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I really need to clean up my life
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Bro I feel your pain. My depression level is at an all time high 
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Dude, you're in medical school. This probably will sound callous, and I'm sure I'll catch flak for it from someone, but there are a lot of people out there failing at life a lot worse than you are. If you made it into a professional school, you must at least have your stuff together somewhat. And most of the things you listed that are wrong with your life can all be explained by not having enough time to deal with them properly. I think you would have to be insane to try to quit smoking in the middle of the semester, anyway. Wait until summer break and then quit.
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Andy15430 said:
thats good advice man. i am trying to quit now anyway (its not cigs dude). substance abuse is comorbid and self medicating and im just tired of the ****.
i kinda need a more healthy way of dealing with my problems. about 'failing at life' I guess you are right, a lot of folks do have it worse than me. I am just surrounded by so many gunners who "never miss class" and "always jog two miles before lecture" and "get up at 5am to study" and seem to have normal, crisp lives that makes me sick. . . because I am jealous i dont have the strong, ritualistic life that is dependable and consistant.. this is ridiculous. I will stop.. likewise, Ive seen a lot of flame-throwing on this thread and personally I just ignore it.
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A good exercise plan will really bring that little bit of order back to your life that it may be missing... you never know. Start eating healthy on top of that and you may wind up just feeling better overall. You may be battling depression, from the sound of your posts. It's not something to be taken lightly at all, and to go talk to somebody about it is nothing at all to be ashamed of. Most schools have a really good student mental health program set up, so I'd try to get in there and at least talk to somebody about it. They can help you and and find a way to put things in perspective. It's definitely worth exploring. You may be pleasantly surprised.
One way or another you made it where you are for a reason, you're probably more than capable of doing the work. Stop comparing yourself to the gunners and or worrying about what they do. Everybody has a different approach that works for them, and if there's anything I learned from all the "how to study" advice from M2s etc during orientation... it's that half these kids are nuts and most of them disagree on how to succeed here.
One way or another you made it where you are for a reason, you're probably more than capable of doing the work. Stop comparing yourself to the gunners and or worrying about what they do. Everybody has a different approach that works for them, and if there's anything I learned from all the "how to study" advice from M2s etc during orientation... it's that half these kids are nuts and most of them disagree on how to succeed here.
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I definitely agree with those who suggested you try working out/ exercising. You will be amazed at the energy level increase if you make it a routine habit. Also, trust me when I say that those who "seem" to have it all together very very often do not. For many, keeping it all together outwardly, and creating the illusion of happiness is their only way of fending off depression....ie. "others perceive me as being happy therefore I am " I saw alot of this during my first two years in med school. Luckily, in third year nobody has enough energy to put dolls on windows, so we all just laugh about the misery that is rounding, soap notes, rounding, not seeing your significant other, scutwork, rounding, sleep deprivation. As someone else suggested, if these feelings you are having do not abate over the next month , go talk to someone, and give some thought to SSRIs. Try the exercise first though, and talk to some of your friends outside of medicine. Great choice of music with the Radiohead...though you may want to steer clear of 'no surprises' and 'creep', and hit up some of the tracks off of the bends ('Sulk'), or OKcomputer ('let down'). Goodluck.PoorMD said:
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Do you think you are addicted to smoking pot?? i really don't think it is harder to quit smoking pot than it is to quit smoking cigarettes. Heck, quitting heroin is supposed to be easier than quitting cigarettes-so for that, be glad its pot you have a problem with and not cigs.
But maybe if you laid off the doobies-your mind would be clearer, the motivation and grades would go up-and instead of laying around in a daze, you might clean your apartment!
Bulletproof has some good advice. First and second year is full of people looking "perfect." Id suggest not being so hard on yourself. I realized that being far from perfect is a good thing. Having normal struggles such as smoking too much, not having a nice three point shot, not doing well on a few tests, etc will only help you relate to people in the future. Don't listen to these guys and their bs talk about self-pity, etc. They are the ones crying when they dont get A's in all there classes. I respect that you are introspective enough to realize some of these issues. The best advice I ever got in medical school is, "Be yourself and figure out where your personality fits into medicine." Medicine is a big place where there is room for both the person who wakes up at 5am and runs four miles and the person who smoked too much in medical school.
