Just finished Freshman Year. Worried and Depressed About Next Year. HELP!!!

[newlife145191]

I just finished my freshman year at a state college. My freshman year, I had some trouble meeting people. I was able to get a good group of 8-10 friends, who lived in my dorm, and who I would hang out with on a daily basis. Now that freshman year is over, we are all living in different places. For example 5/8 kids I hung out with are moving 25 minutes off campus, so I will rarely see them. The other 3 kids are nearby, but in completely separate dorms. The kids who are moving 25 minutes away from campus, asked me to live with them, but I couldn't because it is far from campus, and I don't plan on having a car.


So next year, an acquaintance asked to room with me, since I couldn't room with my close friends. At first, the acquaintance seemed normal. Then he started becoming werid. We decided to have lunch together, to talk about who is bringing what next year. The kid then asked me to go to his religious place of worship with him. I didn't want to, but he kept persisting, until the point where I felt like he was trying to convert me. (It was annoying, the kid wouldn't take no for an answer). Then I went up to get more food, and when I came back, he was looking through my backpack. WTF, he seems really intrusive.


My main fears next year is that this kid that I agreed to room with will be extremely intrusive (looking through ALL of my stuff), and that he will keep trying to convert me to his religion. I am also afraid of not having my close group of friends to hang out with, they were my support system in college, and with them gone, I don't know what I will do. I am freaking out. Please help, I can't even sleep or eat just thinking about this.


Is dorm life for freshman similar to dorm life for sophomores? Freshman year, everyone made an effort to make friends with kids in our dorm. Is sophomore year similar to that?


I am also pre-med, so I wasn't able to spend a lot of time meeting people, to busy studying. Without my support system, my grades will suffer....PLEASE HELP...

I also wasn't very involved in clubs, I went to the meetings, but didn't make friends there. I didn't really have to, because my close group of friends were always there for me to hang out with..

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[Slowpoke]

woah, settle down. breath.

Talk to your new room-mate. Try to explain to him that you don't think its right for him to look through your stuff without your permission. Emphasis that you aren't looking for spiritual enlightenment and be stern about it. If he doesn't comply, tell him that you can't see yourself rooming with him.

Get involved on campus - make new friends. You don't have to necessarily room with people to be friends with them.

 

[newlife145191]

If he doesn't comply, tell him that you can't see yourself rooming with him.

I can't do this, because we were already assigned our housing assignments.

Get involved on campus - make new friends. You don't have to necessarily room with people to be friends with them.

I am just afraid that I will be lonely next year. I don't see a whole lot of clubs that interest me on campus. If my roommate is werid, I don't want to constantly hang around him. I am really nervous.


Anyone have any similar experiences? Does it get better? My close group of friends, would always invite me to dinner/lunch with them. What if the new kids on my floor don't invite me out? I don't want to have to go to every meal with my roommmate.


Freshman Year, I knew some upperclassman seniors who were from my hometown. These kids watched over me, and took me out into the city(I don't have a car), but now they are graduating, and I don't even have them to hang out with. =(

I literally start sweating when I think of my situation. I can't even sleep, and I have a final tomm.

 

[tiedyeddog]

I can't do this, because we were already assigned our housing assignments.



I am just afraid that I will be lonely next year. I don't see a whole lot of clubs that interest me on campus. If my roommate is werid, I don't want to constantly hang around him. I am really nervous.

Alright dude/dudette, here's the deal. I spent my entire first three years of college in a long distance relationships that seriously hampered my ability to make friends. After the relationship end I was super lonely. The key is to push yourself outside of your comfort zone a bit. You have to put yourself out there to make new friends. Join some clubs you are only marginally interested in and TALK to people. The more you talk to people, the more likely you will be to make new friends! Get people's phone numbers, ask people what their interests are, go see concerts of bands you like and meet people there.

You're in college, meet people in your classes! Try to talk to people. I'm serious, talk to everyone. Strike up conversations with the person checking you out at the grocery store. The more you talk, the more likely you'll make friends.

Ok, another thing is, it sounds like you do have some friends from freshman year. You have to be PROACTIVE and schedule things with them. Find out things they like and do those things. Go to the zoo, see movies, travel with them. ASK THEM IF THEY HAVE FRIENDS YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO MEET!!!

