I'm ready for a girlfriend...

[makeshift123]

I got home from a friend's small get-together and it just made me depressed. There were 11 people there, and 5 couples. Who was the 11th wheel? Yours truly...

I mean, it wasn't awkward or anything because they're all my close friends but man... I just felt out of place. I'm just tired of being "the single guy" every time. Obviously, I hang out with other single people, but my closest friends are mostly all committed. Tomorrow night, they'll all be giving their new years kisses and I'll just be watching, probably just drinking my drink.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not the anti-social, awkward around girls type. I've had plenty of the shameful one-night stands, the "damn, this month was crazy, I better go get tested" and "uh, whats your name again?" times, and Planned Parenthood should have been on my speed-dial. Recently, I took a vow of abstinence because I knew that this lifestyle wasn't me and because I became known around campus as the manwhore. And I've kept that vow ever since (I broke it once, but I just had to that time lol).

The longest relationship I've had was one month. no joke. I don't know anything about relationships. I was never the dating type because I just got tired of the same people quickly. But I'm ready to change that. I just don't know how. All my friends say that the day I get a girlfriend will be the day hell freezes over. I'm known to girls around campus either as "just a friend" on the one spectrum or "an easy lay" on the other side of the spectrum. And now, when I tell girls I'm abstinent, they back off. I don't know what to do, I'm just frustrated. I want to have that meaningful connection with someone, that New Years kiss, that someone who I can call just to talk and not to invite over to my bed. I'll be moving away in 7 months, so my thoughts go towards if its really worth it? Should I just wait till med school? Will it CHANGE in med school? Will it be easier?



Thanks for listening to my rant. I'd appreciate any advice or any thoughts of people going through the same thing or from some of you who thought they'd never settle down. (I'm 22 by the way).

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[NickNaylor]

I'd say wait till med school.

 

[mipp0]

I got home from a friend's small get-together and it just made me depressed. There were 11 people there, and 5 couples. Who was the 11th wheel? Yours truly...

I mean, it wasn't awkward or anything because they're all my close friends but man... I just felt out of place. I'm just tired of being "the single guy" every time. Obviously, I hang out with other single people, but my closest friends are mostly all committed. Tomorrow night, they'll all be giving their new years kisses and I'll just be watching, probably just drinking my drink.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not the anti-social, awkward around girls type. I've had plenty of the shameful one-night stands, the "damn, this month was crazy, I better go get tested" and "uh, whats your name again?" times, and Planned Parenthood should have been on my speed-dial. Recently, I took a vow of abstinence because I knew that this lifestyle wasn't me and because I became known around campus as the manwhore. And I've kept that vow ever since (I broke it once, but I just had to that time lol).

The longest relationship I've had was one month. no joke. I don't know anything about relationships. I was never the dating type because I just got tired of the same people quickly. But I'm ready to change that. I just don't know how. All my friends say that the day I get a girlfriend will be the day hell freezes over. I'm known to girls around campus either as "just a friend" on the one spectrum or "an easy lay" on the other side of the spectrum. And now, when I tell girls I'm abstinent, they back off. I don't know what to do, I'm just frustrated. I want to have that meaningful connection with someone, that New Years kiss, that someone who I can call just to talk and not to invite over to my bed. I'll be moving away in 7 months, so my thoughts go towards if its really worth it? Should I just wait till med school? Will it CHANGE in med school? Will it be easier?



Thanks for listening to my rant. I'd appreciate any advice or any thoughts of people going through the same thing or from some of you who thought they'd never settle down. (I'm 22 by the way).

WAIT. Med school spells disaster for young relationships.

 

[apumic]

Because you've been so far to each extreme, finding a middle ground will probably take some time. Continue to build healthy relationships with women. Get to know them as friends for awhile and then maybe add some of your "moves" back in slowly this time. You have to figure out how to build a healthy romantic relationship instead of no-passion friendships and all-passion one-night-stands.

 

[DirtyJustice]

When you want a relationship, you wont get one. Keep that in mind.

 

[tennisball80]

Not a single medical school in the U.S. requires a semester of dating experience. You will generally need 2 semesters of English, 1 semester of calculus, 2 semesters of gen bio, 2 semesters of chem, and 2 semsters of o chem. So yeah, you are good to do.

