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I am so surprised that your rather benign comments were taken to be offensive! As a mother of three, I can testify that I don't even confess to other moms to be a pre-med or have aspirations of medical school for similar reasons.
I grew up believing that as a woman we could do/be anything we set our minds to if we studied/worked hard enough. In a million years I could have never imagined the reaction by other moms for choosing to take a college class. There is definately a divide among women and many are uncomfortable addressing it. But here it is:
If you are a full-time working mom in any profession, you are "bad"...you know the drill..you are neglecting your family, selfishly putting your needs above those of your children..yada yada yada! Never mind the fact that all of these stay-at-home moms with daughters probably are putting money into their daughter's college funds hoping that their own daughters might break out and go to med school :wink:
If you are a part-time working mom, you aren't "serious enough" about either mothering or your profession and are really in limbo land until you "decide" what your priority is.
If you are a full-time SAHM, you can consider that many will think that you didn't choose to stay home...it chose you because you just aren't bright enough to do anything else...Don't believe this? Just try giving up your career to stay at home for awhile....That being said, I have to admit that I'm so overwhelmed with the day to day getting by that I currently try and challenge myself to do small things like...find my keys! I think that choosing to stay at home means that you devote yourself to talking about diapers, children, etc and I know that I even avoid going to mommy and me groups because I don't want to just talk about the color of poop...I want to talk about world politics, etc...at the same time, I'm so exhausted that if there was a great talk about politics, I'd probably just sit and nod! Stay at home moms aren't braindead, they're exhausted...but, quaileggs and others, I still agree with you and your right to feel that way! I understand where that opinion comes from...and I'be been a working mom, part-time working mom and stay-at-home mom. All I can say is that you can find braindead working moms too....
At the end of the day, it isn't worth the confrontation to me....I just choose to stay in the closet!
Kris
I grew up believing that as a woman we could do/be anything we set our minds to if we studied/worked hard enough. In a million years I could have never imagined the reaction by other moms for choosing to take a college class. There is definately a divide among women and many are uncomfortable addressing it. But here it is:
If you are a full-time working mom in any profession, you are "bad"...you know the drill..you are neglecting your family, selfishly putting your needs above those of your children..yada yada yada! Never mind the fact that all of these stay-at-home moms with daughters probably are putting money into their daughter's college funds hoping that their own daughters might break out and go to med school :wink:
If you are a part-time working mom, you aren't "serious enough" about either mothering or your profession and are really in limbo land until you "decide" what your priority is.
If you are a full-time SAHM, you can consider that many will think that you didn't choose to stay home...it chose you because you just aren't bright enough to do anything else...Don't believe this? Just try giving up your career to stay at home for awhile....That being said, I have to admit that I'm so overwhelmed with the day to day getting by that I currently try and challenge myself to do small things like...find my keys! I think that choosing to stay at home means that you devote yourself to talking about diapers, children, etc and I know that I even avoid going to mommy and me groups because I don't want to just talk about the color of poop...I want to talk about world politics, etc...at the same time, I'm so exhausted that if there was a great talk about politics, I'd probably just sit and nod! Stay at home moms aren't braindead, they're exhausted...but, quaileggs and others, I still agree with you and your right to feel that way! I understand where that opinion comes from...and I'be been a working mom, part-time working mom and stay-at-home mom. All I can say is that you can find braindead working moms too....
At the end of the day, it isn't worth the confrontation to me....I just choose to stay in the closet!
Kris