Take it from me. Friends don't tend to fall from the sky. Be proactive. I was EXTREMELY lonely after my long term relationship ended and I regretted not making friends sooner. Don't wallow in pity about it, do something now. BUT, don't give up when it seems like you're doing all this talking and not making friends. Seriously, you'll meet people.

Hope this helps, I felt better about my situation in life pumping it out.

 

[schrizto]

You seem really needy and dependent, OP. Most of the stuff you're freaking out about don't seem that bad other than the intrusive roommate.

 

[BlitzSleep]

OP reminds me of this guy:
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZDa2yQ_ncY[/youtube]

 

[Perrotfish]

Have you signed a contract yet? If so, can you get out of it? Honestly, if it were me I'd work an extra job over the summer and get a vehicle so I could live with the guys I liked. I mean, it seems like you know exactly what you want to do, so if your curent situation is causing you this much stress I think you should find a way to do it.

 

[Poliscidoc]

I just finished my freshman year at a state college. My freshman year, I had some trouble meeting people. I was able to get a good group of 8-10 friends, who lived in my dorm, and who I would hang out with on a daily basis. Now that freshman year is over, we are all living in different places. For example 5/8 kids I hung out with are moving 25 minutes off campus, so I will rarely see them. The other 3 kids are nearby, but in completely separate dorms. The kids who are moving 25 minutes away from campus, asked me to live with them, but I couldn't because it is far from campus, and I don't plan on having a car.


So next year, an acquaintance asked to room with me, since I couldn't room with my close friends. At first, the acquaintance seemed normal. Then he started becoming werid. We decided to have lunch together, to talk about who is bringing what next year. The kid then asked me to go to his religious place of worship with him. I didn't want to, but he kept persisting, until the point where I felt like he was trying to convert me. (It was annoying, the kid wouldn't take no for an answer). Then I went up to get more food, and when I came back, he was looking through my backpack. WTF, he seems really intrusive.


My main fears next year is that this kid that I agreed to room with will be extremely intrusive (looking through ALL of my stuff), and that he will keep trying to convert me to his religion. I am also afraid of not having my close group of friends to hang out with, they were my support system in college, and with them gone, I don't know what I will do. I am freaking out. Please help, I can't even sleep or eat just thinking about this.


Is dorm life for freshman similar to dorm life for sophomores? Freshman year, everyone made an effort to make friends with kids in our dorm. Is sophomore year similar to that?


I am also pre-med, so I wasn't able to spend a lot of time meeting people, to busy studying. Without my support system, my grades will suffer....PLEASE HELP...

I also wasn't very involved in clubs, I went to the meetings, but didn't make friends there. I didn't really have to, because my close group of friends were always there for me to hang out with..

Isn't everybody on this forum a "Pre-med"? You dont have to study every moment of the day to get good grades. Go out and meet new people, but dont be upset or depressed if you cant meet people because you are studying for class 24/7

 

[newlife145191]

Isn't everybody on this forum a "Pre-med"? You dont have to study every moment of the day to get good grades. Go out and meet new people, but dont be upset or depressed if you cant meet people because you are studying for class 24/7

I lied about going to a state school. I go to a top 10 school, which means the pre-med path is brutal.


Are sophomores just as willing to make friends with kids on their floor as freshman? Or do most sophomores already have a group of friends? Is it harder to make new friends as a sophomore than it is as a freshman. I like having a group of friends on my floor that I could always hang out with, go to diner with, and stuff like that. =(, Going to really miss this year.

 

[armybound]

Sorry, if you don't make friends as a freshman you will never make friends again for the rest of your life.

It's scientifically impossible to make new friends after freshman year.

 

[Slowpoke]

I lied about going to a state school. I go to a top 10 school, which means the pre-med path is brutal.


Are sophomores just as willing to make friends with kids on their floor as freshman? Or do most sophomores already have a group of friends? Is it harder to make new friends as a sophomore than it is as a freshman. I like having a group of friends on my floor that I could always hang out with, go to diner with, and stuff like that. =(, Going to really miss this year.

I lied about my suggestion of talking to your roommate in a mature manner. What I really wanted to say was, Grow some ****ing balls and stop whining.

 

[Perrotfish]

Are sophomores just as willing to make friends with kids on their floor as freshman? Or do most sophomores already have a group of friends? Is it harder to make new friends as a sophomore than it is as a freshman. I like having a group of friends on my floor that I could always hang out with, go to diner with, and stuff like that. =(, Going to really miss this year.

