Anna123456
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Hi everyone!
My bf of a year just moved about 2.5 hours away for residency. He seems unsure about doing a LDR, often unable to make up his mind, going back and forth if he wants to continue dating. Due to my job, I would not be able to move there until next year and he said doing this for a year would be terrible. He said it isn't a substantial relationship if we always have to plan ahead when we are going to see each other and can't just randomly drop by after work for a dinner. We are both in Michigan and would still be seeing each other weekly or bi-weekly. Is it really that hard to maintain a LDR during residency or this an excuse for him to get out of the relationship? We are both in our 30's and claim to want the same things out of life (kids, marriage, etc), but I don't know if I should try to fight for this. Could it be possible the stress of intern year is masking his ability to look at this clearly or should I give up and move on? Having such a tough time, so any advice is appreciated. TY!
My bf of a year just moved about 2.5 hours away for residency. He seems unsure about doing a LDR, often unable to make up his mind, going back and forth if he wants to continue dating. Due to my job, I would not be able to move there until next year and he said doing this for a year would be terrible. He said it isn't a substantial relationship if we always have to plan ahead when we are going to see each other and can't just randomly drop by after work for a dinner. We are both in Michigan and would still be seeing each other weekly or bi-weekly. Is it really that hard to maintain a LDR during residency or this an excuse for him to get out of the relationship? We are both in our 30's and claim to want the same things out of life (kids, marriage, etc), but I don't know if I should try to fight for this. Could it be possible the stress of intern year is masking his ability to look at this clearly or should I give up and move on? Having such a tough time, so any advice is appreciated. TY!