the entire process of getting married and having children is unequal. women expect a disproportionately expensive engagement ring, a wedding shower, and later, baby showers. don't forget the wedding dress, or the flowers. add it all up, and the dollar signs boggle the mind. more to the point of this post, the costs are 95% attributable to the woman alone. some guys may want flowers, or a multi-thousand dollar ring, or to choose what goes into the gift registry for the wedding, the shower, and the baby shower, but they are the exception.
i've said this before, and i'll say it again--the entire cultural phenomenon of marriage is a bunch of fancy dressing for the very simple truth: the man pays a large sum of money for a lifetime supply of vagina, and the woman promises the lifetime supply of vagina in return for financial security. there are always exceptions, and you can bet your ass i won't date a non-exception, but i'm describing the norm here.
that is why women dress in revealing clothes and men dress and act in a way to demonstrate their wealth. that is why you see fat ugly guys with blonde bimbos on their arms. it's why women get so catty and negative towards the woman in the room who is "dressed like a slut"--they fear the competition. they want the lifetime supply of vagina THEY have to offer to be highly valued by all men, so any women who might offer their vagina at a lower price, or who might have a more desireable vagina, are seen as the enemy. it's why guys work their asses off for expensive cars and why women take note of which guys drive what, and look at a guys shoes and nails--grooming implies money. the wedding is the ultimate result of this cultural dance--the woman finally finds a buyer for the lifetime supply of vagina, and the man finally doesn't have to put any effort into getting new vagina.
the part that strikes me as kind of odd is how the man's role in this seems to me, undoubtedly from social conditioning, to be less "dirty," as he is simply paying for a service, whereas the woman's role comes off as the penultimate *****, albeit the monogamous *****.
curiously (and perhaps hypocritically), i would like my partner to take my last name should we marry. i guess to me, refusing to do so is a sign that she doesn't want to be identified with me any more than necessary. ultimately, i'll be okay with whatever she decides--it's her life and her decision.
here's a question for everyone--why is "cheating on someone" bad? i'm not talking about the romantic fling, or the fantasy love that one might form for the "other" person outside of the relationship, but just SEX. why is it bad if i go and have sex with some woman, wearing a condom throughout, just for the sake of augmenting my sex life and helping satiate my sex drive, as long as i only love my wife? this is not intended to be argumentative, it is intended to get some dialogue going about a very basic thing that most people take for granted as true ("cheating is wrong")--i just want to know WHY people think it is wrong, or are we all just on autopilot here?