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You really go to Notre Dame?
Let's just say I have A LOT to do with the university.
You really go to Notre Dame?
Let's just say I have A LOT to do with the university.
Hoosiers are the best.
or perhaps you are in a protected South Bend bubble,
So many people are telling the OP that his experiences are invalid. Do you really think that it's impossible that he experienced racism, or that your interpretation of what happened to him is more valid than his interpretation?sorry dude, but aggression does not equal racism; nor does hospitality equal less racism.
You may think they're being racist, when in fact, they are being defensive (rude, hostile, etc.). For all you know, that person who was "racist" towards you has a black girlfriend or friend since childhood.
More than any other city in America, New York throws everyone together into a pot and forces them to coexist and live together. Ironically, the population density contributes to antisocial behavior.
Do you really think that it's impossible that he experienced racism, or that your interpretation of what happened to him is more valid than his interpretation?
Read Notre Dame Vs. the Klan: How the Fighting Irish Defeated the Ku Klux Klan by Todd Tucker. There is a long tradition of racism in Indiana. Maybe it is less now, or perhaps you are in a protected South Bend bubble, but historically, it has not been great.
There are predominately white, affluent areas both urban and suburban where blacks, especially black men, are going to be treated with suspicion and expressions of fear. (We saw on display recently a man in Florida who paused from his plans for the evening, called the police and got out of his vehicle to confront a young, black male walking through the gated community.) Whites may not realize it happens to black people but blacks will know it is happening and how it adds to the stress of daily life. I think that it tends to happen most often in areas where blacks are not a common sight. The Upper East Side of New York would be one of those areas whereas many other areas of NYC are not. Same goes for many other cities and suburbs. Not to say it is right but I can confirm that what Dbate is saying is the reality for black men in some areas.
So many people are telling the OP that his experiences are invalid. Do you really think that it's impossible that he experienced racism, or that your interpretation of what happened to him is more valid than his interpretation?
And it's possible to be racist/sexist/xenophobic etc even if you have a black best friend or friends who are women or parents who are immigrants, in fact it happens all the time. Have you heard of the implicit bias? Racism affects our lives all the time, whether it's explicit or just something people keep to themselves.
Guess again. I've lived in many places, including NYC by the way.
Of course, it's possible, but he hasn't exactly described what happened. He has implied that it may be due to the lack of hospitality (or the opposite of it, i.e., aggression), and that is what I was addressing.
If he wants to provide more detail, so be it. For the record, I have experienced aggression in New York City from people of a different race, but I didn't ascribe it as racism or reverse racism. In this regard, I'm sharing my perspective.
And Dbate, I'd be leery of taking other people's recommendations about where you'd feel comfortable. It's something you can really only answer for yourself. What works for someone else may not work for you. For example, the Portland comments. I've lived there, and it's true it's mostly white and everyone there is eager to get along or maybe too eager to get along with all non-white folks. You may or may not feel like it's pandering, while someone else may not.
I'm not interested in trying to convince people that I "legitimately" experienced racism.
If you want to believe that there is no racism in the world and that every black person who complains about racism is simply making it up, then that is your choice. I don't care either way.
I wanted recommendations on the Least Racist cities to go to medical school.
So far nearly all of Cali and Atlanta are near the top of the pile.
So many people are telling the OP that his experiences are invalid. Do you really think that it's impossible that he experienced racism, or that your interpretation of what happened to him is more valid than his interpretation?
And it's possible to be racist/sexist/xenophobic etc even if you have a black best friend or friends who are women or parents who are immigrants, in fact it happens all the time. Have you heard of the implicit bias? Racism affects our lives all the time, whether it's explicit or just something people keep to themselves.
They then often times try to rationalize the experience away (ex. New Yorkers are rude, etc). But when it happens often enough and you can literally see the fear people have of black men in their eyes, you know it is based on race.
In all honesty, I find it difficult to talk about racist encounters that I experience in real life because the first thing that happens is that someone who is not a black male immediately tells me that I didn't experience racism.
apparently steer clear of sanford, florida... HEY OOOO
1. There are racists everywhere. There is no magic fairy tale land somewhere in the U.S. just waiting for you where everyone will be like OMG a black man! I love black people! Here's some lemonade and cookies for you while you shop. Also, please have sex with my daughter as well and give us some beautiful inter-racial babies. You need to learn to ignore it or grow some thicker skin.
2. Just because one neighborhood in NYC has a few white people who are scared of a black man does not mean the whole city is racist. You chose to live in one of the richest and whitest neighborhoods in NYC. Maybe if you spent some time in Harlem or Brooklyn you might feel better.
. What you are describing is more a function of being an extreme minority in a social setting than anything else (the UES is about 2% african americans). Yes, it's essentially racist for them to fear you and watch you closely, but this commonly happens anywhere in the world where people aren't used to seeing someone who doesn't look like them on a regular basis.
4. If you've ever spent some time outside of the US/Europe you'll actually see some real nasty racism. And I'm not talking about people giving you the evil eye or crossing the street when you walk past. You won't have to worry about being followed, they'll just beat and rob you for being in the "wrong" neighborhood. America is by no means perfect, but even the UES is way better much of the world.
4. If it bothers you that much use some common sense and apply to schools in neighborhoods with a higher percentage of minorities and african americans. The more diverse a neighborhood, the better.