 

[MB333999]

hey man im sort of in the same situation as u..

all my closest friends are dating and im also always the single guy in the room.
Sometimes i wish that the special someone would come along, but meh you cant really plan for these things. thhey happen when they happen and thats that.

i've only had 1 real relationship in my life which ended up in the gutter. After that I tried "getting around" for a bit. but after a little while of that i decided that it wasnt me much like you discovered.

so tomorrow im spending new years with all my friends who are dating and i am gonna be that guy without the special new years kiss.

I guess what im trying to get at is that,
your not alone pal
sooner or later we will find that special someone, and going through what your going through now will really make you appreciate them once you find them. keep your head up

 

[MudPhudHopeful]

I also wanted to add that it will probably be harder in medical school to find someone and maintain a healthy relationship, although not impossible. I don't know if you saw the PBS documentary, called "Doctor's Diaries," but out of all the students that they followed who dated during medical school, I do not remember one of those relationships surviving the four years of medical school. Medical school is very demanding, stressful, and can be toxic for relationships. I understand where you are coming from. All my close friends back home are getting married, engaged, or are having kids right now, whereas I am 25, single, and am currently feeling the pressure to find someone. Even though the path we have chosen makes things difficult when it comes to dating and relationships, it isn't going to stop me from trying to find that special someone. Keep your head up and don't give up.

 

[JaneAustenFan]

I got home from a friend's small get-together and it just made me depressed. There were 11 people there, and 5 couples. Who was the 11th wheel? Yours truly...

I mean, it wasn't awkward or anything because they're all my close friends but man... I just felt out of place. I'm just tired of being "the single guy" every time. Obviously, I hang out with other single people, but my closest friends are mostly all committed. Tomorrow night, they'll all be giving their new years kisses and I'll just be watching, probably just drinking my drink.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not the anti-social, awkward around girls type. I've had plenty of the shameful one-night stands, the "damn, this month was crazy, I better go get tested" and "uh, whats your name again?" times, and Planned Parenthood should have been on my speed-dial. Recently, I took a vow of abstinence because I knew that this lifestyle wasn't me and because I became known around campus as the manwhore. And I've kept that vow ever since (I broke it once, but I just had to that time lol).

The longest relationship I've had was one month. no joke. I don't know anything about relationships. I was never the dating type because I just got tired of the same people quickly. But I'm ready to change that. I just don't know how. All my friends say that the day I get a girlfriend will be the day hell freezes over. I'm known to girls around campus either as "just a friend" on the one spectrum or "an easy lay" on the other side of the spectrum. And now, when I tell girls I'm abstinent, they back off. I don't know what to do, I'm just frustrated. I want to have that meaningful connection with someone, that New Years kiss, that someone who I can call just to talk and not to invite over to my bed. I'll be moving away in 7 months, so my thoughts go towards if its really worth it? Should I just wait till med school? Will it CHANGE in med school? Will it be easier?



Thanks for listening to my rant. I'd appreciate any advice or any thoughts of people going through the same thing or from some of you who thought they'd never settle down. (I'm 22 by the way).

Will you CHANGE by med school? If you typically get tired of people and desire to move on, I don't see how that will change much. Saying you want to change and actually finding a person who makes you want to change are two completely different things. 22 is still so young. Date more, find out what bores you and what you like and then keep an eye out for someone who seems like she may work out as a long-term (hopefully one day permanent) partner.

 

[SparkleMotion]

Not a single medical school in the U.S. requires a semester of dating experience. You will generally need 2 semesters of English, 1 semester of calculus, 2 semesters of gen bio, 2 semesters of chem, and 2 semsters of o chem. So yeah, you are good to do.

This

 

[thepoopologist]

7 months is plenty of time. There's always an excuse to wait. I say when the opportunity presents itself, go for it.


Btw depending on your study habits you may or may not have time for it during your first semester.

 

[red10]

If you're interested in a girl make sure you listen to her, not just to the little guy in your pants.

 

[Dude Man Bro Man]

I'll give a hearty "amen" to this thread myself. I've had two long-term relationships in my life, one in high school and one in the early part of college. It took me awhile to get over that last one since it was pretty deep, but it turns out that I was more involved than my GF was. That ended up undermining the old relationship confidence, but I got over it eventually. But by now I think the realistic truth is that it's unlikely that we have any time to form any sort of the deep relationship with the time left in our undergrad days. I've had a few random hook-ups as well, but I'm over looking for them. At this point I'm really looking for something worth hanging on to and it seems like this won't be occurring in what little time is left at my undergrad institution.

