Living together during medical rotations

[medschlwiddo]

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I have been with my M2 all through medical school so far. I am also in a graduate program and we are looking to cut costs by moving in together at the start of his M3 year.

I need a little SDN wisdom.

Do you think that moving in together should be an option to look into?

Are the M3 and M4 years more stressful than the M1 and M2 years? Will it make residency easier on me?

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Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[paean]

I think that living with my partner makes my life infinately better, but that's because we worked out all the housework and personal space bugs most couples run into when they first move in together a while ago. Most people say that you will have less time at home as an MS3 doing clinical rotations, and that more of it has to be spend reading. So you may find that your honey does less housework and cooking than s/he would have otherwise. That could make the first year living together a little more frustrating. At most schools, 4th years have a decent amount of free time.

I generally think that moving in together works better if you have clear expectations of the mundane things, just like if you were going to move in with a roommate you just met. Sit down and talk about expectations about cleanliness, food, bills (and who will take responsibility for making sure they gt paid), personal space (physical, like where you will but your desk, and mental/emotional), and time together having fun. If your expectations mesh, and you see evidence that you are being honest with each other, great.

One thing you might want to consider. If you will be saving money by moving in together, would you be able to hire someone to come in to clean the bathroom, mop the floors, vacuum, and all the stuff that needs to get done every week or two? That would have reduced a lot of our early conflicts when we both didn't have a lot of time, and costs a lot less than renting 2 apartments.