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This will be quick because the answers are, from my end, reasonably simple, although they will likely seem alarming as your life plans are changing.Hi everyone. This is my first post on SDN and might be TMI. Sorry in advance if it is dramatic. I am a Senior who was planning to apply this cycle and had all the other ducks lined up well (LORs, prereqs, service, 3.85 GPA). However, the biggest hurdle has been the MCAT. I have been pushing it back since last January and had ample time to study over Summer 2019 but could not get myself to. I have severe anxiety from it and am deathly scared of taking it. With the pandemic, it has been even harder to study for my early July test because I lied to my parents and told them I had already taken the MCAT, and I haven't been able to tell them the truth. This has contributed to my denial. I feel like a failure, a coward, and an utter disappointment. I also feel like I don't want medicine enough if I cannot overcome my anxiety and take the MCAT.
Being honest with myself, I will need to take an additional gap year because I am not adequately prepared for my early July MCAT. I feel hopeless for delaying my potential matriculation by 1 year because of my cowardice, poor planning, lying, and disillusionment. This is not meant to be a pity-post, but I could use words of wisdom and reassurance right now. I am in a dark place and feel like I am a massive disappointment to myself and my parents. I also need to be at peace with taking 2 gap years and informing my parents about this change in plans. All my other friends are either already matriculants or are applying this cycle, and I feel behind and hopeless. Please help me.
1. Take the MCAT when you are ready. Get your anxiety under control before that happens. If that means you need two years, that's ok.
2. Apply when you are ready.
3. Stop lying to your parents. Your parents love you. They want you to succeed. If you are honest with them, they can change their expectations. Stop lying. Face your fears.
4. Get your mental health under control before it kills you. Start seeing a therapist. I don't care if you feel like you don't need one. Based on this post, you need one. Everyone could use one even if they don't need one. So tell your parents about your anxiety and your stress, and tell them you need to see someone. If they won't help you make it happen, go to your doctor, and tell your doctor you need a referral to a therapist. tl;dr: see a therapist.