Is this response to a secondary appropriate

[EightMan888]

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Secondary Question: What is a recent problem you have faced and how did you overcome it.

Problem: My wife and I were moving to another state when I finished my undergad. She moved first to settle in before I graduated. A month before I graduated she was sexually assaulted in the other state. My wife obviously was traumatized and I had to drop everything to move sooner to be with her. I had to coordinated with professors so that way I could still graduate. But, I had to cancel my MCAT and I ended up getting my only C+ in Bioethics (a theology course). I averaged a 3.85 before that. The problems I faced do not compare to what my wife had to face, but the situation was definitely the biggest problem I have had to face in my recent undergrad.

Dilemma: I don't want to make myself look like the victim or a narcissist. What my wife went through was terrible and I don't want to give them the impression that I am minimizing her experience. Is it even appropriate to bring up this experience at the secondary stage or beyond?

Thank you for your feedback.

 

[OchemOficionado]

Ehh. I don't know if it's a suitable topic or not, but you definitely need someone to proof read your secondaries before you send them in. This was kinda hard to read and had an error or two. I don't love the way you described your grade and GPA, but I'm sure with some thought you can introduce it better (if you absolutely have to say it at all). Also, you didn't answer the second part of the question. Maybe another topic would be better suited.

 

[SpoiledMilk]

I am truly sorry for what happened to your wife, but I don't think this is appropriate for a secondary. Just my $0.02.

 

[BombsAway]

I would leave all the grades/school stuff out of it and stick to the horrible situation being horrible and how you dealt with it.

 

[EightMan888]

Thank you. That's all I needed to know. I will go down another path. @OchemOficionado I was rushed posting this thread. I will edit thoroughly next time. Thanks for the feedback.

 

[bbbcccppp]

I am sorry for your terrible situation. I would characterize this more as a major adversity. Problem suggests asking about a less significant event imo. I agree that juxtaposing a grades situation could be misinterpreted. I think that a degree of trust needs to be established in certain communications. I might be less specific at first if I decided to address this on a form. A face to face interview where I was comfortable with the asker might be different.


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[bannie22]

I dont think you understand the question.

The question is really asking you to describe the traits you have and how you utilized them in a situation.

That is what you need to emphasize, not the situation itself.