Hi there,
I am the chief resident on my current surgical rotation. The other day when I was rounding with the team, we stopped in to see one of our patients who was an elderly female. The rest of the team is male and the medical student and junior resident presented their morning findings to me. I spoke to the patient about the plans for the day and as were were leaving the room, the patient said to me, "Honey, can you put me on the bedpan before you leave?" I happily obliged and placed her on the bedpan, after which, I alerted the nurse and kept on with my rounds. It took all of 45 seconds and gave the intern time to write the orders that I had given.
Many patients see female and think nurse or see male and automatically think doctor. It happens and is going to happen as most nurses are female and most physicians are male. I just don't have the energy to "get my knickers in a knot" about this stuff.
Would my elderly lady patient have asked any member of a team of male physicians to help her with the bedpan? Probably not, but then she needed to use the bedpan and I was happy to assist her; actually, I am glad that I could assist her because she is my patient after all.
Bottom line: Get over it because it's going to happen again and again if you are female physician. You just get used to going with the flow and saving your anger for something that counts.
njbmd