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This is no disrespect to anyone out there, but I have been trying to be patient and be a good listener to my wife, but I can not stand seeing her so miserable at work any longer! And all I want to do is to solve all her problems! Has this ever happened to anyone else? I really need some guidance to help her build some confidence and be happy about going to work!
So here's the story: My wife is a pediatrics intern, AMG with excellent step 1/2, good grades. She went for Peds because she really liked the peds people that she worked with as a student, even though she could have gotten one of the ROAD specialties. Since third/forth year of med school, she would often come home feeling so bad because of one of her gunners classmates. She is quiet, soft spoken, and overall "passive" so she was never good at or wanted to schmooze like the other girls, yet she was always efficient and did a good job, so so far, she got good evaluations from every rotation. BUT deep inside, she feels miserable because she cannot escape how miserable she feels at work. We talked about how she might be overly sensitive, but at work, she constantly feels like no one respects or listens to her.
From what she's telling me, it sounds like she has a major inferiority complex. I know that it's winter time and she's over worked and we all have the intern blues every now and then, but I need to help her feel better about herself at work.
So my questions are:
1. Did anyone ever feel like they are NOT the most well-liked, NOT good at schmoozing, how did you get over this and still maintain your confidence to go on everyday?
2. Should I try harder to leave her alone to learn or deal with this by herself? (she's 26, gone straight from college/med school/residency without much "life" or work experience) OR try harder to help her?
3. Are there any guys out there who constantly feel the need to solve their significant other's problems, or VICE VERSA? How do I get over this and just be a good listener to keep on validating her feelings?
4. Am I crazy for being so happy and excited to be at the hospital even though i'm in the deepest student loan debt **** and still doing ok, and I have this urgent need to "make" my wife a happy intern like I am?
5. Should she switch to another field?
-ANY advice, suggestion, humor would be greatly appreciated! Thanks.
So here's the story: My wife is a pediatrics intern, AMG with excellent step 1/2, good grades. She went for Peds because she really liked the peds people that she worked with as a student, even though she could have gotten one of the ROAD specialties. Since third/forth year of med school, she would often come home feeling so bad because of one of her gunners classmates. She is quiet, soft spoken, and overall "passive" so she was never good at or wanted to schmooze like the other girls, yet she was always efficient and did a good job, so so far, she got good evaluations from every rotation. BUT deep inside, she feels miserable because she cannot escape how miserable she feels at work. We talked about how she might be overly sensitive, but at work, she constantly feels like no one respects or listens to her.
From what she's telling me, it sounds like she has a major inferiority complex. I know that it's winter time and she's over worked and we all have the intern blues every now and then, but I need to help her feel better about herself at work.
So my questions are:
1. Did anyone ever feel like they are NOT the most well-liked, NOT good at schmoozing, how did you get over this and still maintain your confidence to go on everyday?
2. Should I try harder to leave her alone to learn or deal with this by herself? (she's 26, gone straight from college/med school/residency without much "life" or work experience) OR try harder to help her?
3. Are there any guys out there who constantly feel the need to solve their significant other's problems, or VICE VERSA? How do I get over this and just be a good listener to keep on validating her feelings?
4. Am I crazy for being so happy and excited to be at the hospital even though i'm in the deepest student loan debt **** and still doing ok, and I have this urgent need to "make" my wife a happy intern like I am?
5. Should she switch to another field?
-ANY advice, suggestion, humor would be greatly appreciated! Thanks.