i'm a bad person

[Arctic Char]

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so i sent out a big group email to my entire school that was really condescending and cruel. i mean, it was just plain mean and i feel bad about it.

anyone else make any such boner moves?

 

[Jazz00]

Well, maybe the email sent wasn't that bad ... what was it about?

 

[Arctic Char]

oh man, it was bad. no cuss words, but i basically told everyone they were mentally ******ed 3rd graders.

 

[leorl]

you won't undo the damage, but send another one apologizing and saying you didn't mean it (even if you do)

 

[Arctic Char]

so, i apologized to those who i felt had the most reason to be offended. i don't think most people made a big deal about it. i think sending another apologetic email would only make it a bigger issue than it needs to be. i have 2.5 years of school left, i think i can live this one down . . . i'll just have to walk around hat-in-hand for a while . . .

 

[PEN15]

oh man, it was bad. no cuss words, but i basically told everyone they were mentally ******ed 3rd graders.

I usually tell them to their face... it's so much better to see their initial reactions in person.

 

[Arctic Char]

hehe

 

[indo]

oh man, it was bad. no cuss words, but i basically told everyone they were mentally ******ed 3rd graders.

but you were accepted at the same school as them.

 

[silas2642]

so i sent out a big group email to my entire school that was really condescending and cruel. i mean, it was just plain mean and i feel bad about it.

anyone else make any such boner moves?

I've definitely said mean things to people that I really, really regret saying; not quite to the degree that you have, though. It seems like the best idea would be to apologize, apologize soon, with sincerity, and hope that all your classmates don't hate you for the remaining 2.5 years.

 

[jocg27]

what exactly set this off?

If you sent a mass email to your whole school, a few hundred people, many of whom you likely don't even know, telling them they're mentally ******ed 3rd graders because you had a crummy day, maybe you need more help and support than sdn can provide...maybe think about checking out whatever student support or counseling services your school offers you?

 

[Doctor Bagel]

I've received more ranting emails in my few months of medical school than I've gotten in my whole freaking life, and it gets really old. Anyway, I'd send out an apology. If I received an apology email, it'd make me happier. 🙂

What is up with med school and the ranting emails? It seems like the recent emails we've received from faculty and our class officers have been about three paragraphs too long. The first paragraph had some useful information, and the remaining paragraphs all amounted to a rant.

 

[Arctic Char]

well, it wasn't insulting the list of people directly. it was toward something that was supposed to represent our school, and i said it looked terrible. untactfully.

thats it. after discussing it with some friends, no one has seemed to make a big deal about it, at least not about what i've said. so, i guess i feel bad just because i did in fact hurt someone's feelings who i deeply care about as a friend and classmate. this person will forgive me i know, but it sucks to know that i upset someone when i didn't need to say anything at all, or i could (and usually do) have said it more sensitively. it was not a proud moment of mine.

but lets also think of the bright side: this means people will be extremely cautious about asking for my input in the future, and i'll be spared the misery of inferior work (if anyone in fact asks for my opinion ever again).

 

[eralza]

Wow! Insinuating that an entire medical school is equivalent to "mentally ******ed 3rd graders". You are either exceptionally brillant or exceptionally arrogant! I decided long ago that there are many people who are better than I am and almost everything. For now, the damage has been done, but try to remember that everyone has a different perspective. Your perspective probably isn't any better...just different.

 

[Jiminy Cricket]

everyone is a good person...everyone is a bad person


so, did it feel good?!


just try to be more diplomatic in the future...unless you can get away with telling them off...then, why not just target those individuals who f'ed u over

 

[Arctic Char]

eralza - i couldn't agree with you more. it was extremely arrogant, i thought i had all that out of my system by now. but i guess we all relapse sometimes . . .

to jiminy cricket - oh yeah, it felt good for a while. i chuckled all night about it . . . but then woke up and realized how low-class it was. like a cheap tequila hangover.

 

[eralza]

It still happens to me... and I'm getting old. I can't tell you how many times I've put my foot in my mouth. A few memories still leave a bad taste in my mouth, but just like most things in life, you learn from them, try not to make the same mistake again, and ultimately end up a better person along the way. Take a deep breath, make your apologies and start over tomorrow.

 

[beefballs]

I wrote a paper about these readings we had to do where I basically blasted the papers and the fact that we had to read them blahblah blah...I was quite amused with myself because it did have a tinge of humor to it, but after handing it in I feel like a little b!tch who complains too much. Moral for beefball-just deal with the bs don't mak a big deal out of it

 

[Arctic Char]

nice screen name, beefballs.