That being said exercise is a great antidepressant.
Also winter is a tough time to be in med school. Get through all your classes and things will drastically improve 3rd year.
That being said exercise is a great antidepressant.
Also winter is a tough time to be in med school. Get through all your classes and things will drastically improve 3rd year.
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bajinga said:
Winter is a tough time for a lot of people, regardless of what they're doing. I have been acutely aware of how much everything sucks for the last couple of weeks. I have convinced myself that it's because it's freakin' February and it's hard to feel good in February. I just want to fall asleep and wake up in like, May. No more snow, no more mittens, no more freezing cold walks to school, no more runny noses, no more freezing rain, no more dusk at 5pm, no more frostbitten ears, no more cancelled trips, no more wearing three sweaters indoors.
Or maybe I should just move down south, eh?
Sorry I don't have any advice for the OP. Everyone else here has made great suggestions. Although personally I avoid exercise like the plague just because I'm afraid of turning into one of the perfect shiny happy med student clones I'm surrounded by.
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Dude, just chill. You're doing great. It sounds like you're just in a funk. When I feel like that I just quit looking at SDN posts cause the gunners will get to you after a while.
Just because you don't run 2 miles every morning and haven't done as well as you wanted on MED SCHOOL exams means you're an above average person and a normal med student. You may not be super-healthy and super-intelligent, but at least you'll have your sanity.
Just because you don't run 2 miles every morning and haven't done as well as you wanted on MED SCHOOL exams means you're an above average person and a normal med student. You may not be super-healthy and super-intelligent, but at least you'll have your sanity.
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emack said:
I pretty much agree with what everyone else is saying here, except I gotta say I'm all about the exercise thing. And just for the record I am nowhere near one of those perfect shiny happy med student clones (hehe, I love that, because we all know people like that). I am a small person and never thought I "needed" to exercise, so I never did. But even though I can be quite lazy at times (I am not one of those naturally peppy people that's full of energy every second of the day), I just couldn't stand the idea of sitting for hours on end. Plus my apt is literally across the street from where I have class and the library, so I never got exercise... EVER. It was really kind of depressing me in the beginning. So now I make a point to go to the gym almost every day, even if it means sacrificing an hour of studying or whatever. I don't beat myself up if I don't make it once in a while, but lemme tell you, it's a great way to start feeling like you're gaining control over your life. So many people do destructive things in order to feel in control... what better way to gain some stability/routine in your life by doing something healthy for yourself? I may not be shiny and happy all the time, but I'm always in a better mood after I do some exercise - even if it's only 15-20 min.
Another thing - I really agree that the people who seem like they have it "all together" usually don't. God only knows what's really goin on under any "perfect" outward appearance. I know how hard it is to ignore what other people are doing and it takes a lot of effort, but try as hard as you can to just be you, and not worry about how everyone else does it, and do what you need to do to get by. Being healthy and happy (as much as we can, anyway) are the most important things. I have friends who freak out if their lives aren't perfectly structured every day, and these same friends are usually making themselves physically ill because they're in such a panic come exam week (kind of reminds me of some people who post often on this board, too.. no offense to anyone). I don't care if it makes me a crappy student, but I refuse to be one of these people who live in a constant state of panic. Why do people put themselves through that hell??? I don't know... I just think, if an upcoming exam is like, the worst stress that you can bear in your life, then how are you going to handle when a REAL tragedy happens. I'm a first year and I have experienced some scary, very unexpected stuff this year (deaths in family, etc.) that I never ever thought would happen.... and it's made me realize that life doesn't just stop because we are in medical school. Trying our best in school is important, but not as important as your health, happiness, and maintaining relationships with your loved ones. You need to put you first, 100% of the time, because you can't help anyone if you can't help yourself. If you're having a hard time, you should def. talk to someone.
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supereagles said:Bro I feel your pain. My depression level is at an all time high
Dude...I didn't know you had depression
. Have you always had it or something you noticed in Med School? nna a make you stop ncha!
