Hello,
posting regarding a friend of mine who is a resident right now. His mother is completely Borderline (from my perspective). She has severe mental illness that is untreated and she has been threatening to call the Residency where he is at to tell them vicious things about him (e.g. he is abusive towards her, has been trying to create a divorce between his parents). His parents are going through a divorce and there is a minor child involved, but the father is getting custody. Though the father is also somewhat lenient and tends to make this woman happy (by letting her have extra time with the kid). She tends to get completely volatile and erratic when she doesn't get the kid afterschool everyday. This includes writing threatening messages, calling him on the phone and screaming at him (my friend), and even threatening to call the Medical Board where he is licensed to tell them that he is an abusive person.
Needless to say, he is in a lot of anguish over this and is going to therapy. But he is still very worried and has kept his program in the dark about this. He says his family is doing well (hasn't even mentioned any mention of divorce, etc.) He lives a few hours from his program but his mother could easily come there. He is very worried. The program director, with whom he works, is very traditional and family oriented, so he did not want to give them a heads up or warning.
I have instructed him to at least get a restraining order against his mother for verbal threats and constant harrassment. He is worried that if she does call his program coordinator/fellow residents (by paging hospital line) that his reputation will be ruined. I feel really bad for him and I think it is not up to the program to know specifics regarding his family life, but I don't know how to encourage him. Can the program take any adverse action against him and do they really need to know the specifics of his mother's mental illness/family issues?
Just, FYI, I have heard some of this woman's voicemails and he sent him audio texts as well, she was yelling at him and calling him filthy names, it was just horrible.
Thanks in advance.
posting regarding a friend of mine who is a resident right now. His mother is completely Borderline (from my perspective). She has severe mental illness that is untreated and she has been threatening to call the Residency where he is at to tell them vicious things about him (e.g. he is abusive towards her, has been trying to create a divorce between his parents). His parents are going through a divorce and there is a minor child involved, but the father is getting custody. Though the father is also somewhat lenient and tends to make this woman happy (by letting her have extra time with the kid). She tends to get completely volatile and erratic when she doesn't get the kid afterschool everyday. This includes writing threatening messages, calling him on the phone and screaming at him (my friend), and even threatening to call the Medical Board where he is licensed to tell them that he is an abusive person.
Needless to say, he is in a lot of anguish over this and is going to therapy. But he is still very worried and has kept his program in the dark about this. He says his family is doing well (hasn't even mentioned any mention of divorce, etc.) He lives a few hours from his program but his mother could easily come there. He is very worried. The program director, with whom he works, is very traditional and family oriented, so he did not want to give them a heads up or warning.
I have instructed him to at least get a restraining order against his mother for verbal threats and constant harrassment. He is worried that if she does call his program coordinator/fellow residents (by paging hospital line) that his reputation will be ruined. I feel really bad for him and I think it is not up to the program to know specifics regarding his family life, but I don't know how to encourage him. Can the program take any adverse action against him and do they really need to know the specifics of his mother's mental illness/family issues?
Just, FYI, I have heard some of this woman's voicemails and he sent him audio texts as well, she was yelling at him and calling him filthy names, it was just horrible.
Thanks in advance.