Thoughtful reply. Thanks. That is in fact an issue: there is no one monolithic female perspective or feminist perspective. There are many strains of feminism (and for you guys who feel targeted by feminism, I have news for you: white women, esp the het, middle-class ones, are the ones in the crosshairs of much contemporary third wave feminist thought, not men). Porn (to tie in w/ Zimbardo thread) is a perfect example. There are various feminist positions on porn (please no more unfunny "jokes," iwillheal), so asking for the feminist position on porn, or many other issues, doesn't necessarily make sense. Just as you wouldn't ask your "black friend" to speak for all black people, no one woman, feminist or not, is going to present an authoritative woman's perspective that fits all people and contexts. In lieu of that, behavior can be guided by state and federal laws, guild ethics, workplace policies, common sense, perspective taking, and personal preferences.
Speaking for myself, in professional situations, I don't like to be ogled, have people move into my space or touch me (beyond handshaking) without permission, refer to me using endearments ("dear," "honey"), interrupt or talk over me, dismiss my ideas until it's convenient to steal credit for them, or act as though my concerns as a person or woman are silly or irrelevant. I don't like having my sex invoked ("Well as a woman surely you..."). I don't like it when people flaunt their disinterest in women's issues/perspectives. I don't like be told, directly or by implication, that my job entails looking ornamental, or that it's required for me to be a "nice mommy," or for there to be a gender differential in expectations for male and female work behavior. I don't appreciate ridiculously outdated dress codes (skirts or dresses, high heels). With the exception of the latter (dress codes), I've seen all of the above and much worse in putatively progressive, You Clearly Know Better academic work spaces.