Anyways, I'm done with that self-reflection BS. If I've learned anything so far it's that good relationships happen when you aren't looking for them, so just keep on keeping on and it'll work out in the end.

 

[dokein]

Not a single medical school in the U.S. requires a semester of dating experience. You will generally need 2 semesters of English, 1 semester of calculus, 2 semesters of gen bio, 2 semesters of chem, and 2 semsters of o chem. So yeah, you are good to do.

As far as I am aware, no residencies require it either. Plus unless you're dating the PD it isn't considered an important EC.

 

[apumic]

If all else fails (and porn's not doin' it for you), there's always this:

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=urNyg1ftMIU&feature=fvw[/YOUTUBE]

 

[jturkel]

to the OP:

i think its best to play the field at this point....smartly. but since this is a pre-medical forum...be safe...and use protection lol.

 

[brado]

It took me awhile to get over that last one since it was pretty deep, but it turns out that I was more involved than my GF was.

It's scary how this happens...same thing happened to me a month ago and now my ex-gf of 7 months is in a relationship with someone else already. Worst I've ever felt in my life this last month. Don't make someone a priority when you're only an option.

But to the OP, I feel for you. All 5 of my roommates have all been in a relationship for 3-6 years (they're only seniors in college too), and when we first moved in over a year 1/2 ago, I hadn't ever met a girl that held my interest for more than a ten minutes. It sucks waiting for the right one.

 

[Yudid]

I got home from a friend's small get-together and it just made me depressed. There were 11 people there, and 5 couples. Who was the 11th wheel? Yours truly...

I mean, it wasn't awkward or anything because they're all my close friends but man... I just felt out of place. I'm just tired of being "the single guy" every time. Obviously, I hang out with other single people, but my closest friends are mostly all committed. Tomorrow night, they'll all be giving their new years kisses and I'll just be watching, probably just drinking my drink.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not the anti-social, awkward around girls type. I've had plenty of the shameful one-night stands, the "damn, this month was crazy, I better go get tested" and "uh, whats your name again?" times, and Planned Parenthood should have been on my speed-dial. Recently, I took a vow of abstinence because I knew that this lifestyle wasn't me and because I became known around campus as the manwhore. And I've kept that vow ever since (I broke it once, but I just had to that time lol).

The longest relationship I've had was one month. no joke. I don't know anything about relationships. I was never the dating type because I just got tired of the same people quickly. But I'm ready to change that. I just don't know how. All my friends say that the day I get a girlfriend will be the day hell freezes over. I'm known to girls around campus either as "just a friend" on the one spectrum or "an easy lay" on the other side of the spectrum. And now, when I tell girls I'm abstinent, they back off. I don't know what to do, I'm just frustrated. I want to have that meaningful connection with someone, that New Years kiss, that someone who I can call just to talk and not to invite over to my bed. I'll be moving away in 7 months, so my thoughts go towards if its really worth it? Should I just wait till med school? Will it CHANGE in med school? Will it be easier?



Thanks for listening to my rant. I'd appreciate any advice or any thoughts of people going through the same thing or from some of you who thought they'd never settle down. (I'm 22 by the way).

Hey i am ready for a boyfriend

 

[Poliscidoc]

The secret to getting a girlfriend isnt hard and nor should it scare the **** out of you. If you are able to get a one night stand girl that is "DTF" then getting a girlfriend is just one more step. When you talk to a girl just be yourself, in the next 7 months you might get a girlfriend, might find your soulmate, or could just screw an entire dorm of girls. The truth is- it doesn't matter. In the end it will all work out. Good luck to you, I just got out of along relationship (3 years) and could care less about a GF but I wonder sometimes about when I start med school what is going to happen. In the mean time keep you and your little man happy and have fun. Your only 22! Now is not the time to let up your in your prime and are about to go into 4 years of hell.


The moral of the story
1. Use a condom
2. Do what you want
3. Have fun doing whatever you like to do and along the way your will find a girl that likes the same and BAM you got a gf or maybe even a wife later.



Thanks and gooluck,
Poliscidoc

 

[avksx]

SDN hookups are the best.

 

[Cleveland]

Just chill. Everything falls into place better than you could have hoped for when you realize that you have a certain degree of control over your life, and that level of control can't cover everything...especially men/women (pick your poison, they both will shorten your life haaaaa.) Remember that love flows.