I don't know why people keep saying Dbate hasn't said what is happening. He said that white ladies flinch on the streets and security guards follow him through stores. That's reasonably specific and it's terrible. As a white lady who lives in NYC, I'm glad he shared this experience with us because, even though I don't think I've ever treated someone the way he's been treated, it's certainly something for me be more aware of.
So basically, thanks Dbate and I'm sorry you have to put up with this. You should come hang out on the West Side with the cool people.
Just wanted to say that yes, everyone's skin color affects how they perceive the world because our skin color affects the way the world treats us. If people are hostile to you because of your skin color, then you're going to think the world is a hostile place. If people think you're harmless because of your skin color, then you'll think the world is a friendly and accepting place. Both are true, it just depends on who you are.
OP, I'm sorry to hear about your experience living in NYC.
Your entire post in unnecessarily hostile and unhelpful.
You mean like this thread?
What are you talking about? I don't want anyone to be nice to me, I just don't want them to treat me any differently than they would anyone else.
Unfortunately, you'll find people who will treat you differently anywhere you go. I'm not going to sugar coat it for you and tell you everything will be alright.
No. I chose to live in a safe area commensurate to my income level. I apologize that I didn't realize that this area was for white people only.
No one ever said that. In fact I said the opposite, that you should just ignore it.
From my prior experiences in the south, a high percentage of white people didn't equal racist, so sorry that I didn't make that assumption about the Upper East Side.
The vast majority of people who have spent time in both the south and north find the north to be much less racist and more accepting. The problem people are having with your posts is that you are generalizing racism to all of NYC and comparing 1 neighborhood to an entire region (the south). The point is that racist people in the south are used to seeing african americans all the time and aren't surprised or scared by them (which doesn't mean they're any less racist).
Just become something is common doesn't make it right.
Of course it's not right. But you need to deal w/ it and not try to run away.
So your argument is that I should appreciate the discrimination I face because it could be worse?
I'm saying that there are many different types of racism and some forms are more severe than others. Its not something to appreciate, just something to give you some perspective before you start labeling entire cities are racist and choosing medical schools based on "least racist cites."
And looking at the raw percent of minorities in a city doesn't mean anything in determining how racist a city is.
See my above comments.
Here's some helpful advice: Don't let the feelings of a few random strangers dictate where you live or go to school.
Here's some helpful advice: Don't let the feelings of a few random strangers dictate where you live or go to school.
Yes, racism does bother me that much.
And looking at the raw percent of minorities in a city doesn't mean anything in determining how racist a city is.
Mississippi has some of the highest percent of blacks and I doubt it is a racial utopia.
Same here...
What I meant by the South Bend bubble is that South Bend is a lovely town and I could imagine that it might be more color-blind than other areas of Indiana that are not home to a big private university with a top-flight sports program that tends to attract huge crowds to its events.
I think the whole dressing well advice is good.
I'm not saying only URM's should dress nicely, I think anyone who wears a suit will be treated with more respect than someone wearing baggy jeans and a t-shirt. Maybe the OP should try it out as a little social experiment and report back to us.
Let's just say I have ALOT to do with the university.
apparently steer clear of sanford, florida... HEY OOOO
OP, no matter what city you go to there WILL be areas that have some level of racism... The fact that you happened to have your first experience in NYC at a predominantly white "bubble" does not mean that you should condemn the entire city... NYC is the biggest melting pot in the country.. you can find very racist areas but at the same time, there are parts that are probably the most DIVERSE and ACCEPTING areas in the country.
I would not let this experience affect your med school preference, because if you look around in any city, you will find areas that are racist. NYC is HUGE.
I agree with what Ellie Arroway said about the PNW. Seattle and Portland, tend to have a lot of well-intentioned liberal whites. However, neither city has a large black population compared to cities in the South or East Coast, and they are both among the least diverse major cities in the US. You might hear some statements offensive out of ignorance, but it's unlikely to meet aggressive racism. That being said, both of them have police departments that are not well-regarded for their approach to race relations.
I wouldn't say California's a paragon of race relations either. LA and the Bay Area are very segregated and there are areas where you will stick out like a sore thumb if you are a different race/ethnic group. Also, a lot of black people who live there are very poor and I don't think there's a black middle class like there is in other parts of the country.
Also - and flame me for this if you must - a lot of the 1st generation Asians in California are openly racist towards black people and make comments about not wanting to go near black neighborhoods or black people because of crime etc. I am not black but when I have criticized them for being racist, they will push back at me and really, they don't think there is anything wrong with what they said! It is mostly older people, but I have sadly seen this attitude among the young as well. The Americanized 2nd generations and beyond might have more a more progressive outlook.
i take it that you are white and don't live in a black neighborhood
Because who you are colors your experience. Being white, you have no idea what it feels like to be discriminated against. For you, your experiences are never about race. For everyone else, it is. If you were asian, you would have had the relevant experiences that prejudice you against blacks. If you ever worked in retail, you know that black males make up the vast majority of thieves. If you lived in new york, you would see that the most purse snatching and ipod stealing is committed by blacks. The reactionary behaviors that you are so quick to judge didn't appear in a vacuum.
apparently steer clear of sanford, florida... HEY OOOO
I was going to write a long reply to this, but then I realized the minds of racists never change.
Racism only ends when people who carry racists opinions die. And the next generation doesn't form racist beliefs to replace them.
Oh, and the fact that your opinion doesn't matter.
I was going to write a long reply to this, but then I realized the minds of racists never change.
Racism only ends when people who carry racists opinions die. And the next generation doesn't form racist beliefs to replace them.
Oh, and the fact that your opinion doesn't matter.