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I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of three years partly because I havent been there for her due to my academic and research obligations. When we did have time, I couldnt do many things because I havent had a paying job in 2 years. She is a finance major (easy as hell at my school). Though initially supportive of me, fundamentally cannot empathize with the necessary commitments a career in medicine requires. When I try to explain it to her she is insulted and thinks I am belittling her career goals. She has even suggested that I am stupid for studying as much as I have. I know I cannot explain the whole situation in this cursory history.
OK here is the question. I love this girl and I know I want to marry her but a relationship cannot work as long as I continue on this career path. IF pre-med was this difficult for us, med school then residency will be impossible. I think it is such a shame that I cant be with her because of what I want to do. Is medicine worth losing the love of my life? I dont think I can be truly happy with either decision. I wish I hadnt gotten into medical school. I mean this may all be moot because I think it is beyond repair. I guess I am just bummed because I lost the best thing in my life because my lifes dream is to become a doctor.
Input is great I guess I am just looking for support or someone who went through a similar situation. Breaking up sucks.
Thanks
OK here is the question. I love this girl and I know I want to marry her but a relationship cannot work as long as I continue on this career path. IF pre-med was this difficult for us, med school then residency will be impossible. I think it is such a shame that I cant be with her because of what I want to do. Is medicine worth losing the love of my life? I dont think I can be truly happy with either decision. I wish I hadnt gotten into medical school. I mean this may all be moot because I think it is beyond repair. I guess I am just bummed because I lost the best thing in my life because my lifes dream is to become a doctor.
Input is great I guess I am just looking for support or someone who went through a similar situation. Breaking up sucks.
Thanks