A clinic patient of mine died about a week ago. I don't have much info yet but I suspect it was SUID or a co-bedding incident. I called the mother and left a message expressing condolences, etc and told her to let us at the office know if there is anything we could do. (I meant things along the line of emotional support, giving her the patient's records, answering questions, etc.) The other day, my nurse told me that the mother called asking for donations for the funeral. Now, I'd have no problem personally with something like this, but I was wondering about it from an ethical standpoint as a professional. A senior resident told me it wasn't even appropriate for the nurse to tell me this, and an attending said maybe we could collect donations as an office. Hypothetically, if I (or another doctor) were to donate money personally, would this lead down a slippery slope? (Ie, no different than giving money to patients who needed bus fare/money for food or meds, etc.) Or would this be considered an exceptional circumstance? What would you do?