First of all, if you were truly not as rude as you claimed, you would recognize the tactlessness of your statements, and apologize.
I'm not apologizing because I see nothing wrong with my statements. My posts were not insulting, and I violated none of the terms of service.
Secondly, you offered more than suggestions; you told the OP what YOU would do, and basically told her what option she should choose.
No, I didn't. For example, I'm vehemently opposed to abortion, but I offered that as a suggestion since the OP isn't opposed to them. How would that be what I would do?
She's a grown woman. She doesn't have to listen to me or anybody else about her decisions.
It is not the fact that you, as a not-yet-matriculated-med-student, posted in the allo forum. It is the fact that you wandered into a forum, posting incredibly tactless and insulting things. Your rudeness combined with the fact that you have yet to experience the difficult process of balancing med school demands with real life demands, just adds insult to injury.
Your arrogance amuses me.
By that train of thought, none of the men in this thread should've posted as they have no experience being capable of carrying life. Also, women who have never been pregnant without being married shouldn't have posted in this thread because they don't have any firsthand experience of being a prospective single parent.
I have balanced working 2 jobs with a full-time course load & writing a thesis. I'm not completely ignorant of "balancing med school demands with real life demands".
While it IS a free internet forum, it is not like the Lounge, the Sociopolitical forum, or even the Underrepresented in Healthcare forums, in which insulting posts like yours might slip by unnoticed.
Oh, noez! You've been searching for my previous posts. U know I post in the minority forum, don't u?
The OP wasn't looking for your sympathy or your compassion.
No, she wasn't, but her groupies certainly were as evidenced by the outrage concerning my posts.
Finally, if you have no compassion or sympathy for persons who are creators of their own downfall, are you sure you want to be a physician?
From the COPDers who have >100 pack-years histories, to the guy with MI x 4 and has a BMI of >40 and an A1C of 15 (on a good day!), to the chronic CHFer who just can't be bothered to take his HCTZ everyday, to the heavily jaundiced guy who desperately needs a new liver because he destroyed his with IVDU and alcohol, to the guy who comes into the ER every month with cocaine chest-pain....75% of your patients will be "creators of their own downfall."
Of course. Where else can I quench my thirst for power and desire to hold meaningless lives in the palm of my hand while earning 6 figures?
Thank you for indirectly telling me that I will be a terrible doctor.
I've interacted with many physicians. I would say that most feel paternalistic pity moreso than true compassion towards their patients during those long 15 minutes of doctor-patient interaction. Except for Dr. 90210. He's a bleeding heart.
How I feel professionally is
very different than how I feel about situations socially. (And everybody gets the same SOC regardless of circumstances.) Also, feelings are very situation-specific. Contrast the case of a girl with anorexia vs. a woman who is obese. Contrast the case a leukemia victim near a chemical plant with a melanoma victim who went to tanning beds her entire life. All tragic circumstances, but do they all elicit the same amount of compassion (if any)?
The OP's problem could be easily solved in addition to being easily preventable. Also, it doesn't just involve her. It also involves her "friend" and the fetus/future baby. Most people would feel differently towards a single guy who smokes at home & gets lung cancer vs. a married man who smokes at home & gets lung cancer in addition to exposing his asthmatic kids to secondhand smoke.
This issue is done with, man. We can agree to disagree or you can continue to attack me & google my post history.