marriage

[loveanne]

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should i get married before med school or after???

 

[4langhaejae012]

to loveanne-
i think u shouldnt get married before med school..i dont think you'll be ready.
how old are you anyway?
you should be studying instead of thinking about marriage!
p.s- hope u get into med school!!!.. =)
did you even ask your girlfriend yet??
hope she gives u a good answer. =)

 

[kmmath]

Well, I think marriage is about many things...including support, friendship and love. Getting through medical school is tough and if you are in a place in your relationship where the next logical step is marriage....then I think that you could make that step...It won't be easy....but...you can always send your spouse to my website...http://www.medicalspouse.org

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Good luck...

 

[Dave2K]

I don't think that you should ever try to "fit in" your marriage around any sort of schedule. Should you get married in a hurry to be the first (or not the last) of your friends? How about to one-up your brother/sister and be married first? Of course not. If you truly feel ready/committed/whatever (I'm guessing here since I've never been there myself) to get married, then do it!

Of course, it is true that nothing is going to change your life like marriage. AND, nothing is going to change your life like medical school. So, if you suddenly lump these two changes together, you might really freak out at how rapidly different your life becomes in a few short months. If you aren't sure (and by your question, it sounds like you aren't) I would definitely postpone the wedding for a bit. Once you know you are in medical school, see how that affects your relationship. I won't start a flame war about pre-marital cohabitation, so do what you want with that. But, definitely take your first year of medical school as a "trial run" of medicine and marriage. If your relationship suffers somewhat, maybe you need to work harder at balancing the two halves of your life. At least you won't have rushed into marriage and feel the added strain. I would reccommend waiting until the middle or end of medical school to get married. That way your future spouse will have some idea of how much work is required to put up with a future doctor. Good luck in both pursuits!

 

[Hercules]

I think this is a great question b/c it's one that seems to be on a lot of our minds. After my UAB interview we ate lunch with some 4th year med students. I saw both of the ones at my table had wedding bands, so I asked them what they're thoughts were on marriage and med school. When I asked, I found out that 6 of the 7 applicants at my table were also in serious relationships and considering marriage. One of the med students said he got married in between 1st and 2nd year. The other got married in the summer before 1st year. Both were very positive about being married in med school, and assured us that it had worked out well for them. They said the key is just time management (big surprise!).

I'm planning on getting married before med school starts, for a number of reasons. Ultimately, of course, this is a very personal decision and no one can tell you what is right for you.

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Hercules

But there is also a time for sleeping.
-Odysseus in the Odyssey 11.330-331

 

[Aggiemaj]

I recently got engaged, and I will be married by the time I enter medical school. Your future spouse must be aware of the time restraint that medical school will put on your relationship. I talked with a doctor who said that he and his wife didn't fight about money ... they fought about time. Your spouse must also be supportive of your efforts and be willing to make sacrifices in order for you to achieve your goals.

If you are in a truly loving relationship, then when you get married will not matter.