That attending was being gracious by not outing you to the group as being the student who argued, you should have thanked them and been appreciative because they did you a solid
And it’s not an attending’s job to track you down. If they leave and you didn’t notice it’s your fault. Kind of doesn’t matter if you were busy or didn’t notice, it’s your job to know where they are. Sometimes stuff happens and you lose track of them and it’s no big deal but it certainly is literally never their job to track you down. We used to have a phrase in my prior career that expectations like your are “like a quarter waiting on a nickle”. They are higher up the chain and they don’t look for us when we are students
The last one is annoying because sometimes attendings just literally don’t understand the nusiance of the emr. You just take those whoopins’ when they come and keep moving. Put a smile on your face, “sorry doc, That one was on me, and it won’t happen again”. Then you make sure it doesn’t happen again. And you warn next months students about that thing so they don’t get lit up. You certainly don’t go back later to correct the attending about it wasn’t your fault....it just looks bad even if you are right.
Get your head right, none of this means you have to switch specialties. It does mean you need to adapt your behavior to the power dynamic between students and attendings because you don’t get it yet.