Don't invite them to bed...try inviting them to coffee next Tuesday.

 

[Narmerguy]

Just don't force it. Let it come. If you're a decent guy and not awkward the right chemistry will unfold.

 

[mipp0]

The secret to getting a girlfriend isnt hard and nor should it scare the **** out of you. If you are able to get a one night stand girl that is "DTF" then getting a girlfriend is just one more step. When you talk to a girl just be yourself, in the next 7 months you might get a girlfriend, might find your soulmate, or could just screw an entire dorm of girls. The truth is- it doesn't matter. In the end it will all work out. Good luck to you, I just got out of along relationship (3 years) and could care less about a GF but I wonder sometimes about when I start med school what is going to happen. In the mean time keep you and your little man happy and have fun. Your only 22! Now is not the time to let up your in your prime and are about to go into 4 years of hell.


The moral of the story
1. Use a condom
2. Do what you want
3. Have fun doing whatever you like to do and along the way your will find a girl that likes the same and BAM you got a gf or maybe even a wife later.



Thanks and gooluck,
Poliscidoc

I reckon the girl deserves better than a hook up because this kid's lonely.

 

[Poliscidoc]

I reckon the girl deserves better than a hook up because this kid's lonely.

Im pretty sure that for a one night stand to work there has to be two people to agree. I know guys are not the only ones that do this.

 

[mipp0]

Im pretty sure that for a one night stand to work there has to be two people to agree. I know guys are not the only ones that do this.

You're missing the point. It sounds like he's forcing a relationship b/c clearly his lonely. And he's given up his whoremongering for abstinence if you haven't read his post, though I'm skeptical.

I say the girl (whoever she is in the future) deserves a little better than that.

 

[tennisball80]

40% of applicants get accepted by a medical school each year. But, if I ask 10 girls out, I am sure 8, 9, or even 10 would say "no." Still, medical school has a higher acceptance rate comparing to women. So yea, getting into a medical school is easier than getting a girlfriend.

 

[Burk]

WAIT. Med school spells disaster for young relationships.

Since I'm still an undergraduate... I think I still have a false sense of how difficult medical school will be like. I've heard it's like 3 years of undergraduate study crammed into 1 year. On the other hand, another person has told me that it's easier than undergraduate, due to the pass/fail system - less stressing out on grades. Can anyone explain what the workload is like?

 

[texahn]

40% of applicants get accepted by a medical school each year. But, if I ask 10 girls out, I am sure 8, 9, or even 10 would say "no." Still, medical school has a higher acceptance rate comparing to women. So yea, getting into a medical school is easier than getting a girlfriend.

lol
uh...

 

[Burk]

Date more, find out what bores you and what you like and then keep an eye out for someone who seems like she may work out as a long-term (hopefully one day permanent) partner.

I agree with this. I remember volunteering in the ER, and a couple of nurses that were probably past 40 or 50, gave me this advice. I was a little bit surprised, because I had expected, from women, a response more like being a good boyfriend/listening/be respectful, but instead all I got was to date a lot to find out what you really like in a partner.

As a side note, the nurses there also told me never to date a nurse if I become a doctor -- because, as their words put it, will try to get pregnant and steal your money. D: And then this male nurse said, "Well you can mess around with them, but make sure you bring your own condoms. She might have poked holes in hers." O_O

 

[riverjib]

I got home from a friend's small get-together and it just made me depressed. There were 11 people there, and 5 couples. Who was the 11th wheel? Yours truly...

I mean, it wasn't awkward or anything because they're all my close friends but man... I just felt out of place. I'm just tired of being "the single guy" every time. Obviously, I hang out with other single people, but my closest friends are mostly all committed. Tomorrow night, they'll all be giving their new years kisses and I'll just be watching, probably just drinking my drink.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not the anti-social, awkward around girls type. I've had plenty of the shameful one-night stands, the "damn, this month was crazy, I better go get tested" and "uh, whats your name again?" times, and Planned Parenthood should have been on my speed-dial. Recently, I took a vow of abstinence because I knew that this lifestyle wasn't me and because I became known around campus as the manwhore. And I've kept that vow ever since (I broke it once, but I just had to that time lol).