 

[BAM!]

I usually tell them to their face... it's so much better to see their initial reactions in person.

and this is coming from the guy with PEN15 as his handle...

 

[PEN15]

and this is coming from the guy with PEN15 as his handle...

and this is coming from a guy with a banana as his avatar.

Relax buddy.

And it's PEN-15... what can I say, I love to write... get your mind out of the gutter, sheesh.

 

[H_Caulfield]

...please please PLEASE stop acting like you're in highschool. Little interdependent groups, looking and running around frantically for fear of being left out of something...

What's worse is that they're all total goobers. You can tell immediately, by their appearance and awkward self-conscious mannerisms, that they're not here to learn so much as to try and compensate for being losers in highschool and college. Makes sense, I guess.....the "nerds" finally have a shot at popularity, since there are no more attractive, socially adept people holding them down. Still, man....it's hard for me to take my situation seriously when three chubby guys and a girl who looks like a pelican all sit behind me, talking about how many shots they took last night, and ooooooh! about what dork hooked up with what other dork! and...oh my god, like, did you see gray's anatomy?

WHEN is it going to stop being like this? Quite frankly, I was happy with myself in highschool and college, so for me this is like having the chess club surround me every day and make a mockery of the very serious professional goals I'm aiming to accomplish here.

So fire away at me; hopefully just one person will sympathize. Did nobody else expect their peers to stop being petty, at some point? A bunch of petty doctors? Is this how people are forever?...entirely shaped by conventions set when they were 14 to 18 years old?

 

[DoctorFunk]

Somebody needs a +3 Cloak of Disappearing.

 

[OddNath]

We need pics of the penguin chick!

But seriously, Holden, while the chatter of some of your classmates may be irritating in the morning, your grand, sweeping, holier-than-thou generalizations about every single person in your class aren't a whole lot better. If I were to generalize my class based on whoever sits behind me on a daily basis, I would 1) be leaving out the half of my class who doesn't go to class and 2) hear mostly silence. And banter here and there to lighten the mood, whatever it may be. Who cares.

Are you really saying that there isn't a single parent or non-trad in your class? Not a single person who doesn't *go* to class? If so, and if everyone appears in varying sillouettes of penguin..I'd be tempted to go to class just to check that out!

 

[Pembleton]

Hah! "three chubby guys and a girl who looks like a pelican"!

 

[RSAgator]

you good sir, are a douchebag.

Did nobody else expect their peers to stop being petty, at some point?

I'd say coming onto SDN to post about how you think your class is full of losers is pretty petty...

 

[JonnyG]

Isn't the most common description of medical school: High school with harder classes? I have heard this description for years. You should have known things were going to be like this. The solution, don't go to class.

 

[FenderHM]

Isn't the most common description of medical school: High school with harder classes? I have heard this description for years. You should have known things were going to be like this. The solution, don't go to class.

agreed simply try to avoid run-ins with other med students, its for the best

 

[Droopy Snoopy]

Please tell me this is a parody of this thread:
http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=334359

It's been my experience that the "cool" people don't go spouting off about how "uncool" everyone around them acts. Did you really expect the cast of ER to be representative of your profession?

 

[DoctorFunk]

Please tell me this is a parody of this thread:
http://forums.studentdoctor.net/showthread.php?t=334359

It's been my experience that the "cool" people don't go spouting off about how "uncool" everyone around them acts. Did you really expect the cast of ER to be representative of your profession?

He picked the wrong school. I'm definitely the living embodiment of George Clooney's character.

 

[PEN15]

I love how his thread got merged into the "i'm a bad person" thread...

 

[Arctic Char]

yeah . . . ??

if its worth anything, holden, my answer to your question:

"Did nobody else expect their peers to stop being petty, at some point?"

is this: if you think its bad in classes of ~100 +/- where the individuals are flexible to come and go . . . wait 'till you get to a ward where you are spending 10's and 12's with the same group of people for weeks on end. in my best bet, i would say we have a lot of pettiness coming in the future . . .

but its not pettiness that started this thread anyway.

