Any tips for dealing with a girlfriend that is upset about upcoming breast/pelvic exams you will be performing?
just explain to her that diseased vaginas tend not to be sexually stimulating...Any tips for dealing with a girlfriend that is upset about upcoming breast/pelvic exams you will be performing?
Any tips for dealing with a girlfriend that is upset about upcoming breast/pelvic exams you will be performing?
Any tips for dealing with a girlfriend that is upset about upcoming breast/pelvic exams you will be performing?
If I was in relationship with someone who expressed an opinion like that OP, I'd show them the door immediately. Try dating adults.
You could try demonstrating the exam by doing it on ur gf, speculum and all, and talk her through your reasoning and everything. I bet that would solve the problem.
I am going through a similar situation. Through countless hours of discussion, she came to the realization that it wasn't the exam itself, but rather a lack of trust that my thoughts would remain strictly professional. Obviously there is nothing sexual about these patient encounters, but explaining that really didn't solve the problem. I love my wife and want her to be happy, but it is a reality that I will have to do more than one pelvic exam throughout the course of my career, not to mention most physical exams involve touching sensitive areas.Any tips for dealing with a girlfriend that is upset about upcoming breast/pelvic exams you will be performing?
Just so you know...not being a jerk.Ok how does a woman not know what a pelvic or pap entails??? We start going at 21... so yeah I'm still guessing OP is dating a high schooler
Just so you know...not being a jerk.
Start dating an adult.
this thread isn't what I was hoping it would be
Sorry to disappointthis thread isn't what I was hoping it would be
Thanks for all the tips, guys.
Some stuff has happened in the past between me and her and with her family that has made her insecure. It isn't so much the exam, but the fact that I will be looking at naked women all day (OB/GYN rotation). She thinks sex between us and watching her have children won't be anything special after I've watched a bunch of deliveries/etc. I've tried telling her it won't be anything sexual and I won't be enjoying it but it doesn't help..
She is trying really hard to get over it so I am just trying to find some ways I might be able to help/make it easier. We will be going to counseling next semester so hopefully that will help some.
On a less serious note: What would a girl do if you asked to practice a rectal/pelvic on her? LOL Girlfriend or someone you brought home from the bar.
Thanks for all the tips, guys.
Some stuff has happened in the past between me and her and with her family that has made her insecure. It isn't so much the exam, but the fact that I will be looking at naked women all day (OB/GYN rotation). She thinks sex between us and watching her have children won't be anything special after I've watched a bunch of deliveries/etc. I've tried telling her it won't be anything sexual and I won't be enjoying it but it doesn't help..
She is trying really hard to get over it so I am just trying to find some ways I might be able to help/make it easier. We will be going to counseling next semester so hopefully that will help some.
On a less serious note: What would a girl do if you asked to practice a rectal/pelvic on her? LOL Girlfriend or someone you brought home from the bar.
Yes, I can't think of a single time so far where a patient has been totally naked. It's just never necessary.
You clearly haven't rotated at a VA.
The Vets just love to be naked for some reason. It's like old men in the gym locker room.
The challenge is getting them to keep their gowns on.
lol I have not...we don't rotate at VAs (unfortunately cause I'd actually like to).
and that diseased vaginas are a minority.just explain to her that diseased vaginas tend not to be sexually stimulating...
that sounds like a terrible idea, to be frank.You could try demonstrating the exam by doing it on ur gf, speculum and all, and talk her through your reasoning and everything. I bet that would solve the problem.
This can't be emphasized enough. Treating patients is your JOB. You'll be doing this for most of the rest of your life. That fact that this girl is so uncomfortable with the notion of you doing your job is a very bad sign. This is not a problem that's going to get better. No, it will get worse. Move on.Serious question: Why do you stay with this girl?
If I'm doing a pelvic exam, it's because I'm either evaluating bleeding down there, discharge down there, or checking for PID or endometritis or something akin to that. So unfortunately, diseased vaginas are in the majority. I don't get to play with the nice ones just doing routine exams, and neither are most med students on their rotations. Ob/Gyn residents and attendings may be a different matter.and that diseased vaginas are a minority.
definitely agree. I've never done any on any girlfriends for practice back when I was a MS, and I would never do it on my wife even if she asked (which she wouldn't).that sounds like a terrible idea, to be frank.
Beta right here.
This can't be emphasized enough. Treating patients is your JOB. You'll be doing this for most of the rest of your life. That fact that this girl is so uncomfortable with the notion of you doing your job is a very bad sign. This is not a problem that's going to get better. No, it will get worse. Move on.
You clearly haven't rotated at a VA.
The Vets just love to be naked for some reason. It's like old men in the gym locker room.
The challenge is getting them to keep their gowns on.
I'm with you guys, I don't see anything sexual in it. And I don't think seeing deliveries will take away from having my own child, either.
In terms of seeing them completely naked, I just meant seeing breasts and genitalia in general throughout the rotation, not everything at once lol
I love this girl and I think we make a good couple she just has trouble with this and I want to try working through it instead of just throwing in the towel right away, you know? I appreciate the concern and honest opinions, though.
and that diseased vaginas are a minority.
This.Start dating an adult.
This is why I date men who are less attractive than me.
Ugly partners don't question your actions because they feel lucky to be with you.
Yeah, but . . . wouldn't this be ALL men??
Which one:Yeah, but . . . wouldn't this be ALL men??
Which one:
1) all men are less attractive than me?
2) all men don't question my actions?
3) all men feel lucky to be with me?
Any tips for dealing with a girlfriend that is upset about upcoming breast/pelvic exams you will be performing?