The longest relationship I've had was one month. no joke. I don't know anything about relationships. I was never the dating type because I just got tired of the same people quickly. But I'm ready to change that. I just don't know how. All my friends say that the day I get a girlfriend will be the day hell freezes over. I'm known to girls around campus either as "just a friend" on the one spectrum or "an easy lay" on the other side of the spectrum. And now, when I tell girls I'm abstinent, they back off. I don't know what to do, I'm just frustrated. I want to have that meaningful connection with someone, that New Years kiss, that someone who I can call just to talk and not to invite over to my bed. I'll be moving away in 7 months, so my thoughts go towards if its really worth it? Should I just wait till med school? Will it CHANGE in med school? Will it be easier?



Thanks for listening to my rant. I'd appreciate any advice or any thoughts of people going through the same thing or from some of you who thought they'd never settle down. (I'm 22 by the way).

It'll change, as long as your attitude about women does. My fiance was actually abstinent, not for religious reasons or because he had a wild youth, but because he wanted to wait. He was a division I athlete who had girls throwing themselves at him in college.

Sex is one thing, and relationships are something entirely different. I'll never preach abstinence, but follow your heart. Ugh--that sounds so trite, but it's true. Relationships at 22 are usually superficial at best. My sister found the love of her life at 17, and another friend of mine married his at 24, but the odds for relationships like theirs are diminishing by the day. I just got engaged to the love of my life at 30, and I consider myself lucky. Many people who marry before the age of 30 may end up divorced by the time they're 40. I've already lived long enough to see people my age marry and divorce. You can't force the right situation.

You're too young to be desperately seeking love. Let it come to you. It may be someone in your med school class, someone in the hospital, or someone else you befriend somewhere outside of school and your future work place. Let it just happen. I was totally cynical, and found a like-minded friend who eventually turned out to be "the one." I'm glad I found him the way I did--through friendship--because I may have been either too cynical or too disgusted with how cute it actually was to let myself fall for him

 

[mipp0]

Since I'm still an undergraduate... I think I still have a false sense of how difficult medical school will be like. I've heard it's like 3 years of undergraduate study crammed into 1 year. On the other hand, another person has told me that it's easier than undergraduate, due to the pass/fail system - less stressing out on grades. Can anyone explain what the workload is like?

Many med students illustrate the difference as such:

Undergraduate years are like drinking out of a garden hose. Sucks, some people drown, but if you make it, you move on to medical school...

Medical school is like drinking out of a fire hose. Go youtube a fire hose if you haven't seen one in action...

There is a medical school honor society that admits members based on their rank and ROAD specialties demand some hard work, blood, and many many tears. If you're going the primary care route, the stress level is diminished naturally.

 

[schrizto]

Not a single medical school in the U.S. requires a semester of dating experience. You will generally need 2 semesters of English, 1 semester of calculus, 2 semesters of gen bio, 2 semesters of chem, and 2 semsters of o chem. So yeah, you are good to do.

40% of applicants get accepted by a medical school each year. But, if I ask 10 girls out, I am sure 8, 9, or even 10 would say "no." Still, medical school has a higher acceptance rate comparing to women. So yea, getting into a medical school is easier than getting a girlfriend.

Please don't comment on this thread anymore.

 

[schrizto]

embarrassing triple post. dang you servers at 5 am!

 

[schrizto]

embarrassing triple post.

 

[J ROD]

I got home from a friend's small get-together and it just made me depressed. There were 11 people there, and 5 couples. Who was the 11th wheel? Yours truly...

I mean, it wasn't awkward or anything because they're all my close friends but man... I just felt out of place. I'm just tired of being "the single guy" every time. Obviously, I hang out with other single people, but my closest friends are mostly all committed. Tomorrow night, they'll all be giving their new years kisses and I'll just be watching, probably just drinking my drink.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not the anti-social, awkward around girls type. I've had plenty of the shameful one-night stands, the "damn, this month was crazy, I better go get tested" and "uh, whats your name again?" times, and Planned Parenthood should have been on my speed-dial. Recently, I took a vow of abstinence because I knew that this lifestyle wasn't me and because I became known around campus as the manwhore. And I've kept that vow ever since (I broke it once, but I just had to that time lol).

