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Hello I was wondering what the proper etiquette is regarding showing thanks for someone who wrote me a letter of recommendation

Should i send a thank you card in teh mail, email a thank you...or stop by their office w/ like a box of choclates...

what do you guys think

THanks!!!!
 

jonb12997

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send 'em on a 7 day cruise... you're gonna be a doctor, you can afford it!! hehe, not enough sleep last night, i'm really punchy... on a more serious note, I just sent a thank you note once I decided where I was going just saying thanks for writing me a letter, here's where I'm going next year, etc... and just put in a $5 dunkin donuts gift card (I went to school in the boston area where there are more dunkies than there are gas stations it seems)... it seemed the most appropriate thing for me.
 

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bnoosha said:
Hello I was wondering what the proper etiquette is regarding showing thanks for someone who wrote me a letter of recommendation

Should i send a thank you card in teh mail, email a thank you...or stop by their office w/ like a box of choclates...

what do you guys think

THanks!!!!

I just gave them a phone call.
 

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I'm gonna stick a gift card of some sort in a thank you card and send one to all my LOR writers.
 

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A nice hand-written thank you card will suffice
... as well as keeping them up to date on your application progress
 

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laboholic said:
A nice hand-written thank you card will suffice
... as well as keeping them up to date on your application progress


That's exactly what I did, and they appreciated my efforts
 

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Hey everyone thanks for all your replies.
I think I will send thank you cards, and the ones I am especially close to include a small gift.

Good luck to you all in the future and thanks again.
 

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Do NOT send gifts!!!! It could be a potential disaster for the adcoms if you are accepted over someone else with similar stats and they (the other applicant) find out that you sent a gift. (Highly unlikely they'd find out, but still they could). It's also unethical for the adcoms to accept any gifts from a potential applicant for that reason. A thank-you card will suffice, and is proper etiquette. Depending on the adcom, sending a gift could also hurt you for the reasons above (at least this is my experience with Ph.D. adcoms that I've sat on as a Ph.D. student reviewing incoming applicants).

While your intentions are good, and it is a nice gesture, don't do anything that could potentially damage your application.
 

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Talking about LOR writers not adcoms, MegBoo, ;) .

I'd send a gift to an adcommer, like a new ferrari or something if I could. Who could turn me down after that?!
 

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Yep, it's official. I need a vacation. This wedding planning, work, and school have officially taken their toll on me. Thank God the wedding will be over in 1 week, the semester in 3, and work, well, it's never-ending. But hey 2 out of 3 ain't bad.

For LORS, a gift is fine.

I will sit down now, and take my beating!

LOL

Thanks Hoberto - but at least everyone knows how I feel about adcoms gifts :laugh: :D :oops: :confused: :cool: :p :) ;) :eek:
 
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