Hi, I am a non-trad (27 years old) who is going to spend all available hours this year on studying for the MCAT so that I can take the exam in January 2013 and hopefully, begin medical school by 2014. Now, the problem is that when I began my prep, I entered into a relationship with someone who I really want to be with forever. And I don't want to lose her (yeah, go ahead and say, "aww," or, "please, what a starstruck lover"). The only problem is that she feels that I don't spend enough time with her. When we first started hanging out, I would try my best to see her at least once a week and I was pretty consistent at meeting that commitment by spending some time with her during the weekend. But then she demanded more of my time, saying that she wants to see me at least one weeknight per week, ON TOP of hanging out during the weekend. She then proceeds to mention other couples who are mutual friends of ours and who spend more time with each other. And she says that she doesn't feel like she's asking for a whole lot of my time. In an effort to continue the relationship with her, I tried to meet her commitment of spending time with her one weeknight and one night during the weekend each week. But I don't think I can do it! I work full-time, a 9am-5pm job. And while most SDN members may be too young to know what a 9am-5pm grind is like, it can be hell...and it makes the few hours you have each night so much more valuable, especially when you're trying to tackle a beast as scary as the MCAT. So what do I do? How can I tell her that I can only meet once a week? She rightly argues that she is sure that there are other people in the world who are doing a lot more than me and can still balance all aspects of their lives...but I'm not those other people. I can only focus on a few goals at a time. At the same time, I don't want this relationship to end. Can I do both? Can I insist on hanging out once a week during the weekend and spend all other nights on the MCAT? Or...do I choose between the two (I really don't want to, I want both)? I asked a friend of mine for some advice on this matter, and he said that the fact that I don't want to spend more time with her is an indication that I really don't want to be with her. But this is simply not true! I want to be with her...but I just can't meet the time demands at this moment in my life. Any advice would be appreciated.