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NonTradMed said:In Chinese culture, women traditionally do not change their last name upon marriage. My grandmothers nor my mom have ever done so so I figure why should I? My grandmothers were both married for over 50 years and my mother has been married for more than a quarter of a century. If a name change is big enough to incite divorce, then the marriage wasn't meant to last.
Chinese family names are patrilineal, passed from father to children. (In cases of adoption, the adoptee usually also takes the same surname.) Chinese women, after marriage, typically retain their birth surname. Historically, however, only Chinese men possessed xìng (family name), in addition to shì; the women had only the latter, and took on their husband's xìng after marriage.
In Hong Kong, mainland China, Korea, and Taiwan, women keep their own surnames, while the family as a whole is referred to by the surnames of the husbands.
It is also more common in Chinese culture that husband/father be the main breadwinner and the wife do more of the housework/child rearing duties..
Stay at home fathers in Chinese culture have never been/and are still not as well accepted as they are in western culture.
Also, immediate families in Chinese homes usually include grandparents and sometimes aunts and uncles who aid in child rearing while the parents go out to work.