Honestly I don't think dorms are a great place to meet people after freshman year. Freshman year was my last year in dorms, but the ones I visited definitely were more like apartments than the fraternity house atmosphere of 1st year dorms. There were no open doors and not a lot of common spaces. Its definitely still possible to meet people, but you'll probably have to meet them in class, at a school club, or something like that.

Again, just how broke are you that you can't possibly afford a vehicle to either live with your friends or at least drive out to their house a few times a week? That seems like the easiest way out of this, and if you're going to a private school that doesn't seem like it would realy affect your debt load. Failing that, have you considered fraternity rush? You'd probably need to take a lighter load during your pledge semester, but after that you'd have a built in social network on campus. Another idea is to join one of the less competitive sprots clubs: you have to exercise anyway, so it's not really lost time, and athletics tends to make people bond more than academic clubs.

Also, if you're drowning in so much work that you really can't leave the apartment to meet anyone, have you considered dropping down to a lighter load and either taking summer classes or graduating in 5 years? I promise med schools don't care whether you got your GPA taking 12 credits a semester rather than 18. At my school most people with either engineering degrees or premedical degrees (meaning just about everyone) took 5 years to graduate.

I lied about going to a state school. I go to a top 10 school, which means the pre-med path is brutal.

Also, WTF? A top 10 school means more grade inflation vs. a top state school, not less. Also, why in the world would you lie about that?

 

[Poliscidoc]

Troll sweet I'm first:troll:

 

[Perrotfish]

Troll sweet I'm first:troll:

So he's here to 'troll' the board with a somewhat sad and competely non inflamatory post?

 

[n4pher]

Sorry, if you don't make friends as a freshman you will never make friends again for the rest of your life.

It's scientifically impossible to make new friends after freshman year.

 

[EpicBearMan]

So he's here to 'troll' the board with a somewhat sad and competely non inflamatory post?

Despite the age of his account, this looks like a troll thread to me too.

 

[Perrotfish]

Despite the age of his account, this looks like a troll thread to me too.

Yeah I'm not seeing it. What about his questions seem like they're designed to provoke a fight? Trolls generally ask 'questions' that imply an insult to someone, and generally on topics that have previous provoked fights ("Does getting a 3.9 make me too dumb for medical school")? Also, since most of them are kids screwing around on the internet, they normally have a very poor command of spelling and sentence structure and use a lot of interntisms (Me trolin? R U guys 4 realz?). OP shows none of those characteristics.

 

[Hifey]

OP relax.

First, the "brutal pre-med path". You're not the first nor will you be the last. Others have made it before you and so can you. You just need to find the best and most efficient study habits for you.

also, don't lie. No one cares if you went to state school or top 10. You just make yourself look bad.

As far as the friends thing, I would try to get as far away from that roommate as possible. Second, I met most of my college best friends sophmore year and later. People that I was REALLY close to freshman year aren't that close anymore because our lives have changed drastically from the conditions under which we met. You'll be fine. Just join a club, a volunteering activity, or even just talk to people from your classes. You'd be surprised.

 

[searun]

OP, you need a girlfriend. Seriously. And you need to quit hyperventilating about your life. I had to tell two people yesterday that they have terminal illnesses and are going to die in the near future. You are going to have to toughen up if you really want to become a physician.

 

[schrizto]

I lied about going to a state school. I go to a top 10 school, which means the pre-med path is brutal.


Are sophomores just as willing to make friends with kids on their floor as freshman? Or do most sophomores already have a group of friends? Is it harder to make new friends as a sophomore than it is as a freshman. I like having a group of friends on my floor that I could always hang out with, go to diner with, and stuff like that. =(, Going to really miss this year.

 

[locus000]

OP I am sure you are interested in something, So Join that organization/club. Tell them your story and make new friends. Organizations are always needing new people to join, so they should be very welcoming.

From personal experience, I met most of my closest friends because we have something in common.. Playing Pool. So it not hard!

Go out there and Enjoy College!!

 

[schrizto]

So he's here to 'troll' the board with a somewhat sad and competely non inflamatory post?

I don't think his posts are troll but the OP sounds really immature. First, making a thread worried about being separated from friends because he's not rooming with them any longer, and then making up the fact that he goes to a top 10 school.

