I do agree it is not appropriate to say you will come to two schools, however, I also think it is not appropriate for them to ask you "where do we rank on your list?" I have to admit the schools themselves make it into a big game with lots of hoops to jump through. Otherwise, why would we need to apply to 20+ schools? Why do they need to inteview 1000+ people for 100 slots and it still comes down to scores (or other factors), so they can keep their stats up? Honestly the difference between the school I loved and my second choice is extremely minimal and considering my second choice school is known to give substantially better FA it makes it a really tough choice. I didn't think it was wrong to send a letter to my second choice school (I am waitlisted even though I am in my first choice) saying I would get excellent training and be very happy at their school...because if I end up $40,000 less in debt (and that is just principle) I will be much happier and honestly they are both good schools so I really don't think the training will be that different....I have to admit the wording I used in the letter was very different, I thought extremely hard about what words to chose not using best, only, happiest, etc. If I hadn't had to spend $7000+ in the application process maybe I would be less concerned about financial aid and more concerned with which school I loved....(and if schools didn't wait 12 weeks to tell us what's up so we waste more time and money and other people's time and money interviewing at schools that we probably won't attend anyway!) Schools know that people are going to roll of the waitlist, honestly when you turn down a school they probably don't think of you again!