The longest relationship I've had was one month. no joke. I don't know anything about relationships. I was never the dating type because I just got tired of the same people quickly. But I'm ready to change that. I just don't know how. All my friends say that the day I get a girlfriend will be the day hell freezes over. I'm known to girls around campus either as "just a friend" on the one spectrum or "an easy lay" on the other side of the spectrum. And now, when I tell girls I'm abstinent, they back off. I don't know what to do, I'm just frustrated. I want to have that meaningful connection with someone, that New Years kiss, that someone who I can call just to talk and not to invite over to my bed. I'll be moving away in 7 months, so my thoughts go towards if its really worth it? Should I just wait till med school? Will it CHANGE in med school? Will it be easier?



Thanks for listening to my rant. I'd appreciate any advice or any thoughts of people going through the same thing or from some of you who thought they'd never settle down. (I'm 22 by the way).

abstinent....

Just bang some chicks and enjoy life....you are 22!!! You have years to find someone you really like....most of your friend's relationships will break!!

Plus, being in a relationship is alot of work and stress.....

I much rather just have someone to go to the movies with and have sex with.

 

[DntStopBelievin]

abstinent....

Just bang some chicks and enjoy life....you are 22!!! You have years to find someone you really like....most of your friend's relationships will break!!

Plus, being in a relationship is alot of work and stress.....

I much rather just have someone to go to the movies with and have sex with.

Disgusting! This thinking is what makes so many girls upset at guys!

Obviously men and women who are around 22 aren't looking for the same things yet, so wait for a real relationship when you are ready for it...most of the time women are looking for someone they can trust not some short fling. Maybe now isn't the right time for looking for a relationship but maybe after the stresses of med school you'll find the right girl. It's great that you want to make a change in your lifestyle for the better, and by the way you've described it, it seems like it might be a bit tough. But trust me you'll find that girl who will make you want to change or who'll make the change worth it. im not sure if what i just said made sense but w/e..good luck to you!

 

[s1lver]

Dude, just use your right hand (or left). Same result.

 

[JStephens]

Sex is overrated, relationships are vastly overrated. There will ALWAYS be women out there, don't be in such a rush to have a relationship. As previously stated, they're a lot of work to do it right. It will happen when it's supposed to, it generally always does. And when i say sex is overrated, im talking about the sleeping around that 98% of the guys here tell you to do. Lube+internet=win.

 

[Nikki2002]

you've just got to find someone who absolutely adores you. Someone who still loves you even when you haven't left the house for a few days, you look like crap, and you are totally out of your mind with stress about some stupid exam. someone who will look the other way when you are acting like some freakin psycho. you will hit some low points in med school and it ain't gonna be pretty.

 

[VTBuc]

Sex is overrated, relationships are vastly overrated. There will ALWAYS be women out there, don't be in such a rush to have a relationship. As previously stated, they're a lot of work to do it right. It will happen when it's supposed to, it generally always does. And when i say sex is overrated, im talking about the sleeping around that 98% of the guys here tell you to do. Lube+internet=win.

+1

I'm a 100% commitaphobe. You know how Batman choses to be Batman because bats are his biggest fear? I'd be Commitmentman. I always find something wrong about the girl I'm seeing. I stopped seeing one girl because she had a messy car. I stopped seeing another girl because her mom added me on Facebook. I stopped seeing another girl because she didn't know what the word "preliminary" meant. I stopped seeing another girl because she showed up unannounced once.

Honestly, brother...why would you want to get yourself into something like that? It's absolutely terrifying.

 

[MichaelRW]

so tomorrow im spending new years with all my friends who are dating and i am gonna be that guy without the special new years kiss.

This doesn't have to be so.. find a cute girl at the party/gathering/get-together, throw around a little bit of game, be confident and adequately assertive, be sure that you two are standing/sitting next to each other as the ball drops at midnight, look at her just before (directly in her eyes), then kiss her. Don't over-do it, just a simple kiss. Furthermore, it is possible (and highly likely) that she is feeling the same way you are and wishing that she could kiss someone on new years eve. Kissing a girl as the ball drops on New Years Eve does not have to be a big deal and who knows, maybe after your "meaningless kiss" you can ask her out to dinner or something for sometime next week. Be confident, try to smile frequently and not look like a depressed statue, maybe even attempt to show your humorous/funny side (w/o being corny....er, who knows, she may even like corny). Point is, there is no excuse to NOT kiss a girl on NYEve, whether it means nothing, or it means the whole world.

