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My wild dream came true - I got into dental school. I am now wondering how and when I should tell this news to my co-workers, managers and friends. They have no idea what I have been doing. They assume I am taking some MBA classes. I never tell them I am going to dental school. I feel little guilty becasue I gave them an false impression that I went to school was for my MBA. Anyone have experience? Suggestions?
 

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My wild dream came true - I got into dental school. I am now wondering how and when I should tell this news to my co-workers, managers and friends. They have no idea what I have been doing. They assume I am taking some MBA classes. I never tell them I am going to dental school. I feel little guilty becasue I gave them an false impression that I went to school was for my MBA. Anyone have experience? Suggestions?

2 weeks notice. Life goes on.
 

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You are (or I should say were) in the same place as I am right now.

I am a software developer (computer science major), class of 2004, working at my project and attending a university to complete my pre-dental requirements. I haven't really told anyone about this, but,

May I ask you how you wrote your personal letter, you seem to have gone the path I am currently taking right now and I would appreciate any advice you can give....... You seem to be a non-trad dental student (much like I am) and I have no idea how to show this in my personal essay.

thanks
 

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I simply stated the fact. I worked part time as a dental office manager. That was how I started interested in this field. And then I decided to pursuit dentistry. (of course I wrote a bit detail in my personal statement...like how my personality is, my goal, etc.)
 

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My wild dream came true - I got into dental school. I am now wondering how and when I should tell this news to my co-workers, managers and friends. They have no idea what I have been doing. They assume I am taking some MBA classes. I never tell them I am going to dental school. I feel little guilty becasue I gave them an false impression that I went to school was for my MBA. Anyone have experience? Suggestions?


I'm in the same boat! I feel really guilty. I think I'm going to tell my superivsior (soon) that I'm going to apply to dental school. Then in the spring I think I'll tell them that I got in somewhere! They don't know anything about the process, so they have no idea how early you have to apply and took a few days off here and there to interview. That will soften the blow I think. Anyway, that's my plan.... for now.
 

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First of all congrats! Where did you get in?

Second, I wouldn't worry too much about it. They'll get over it and no one can hold it against you for wanting a better/different career.
 

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If you don't like your job you tell them to shove it up their @sses.

If you like it, you be a bit more tactful.
 

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First of all congrats! Where did you get in?

Second, I wouldn't worry too much about it. They'll get over it and no one can hold it against you for wanting a better/different career.

UCSF
 

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It's probably good you didn't tell them earlier. My boss has known I'm applying to dental school for the past year and a half and she started phasing me out almost 6 months ago. More and more projects have been given to other people and they're always talking about "when you're gone." In fact, people have been asking me how much longer I'll be here since last summer. It pretty much sucked. Best to tell them when you have to keep working for only a short period of time.
 

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If you don't like your job you tell them to shove it up their @sses.

If you like it, you be a bit more tactful.

Yeah, that's the problem...my manager is so nice to me and she let me work flexible hours to accommodate my "MBA" classes.
 

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Yeah, that's the problem...my manager is so nice to me and she let me work flexible hours to accommodate my "MBA" classes.

The business world is cruel. It's a game, and you played the game right. Tell her when you've made enough money and are ready to quit. I don't know the specific job details, but there's always a ton of recent graduates to fill up vacancies. She'll get over it.
 

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I've been living a lie at work for over a year now. My employer even paid for me to take a chem class under the pretenses that it would help my current work.

Oh well. I put in my time. Did good work. Now it's time to get started on my real career.

I am going to tell them in about a month after they give out raises and promotions. If they know I'm leaving I'm afraid they'll shaft me (or phase me out, as mentioned above).
 

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I would give them two weeks before you plan on moving. Just be like a better offer has been given to me, and I don't think you can match it, I and just received word, that they would like to relocate me in two weeks, and here is my notice.
 

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I told them a long time ago. It was pretty much my only option because I needed to work a class around my schedule and they wanted details which I could only explain by telling the truth.

The bad thing about it is that my last yearly raise here was a 0% raise. It's the first time I've gotten the shaft since I've been working and I know that them knowing that I was going to quit in less than 12 months is about 99% of the reason for it.
 

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You know what really sucks? Being the spouse of someone in dental school (not me, I'm the predent, but my fiance has to change jobs twice when we move to school and when we leave when i'm done)
 

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I've been living a lie at work for over a year now. My employer even paid for me to take a chem class under the pretenses that it would help my current work.

Oh well. I put in my time. Did good work. Now it's time to get started on my real career.

I am going to tell them in about a month after they give out raises and promotions. If they know I'm leaving I'm afraid they'll shaft me (or phase me out, as mentioned above).

Oh yeah - we don't get our raised and bonuses until April. I know I'm guaranteed a minium bonus, but I don't want to get shafted on the raise.
 

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You know what really sucks? Being the spouse of someone in dental school (not me, I'm the predent, but my fiance has to change jobs twice when we move to school and when we leave when i'm done)

I hear ya - we're getting married in July and my fiance will stay in LA for his job (we can't afford to have him give up his high paying hollywood job and move to NYC or Philly or wherever and make 1/4 as much) and I will be going to D-school wherever I land. This is why you all see my obsessive posts about USC.
 

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i am in the same boat, i haven't told anyone even close friends that i got in and i know for sure i will be taken off all projects at my research job and i will also lose authorships cause they figure your in so why do you need your name when they can help another student. I plan to tell my boss in june and hopefully i wont burn bridges ;)
 

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tactfully say that you are grateful for the opportunity to work there and that you have chosen a new career path.

2.5 years ago, i quit my full time job to get my bachelor's in my pursuit of dental school. i pretty much said what i just said and they were all happy for me and somewhat surprised, but at the same time, i think my boss was relieved that i quit and that she didn't have to fire me, which i think would have happened eventually. too much conflict, but that's another story.
 

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You know what really sucks? Being the spouse of someone in dental school (not me, I'm the predent, but my fiance has to change jobs twice when we move to school and when we leave when i'm done)

No kidding. My husband quit his job 2 years ago to move up here with me. He now has an even better job than he had before, and it looks like he's going to have to quit again. I'm still hoping I get into my state school which is only 15 minutes from where we live right now. *fingers crossed*
 
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