 

[dcolon_et06]

Why dont you just pretend it never happened and act normal (hopefully you are already a semi-cheerful person because if you already show dismay with your peers, this probably wont work) and if they ever say anything to you, just fake a sigh and act like youve been answering the same question by saying "someone got ahold of my email address and decided to go on a lunatic emailing spree to everyone in my address book." If they say something like "well how do they know every single person in school?", just answer "I keep my contacts organized by groups". Should work 🙂.

 

[Wizard of Oz]

If an administrator heard about it and told you to apologize, then apologize. If not, then I wouldn't take action. People get stressed out. Most people understand this.

 

[Arctic Char]

haha, a little deceptive for my taste, but i like the creativity.

wizard's got a good point.

 

[ashahdc]

yeah . . . ??

if its worth anything, holden, my answer to your question:

"Did nobody else expect their peers to stop being petty, at some point?"

is this: if you think its bad in classes of ~100 +/- where the individuals are flexible to come and go . . . wait 'till you get to a ward where you are spending 10's and 12's with the same group of people for weeks on end. in my best bet, i would say we have a lot of pettiness coming in the future . . .

but its not pettiness that started this thread anyway.

High school with harder classes.....how true.....Whoever you feel deserves an apology should get one....and you'll have to be on best behavior for a while.

 

[braluk]

write a followup email about how you were drunk

 

[LostAtSea]

I don't see how this guy can loose, he's arrogant and thinks everyone else is a loser, most med students feel that way a good part of the time. there's probably a lot of people in the class who think that he's referring to everybody but them and thus he's pretty cool in there minds. Nobody is going to remember the thing in a month anyway, the more you talk about it the more they'll remember

 

[Paws]

Hey Mt,

If you still feel bad, and it sounds like you do, then write a class email again and say just that: I did a totally stupid thing and I realize it was dumb and wrong. Please accept my apology. And then you could add something sort of funny, just to break the ice a little, like - I hope you can tolerate me and my infrequent lapses of tourette's syndrome for the next 2.5 years. Or, the drunk thing is a good idea too.

But you can just be straight and I would think most people would take it at face value. If you make amends, what more can you do? if people still hassle you, then so be it. But you'd have done the right thing. I mean, you can't argue with sincerity, can you? 🙂

 

[Ypo.]

Haw haw! "High school with harder classes!" So true!

I was saying this all last year; that I felt like I was stuck in high school again. Such a disappointment after undergrad. But you just get used to it and do the best you can.

Mtmed-you sound like a good person and like you did the right thing in the end.


Heh. The stupidest email I've sent to my class was that video clip of Jimmy Kimmel getting bitten by a rattle snake. Someone posted it here on SDN and I sent it out before discovering that it was fake. 🙄

 

[pinfold]

just like the title ,i come from china ,it's my first time here.i hope make some friends here .thanks a lot.

 

[PEN15]

Haw haw! "High school with harder classes!" So true!

I was saying this all last year; that I felt like I was stuck in high school again. Such a disappointment after undergrad. But you just get used to it and do the best you can.

Mtmed-you sound like a good person and like you did the right thing in the end.


Heh. The stupidest email I've sent to my class was that video clip of Jimmy Kimmel getting bitten by a rattle snake. Someone posted it here on SDN and I sent it out before discovering that it was fake. 🙄

Hilarious avatar yposhelley!

and I think it's like high school because you see the same damn faces every single day.. not because you want to but because you HAVE to. at least in undergrad you can change it up a bit. i tend to get annoyed by people I hang out with all the time faster (or they get annoyed of me... 😕 ).

 

[CatsandCradles]

so, i apologized to those who i felt had the most reason to be offended. i don't think most people made a big deal about it. i think sending another apologetic email would only make it a bigger issue than it needs to be. i have 2.5 years of school left, i think i can live this one down . . . i'll just have to walk around hat-in-hand for a while . . .

The fact that you were brave enough to have the balls to apologize means you are a good person!


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[Rogue Synapse]

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[OmahaMX80]

mentally ******ed 3rd graders... I think I'd have to go with 7th or 8th graders, honestly.

 

[PH7.4]

Yes, I have emailed my whole class. And it still stings. Boy, does it sting.

I have made a new decision in my life.

If someone pisses me off, I am going to tell them, right then. I don't care who they are. The way I see it, this cannot be a bad thing.

If a large group of people piss me off, I am going to ignore them.

My condolences to you on this 'boner' as you put it. It is a hard life lesson to learn, that we are capable of tremendous idiocy and that we might do best to follow the purported (surely mangled by me) wisdom of Mark Twain:

"It is better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt."