-training are concerned. Where I live, women are required to be married (at least the first time) before the age of 23. If you are single and female at 23, then there must be something wrong with you. As a result, most of my female classmates are engaged or married to their typical frat-guy counterparts, i.e. businessmen/salesmen/bankers, basically suits. There are also plenty who are with dentists or lawyers.

It's more acceptable to be male and unattached, so guys typically just feed off of the lonely female leftovers suffering from low self-esteem because their 23+ and not attached.
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midwest or south?
 
jessy_erin said:
All this stay at home someone" for the children... As if everyone who didn't have a stay at home parent turns into a complete mess. I guess I should ask my future husband to be a pre-school teacher...oh wait, but he's not a woman, not sure how he'll feel about that...

LOL...holy cow, all the women who are teachers married to doctors...
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Totally. Let's get to the marriage before we get to the children people.
 
My bf sells industrial chemical equipment and owns/manages rental properties. We're working on getting him transferred to where I'm going to go, which might take a few years until the timing works for his company.
 
sprinkibrio said:
Totally. Let's get to the marriage before we get to the children people.
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I think its totally realistic to think about how a future family would work when considering marriage. I'm contemplating some pretty high time comittment specialties which would mean I would either need a nanny, day care or a stay at home husband. My husband and I discussed this before getting married, and we still aren't sure that we want kids, but we decided before marrying that if we both agree that we want them, that he would stay home with them during their pre-school years. If someone has their heart set on children and knows that they aren't going to have alot of time to comitt to it, it seems very mature to discuss who will be spending time with the kids before the marriage instead of after. I think one of the keys of a successful marriage (having had one for 7 years) is that each person's expectations for the future are full understood before the marriage and agreed upon.
 
I'm a female future (hopefully) med student, and my serious boyfriend who I plan to marry plans to be a psychologist. Though doubtful, he may change his mind again, as he originally planned on being a journalist, but didn't want the lifestyle that went with it.
 
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