Cry me a river. Especially with the pre-med route, you're not going to always be with the same group of friends due to the moving around that pursuing an education often entails. And we're not stupid, the "I lied, I actually go to a top 10 school" was so superficial no one fell for it.

 

[EpicBearMan]

Yeah I'm not seeing it. What about his questions seem like they're designed to provoke a fight? Trolls generally ask 'questions' that imply an insult to someone, and generally on topics that have previous provoked fights ("Does getting a 3.9 make me too dumb for medical school")? Also, since most of them are kids screwing around on the internet, they normally have a very poor command of spelling and sentence structure and use a lot of interntisms (Me trolin? R U guys 4 realz?). OP shows none of those characteristics.

In particular, his comment about the brutal pre-med path at top 10 schools seemed rather trollish to me. The overly sappy and detailed story also raised my suspicion. I could be wrong though, I'm just suspicious.

If the story is real, my advice would be to try to find ways to mix academics and your social life. Talk to people in your classes and form a study group. Get together and study at a local coffee shop or something. Studying doesn't have to be depressing.

 

[UnlonelyRoad]

If the story is real, my advice would be to try to find ways to mix academics and your social life. Talk to people in your classes and form a study group. Get together and study at a local coffee shop or something. Studying doesn't have to be depressing.

It was at my school. Professors would measure your serotonin levels before exams. If they were too high, they'd deduct points from your score.

 

[pkpHawks87]

Do what all the cool people do. Join a house and pay for your friends!

 

[JoshUNCW]

Yeah I'm not seeing it. What about his questions seem like they're designed to provoke a fight? Trolls generally ask 'questions' that imply an insult to someone, and generally on topics that have previous provoked fights ("Does getting a 3.9 make me too dumb for medical school")? Also, since most of them are kids screwing around on the internet, they normally have a very poor command of spelling and sentence structure and use a lot of interntisms (Me trolin? R U guys 4 realz?). OP shows none of those characteristics.

Trolls don't have to start fights. They're just attention seekers that will post whatever to get responses cause their pathetic.

OP: Grow up dude. Make some friends. It's sophomore year, you're not moving to Siberia. Life goes on. And being premed at any school, even top 10 shouldn't mean you have no life. Maybe you're not smart enough and need to go a different path that'll make things easier on you.

 

[Perrotfish]

I don't think his posts are troll but the OP sounds really immature. First, making a thread worried about being separated from friends because he's not rooming with them any longer, and then making up the fact that he goes to a top 10 school.

Well, yeah, he's 19. Aren't most people immature at 19?

 

[Tin Man]

I just moved directly into an apartment and avoided the whole dorm thing. It was cheaper, and I got to choose my roommate.

The guy can't convert you to a religion unless you want to be converted. Let him blabber. It shouldn't bother you unless you let it.

As for friends... well. There's always the internet. Not for friends. Porn. No need for friends if you have porn.

Seriously, friends aren't THAT hard to make. I'm a pretty antisocial, grouchy person. But I went out on a limb and invited one of my lab partners over to study for the lecture test, and we've been friends since then. Sometimes, all it takes is a little motivation on your part. Most people aren't opposed to starting up a conversation with a new person if approached. As stated, get some balls and say hello to someone.

 

[schrizto]

Well, yeah, he's 19. Aren't most people immature at 19?

I'm 19 and it's no excuse for immaturity.

 

[JoshUNCW]

Is this thread seriously about teaching asocial people how to make friends? I think OPs troll-ish question has been answered. Sophomore year, not a big deal, go out, make friends,..... profit?

 

[Tin Man]

Is this thread seriously about teaching asocial people how to make friends? I think OPs troll-ish question has been answered. Sophomore year, not a big deal, go out, make friends,..... profit?

Troll or not, I can't imagine that even the majority of pre-meds out there are social butterflies. Not everyone who wants to go to school for the best part of their youth is going to have things that might tempt them to do something more fun, like... having friends. I don't think it's completely irrelevant advice, regardless of the original poster's intentions.

 

[Narmerguy]

And here I thought I was going to have to give the usual line about how one year's grades don't matter and how an upward trend can do wonders and yadda yadda.

 

[GoSpursGo]

Thread is being closed because the OP has been banned for trolling.