 

[IDoIt4Love]

OP, getting a gf isn't something you can just plan. A lot of it has to do with when you meet the right person. Often that happens when you're *not* looking. Also, you can't know you're ready for a relationship just because all your friends are in one! Come on! If I just followed the example of all of my friends I'd have partied my way through undergrad and never made it this far! (and by this far I mean, applying to med school right now)

That being said, it seems to me that you tend to take an all-or-nothing approach. You've always either been a manwhore or, now, a saint, when moderation and flexibility are really what is key in establishing and keeping a good relationship going.

Meet some new people (girls who don't know about your former manwhore reputation) in the right places. You're more likely to find gf material in a class you're taking, at the gym, the library, or an organization that you're active with on campus than in a bar or club. Don't meet girls drunk. Meet them in everyday situations and bond with them over common interests.

And as far as sex goes--you don't have to swear off of it (unless you have some other pressing, unrelated reason to), just don't rush into it. Give yourself time to really get to know the girl and get comfortable around her, know clearly why you like her (why she's compatible with you), and, well, wait for a bit. Be with her for a while! Go out on several dates doing several different activities; don't just take her back to your place. Take the leap into intimacy once you've really gotten to know the girl (and even grown to love her!) it will definitely take on a whole different meaning for you.

Best of luck!

 

[xnfs93hy]

Please don't comment on this thread anymore.

 

[frescoengano]

40% of applicants get accepted by a medical school each year. But, if i ask 10 girls out, i am sure 8, 9, or even 10 would say "no." still, medical school has a higher acceptance rate comparing to women. So yea, getting into a medical school is easier than getting a girlfriend.

haha

 

[Hoody]

Please don't comment on this thread anymore.

Don't censor people. Maybe you shouldn't comment on this forum anymore.



And I'm ready for a girlfriend too....

oh wait.....

whatever.

 

[chicubsfan]

I've had plenty of the shameful one-night stands, the "damn, this month was crazy, I better go get tested" and "uh, whats your name again?" times, and Planned Parenthood should have been on my speed-dial. Recently, I took a vow of abstinence because I knew that this lifestyle wasn't me and because I became known around campus as the manwhore.

maybe this is why you don't have a girlfriend.

 

[alexlex143]

Aww, you're too cute OP this thread is interesting because it shows that guys, your age in particular, are capable of LOVE! hehe. Or at least something deeper and meaningful, though there are those of you that still think your penis.

As for relationship advice...hmmm. Well. I think it's good that you realize you want something more from a woman than just the physical. I think that's a good step. But I'm going to have to agree with the majority here. Since you'll be starting med school soon, it may be difficult for a young relationship to sustain that type of stress and pressure if you go about finding a gf now. If you wait until med school and get accustomed to the rough curriculum, you will better understand what you need to look for in someone else and also what they need to understand of your situation. If you do find the love of your life now (very romanticized, I know, but I am a woman ), I would say go for it. It'll be tough though, but a strong bond can get through that. Relationships aren't easy and there will never be a good time. There will always be reasons not to be in a relationship and if you always succumb to that pressure, you'll never find someone. Keep and open mind and, more importantly, keep an open heart

 

[NickNaylor]

Aww, you're too cute OP this thread is interesting because it shows that guys, your age in particular, are capable of LOVE! hehe. Or at least something deeper and meaningful, though there are those of you that still think your penis.

As for relationship advice...hmmm. Well. I think it's good that you realize you want something more from a woman than just the physical. I think that's a good step. But I'm going to have to agree with the majority here. Since you'll be starting med school soon, it may be difficult for a young relationship to sustain that type of stress and pressure if you go about finding a gf now. If you wait until med school and get accustomed to the rough curriculum, you will better understand what you need to look for in someone else and also what they need to understand of your situation. If you do find the love of your life now (very romanticized, I know, but I am a woman ), I would say go for it. It'll be tough though, but a strong bond can get through that. Relationships aren't easy and there will never be a good time. There will always be reasons not to be in a relationship and if you always succumb to that pressure, you'll never find someone. Keep and open mind and, more importantly, keep an open heart

lolwut

 

[VTBuc]

OP, whatever you do...don't let her touch your money. We're in modern times, she can pay for her own dinner.

 

[schrizto]

Don't censor people. Maybe you shouldn't comment on this forum anymore.



And I'm ready for a girlfriend too....

oh wait.....

whatever.

Psh, half his posts are about how it's more difficult to ask a girl out than do well on MCAT verbal. It's not my problem if I express an opinion (in jest) and you act offended because you can identify with him.