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Is anyone moving with teenagers in order to start med school? Help? Its near mutiny in my house!
You're an awesome momWhen I applied to med school, I sat down with my family and we crossed off all the states we didn't want to live in. Then we crossed off the med schools where we didn't want Daddy working (as a cop - we really wanted him to come home alive. So places like Detroit were out.) So they had a say. When the time came for moving, my children were granted a little younger - 8 and 11. And we moved 2000 miles away to their #1 choice (which was my #2).
Now here we are 4 years later. My children will be 12 and 14 when we move next. Again, when it came time for residency I gave them the website and said "this is what I want to do. Find me programs places you want to live and give me a list." They spent hours researching everything - the program for anything bad, benefits, vacation, board pass rates, % of residents who take boards, real estate, schools, recreation, sports... you name it, they looked at it. And they gave me their list. I matched to my #1. Which happened to be their #1. So we're moving again in June.
They're excited. I let them have a huge say in where I applied, where I interviewed, etc. It's been a big learning experience for all of us. But I made sure to say at the outset "if we end up moving there's nothing that says we can't come back here someday. Look at this as an opportunity to see if we like living somewhere else better." I got them excited about stuff that interested them. And opened their eyes to new possibilities of things to learn, see, and do. And they were (and are again) excited.
Wow.... you make it sound so easy!!! My husband is also a cop. But we own our home, how could we sell and move, it is so scary for me. I have two choices that are local enough to commute. I guess if they say no. I must venture further. Did you husband find it difficult to find a new job??????When I applied to med school, I sat down with my family and we crossed off all the states we didn't want to live in. Then we crossed off the med schools where we didn't want Daddy working (as a cop - we really wanted him to come home alive. So places like Detroit were out.) So they had a say. When the time came for moving, my children were granted a little younger - 8 and 11. And we moved 2000 miles away to their #1 choice (which was my #2).
Now here we are 4 years later. My children will be 12 and 14 when we move next. Again, when it came time for residency I gave them the website and said "this is what I want to do. Find me programs places you want to live and give me a list." They spent hours researching everything - the program for anything bad, benefits, vacation, board pass rates, % of residents who take boards, real estate, schools, recreation, sports... you name it, they looked at it. And they gave me their list. I matched to my #1. Which happened to be their #1. So we're moving again in June.
They're excited. I let them have a huge say in where I applied, where I interviewed, etc. It's been a big learning experience for all of us. But I made sure to say at the outset "if we end up moving there's nothing that says we can't come back here someday. Look at this as an opportunity to see if we like living somewhere else better." I got them excited about stuff that interested them. And opened their eyes to new possibilities of things to learn, see, and do. And they were (and are again) excited.
So how old are your kids? Did they have a say in where to apply? Did you include them?
I am soooooooo impressed. I have to consider all of these brave new things as I re-apply. Ladies..... you have done a remarkable thing by sharing how you cope. It was so needed for me.My 6 year old really really did not want to sell our house and move. So we didn't. I commute home on weekends (3 hour drive) and do no med school work at all from Friday at 4 pm to Monday at 10 AM. I listen to lecture podcasts on my drive.
We will all be together for residency, whether that requires a move or not, and I think that is an awesome idea about giving them input into which programs to rank.
We owned our home too. But my state school was not an option as they wouldn't even interview me - for two years in a row. It was 3.5 hours away anyway, and the only med school in my state. (I did have other state schools interview me though - go figure.) So we realized that at least I would have to go elsewhere, and my family was not willing to let me go alone. So we knew we'd have to sell our home that we JUST finished remodeling, leave the kids' schools, leave his job, etc. And my family wouldn't even hear of me saying it was too much sacrifice.Wow.... you make it sound so easy!!! My husband is also a cop. But we own our home, how could we sell and move, it is so scary for me. I have two choices that are local enough to commute. I guess if they say no. I must venture further. Did you husband find it difficult to find a new job??????