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UNTlabrat said:I'm hoping you're referring to perhaps a specific situation that you know on a first hand basis, or maybe just reacting to the general malaise concentrated in the original post. I am 31. My children are 12, 8, and 3. I was a single parent for about half the time I've clocked as a parent. But, wait: DO NOT feel sorry for my kids. Their mother happens to be a highly motivated, determined pre-med with lofty goals and dreams to spare. Yeah, I just came off a semester of fourteen hour days while taking a full load and studying for the MCAT. Dinner was bought more often than it was cooked, and I studied while they watched Spongebob Squarepants.
However, we do have a lot of fun together, talking about what EACH of us learned in school on a given day. I work hard, and they see that. I have put off studying for important tests to go to the zoo. I've studied biochem at Chuck E. Cheese's. My kids would rather spend an average day with me than their dad and stepmom, who go to work around the family's schedule, i.e. someone is home when kids get off the bus, they don't attend day care, etc. They have all the time in the world to spend with them.
Bottom line: Whatever time I have with them, I make it count. I'm a good role model, and I give lots of love. They won't remember how many hours I wasn't there; they'll remember every minute I was.
Check out the forum in MCAT: any old pre-meds out there? You'll find a lot of people who have made tough decisions regarding this, and have a positive outlook on the situation. It's not all dismal
Bravo!! Now THAT"S what I'm talkin' bout' !!!!!
This reminds me that one day at the school bus stop, one little girl was telling my daughter that she was so lucky she didn't have to go to a filthy daycare center because her Mommy stayed at home ( a conversation she OBVIOUSLY heard her parents have). I was so proud when my daughter responded, "Well my Mommy is a Scientist and one day she's going to be a Doctor and help people who are very sick".