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PoorMD said:
You want to do well in school and still slack? Better living through chemistry, my friend. Diet pills + Claritin. Works every time for a cheap, legal ritalin effect. Take it before you study and you'll be zoomin yet focused. Good luck! I know what you're feeling and it definitely sucks to feel like such a failure. One other thing that helps too is laughing at the misfortunes of others. Turn on daytime TV and watch the talk shows and remind yourself that you're not one of those people. Watch the ads for ITT Tech and other such ****** schools and thank the Lord that you're in medical school. After about 30-60 minutes you're back to a sunny superior attitude. Works like a charm.
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Good luck to the OP. Just remember that it is part of life to be down sometimes. As many people mentioned, the advantages of working out cannot be overemphasized.
That being said, I think you should try not to compare yourself to everyone else. I know quite a few people who get depressed because they don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend. The funny thing is that most of these people end up feeling depressed after getting a boy or girlfriend anyway. Don't try to complete yourself with a relationship. You should go into a relationship only after fully understanding who you are. Otherwise the relationship will end up making things worse for you.
A bunch of people also mentioned getting help as soon as possible. This is very important. Your mental health is just like any other health problem. You should seek help if you feel like you are not in control. Furthermore, no one but you has to know about it. There is no shame in seeking help. It would only be shameful if you stand by and watch your life fall apart.
I am not a med student yet, but have gone through quite a few situations that tested my will.
Infiniti.
That being said, I think you should try not to compare yourself to everyone else. I know quite a few people who get depressed because they don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend. The funny thing is that most of these people end up feeling depressed after getting a boy or girlfriend anyway. Don't try to complete yourself with a relationship. You should go into a relationship only after fully understanding who you are. Otherwise the relationship will end up making things worse for you.
A bunch of people also mentioned getting help as soon as possible. This is very important. Your mental health is just like any other health problem. You should seek help if you feel like you are not in control. Furthermore, no one but you has to know about it. There is no shame in seeking help. It would only be shameful if you stand by and watch your life fall apart.
I am not a med student yet, but have gone through quite a few situations that tested my will.
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Seasonal Affective Disorder?
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you can feel better about yourself if you set your standards lower, or as low as possible.
Tell yourself that you're just going into family practice....
Tell yourself that you're just going into family practice....
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PoorMD said:
For this, I highly recommend masturbation.
In my [professional] opinion, subpar male masturbation technique (SMMT) has become a pandemic and is second only to AIDS as a topic of importance in the field of public health. SMMT has a proven comorbidity with psychological problems such as depression and generalized anxiety disorder.
Remember the acronym: FAE (Fantasy, Arousal, Execution)
Fantasy: Before you masturbate, allow your deep-seated fantasies to flow straight from the id. Never masturbate to relieve sexual frustration, never masturbate hurriedly, and never masturbate when you are depressed. The key is maintain a positive psychological association. Remember, this is your homecourt. You are in complete control. You must be focused, elated, and zen-llike. Imagine banging that cute Russian chick in upsidedown chandelier position in the middle of microbio lecture...or whatever tickles your pickle (and I don't mean that as an idiom).
Arrousal: This is the stage where your psychological desires will be manifested physiologically. Use ample pornography. Have foreplay with your bedsheets and pillows if necessary. Call out your favorite porn star's name. Do whatever floats your boat without inhibition.
Execution: Start slowly. Use adequate lubrication. Your grip should be at about three to five pounds of pressure-enough to stimulate without chaffing or brusing. You should have movement in both the longitudinal and rotational axes, and your rhythm should be crisp. Vary the pace, direction of movement, or relative force during the rhythm every ten seconds or so for variety. Focus on your fantasy throughout.
These are mere fundamentals, but they should get you started. If you want to learn more, check out my new book, "Fists of Fury." I'm currently working on some videotapes of myself demonstrating expert technique. They should be on the market in 3-6 months.
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MedicineBird said:
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Callogician said:
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real question is why you were searching for bondage stuff on ebayMedicineBird said:
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