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Just some quick background, my father is a neurologist, my mother is a pediatric neurologist. They are both super old school (so old school my father got grandfathered out of one of his boards) and were doing their residency in the era where everyone had to moonlight in the ED. Another little tidbit to add, my mother would love for nothing more than for me to match into optha or derm and just the thought of me being in either racks me with shudders.
So anyway, as i've been making my way through medical school, i've come to the startling realization that I'm a cutter, a butcher if you like. I quickly narrowed down my choices to EM or surgery. So I break this wonderful news to my parents (this has to have been at least 8 months ago) and they pretty much freak out "Do you know how crazy it is in the EM, it's super stressful, why would you want to do that, there's no prestige in EM, you can't really advance anywhere in EM, the best part of medicine is seeing what happens to your patients, etc etc etc." One time I called my parents because I was ecstatic that I got a hundered percentile on my neuro shelf, my mother responds with "why are you wasting such great grades on EM."
Fastforward through several months of EM jabs and my mother tells me to try a week of ENT and if I don't like it, then she will support my decision to go into EM. Of course, I try it for a week and I barely make it through without killing myself, and when I tell her that on the phone the other day she drops the ultimatum, "don't go into EM, go into anything other than EM, if you love me you'll go into anything else, if you love me you'll go into general surgery."
My parents love me, and I know they think they know what's best for me, but dealing with this is exhausting. I know that at least a dozen people will have snide comments to make so i'll preempt that by saying, yes I know I'm an adult and this is my choice to make and yes I know I'm pathetic.
So I guess the point of this huge point is to ask if any of you have had any similar experiences, and if so, how did you deal with it.
Thanks
-SM
Just some quick background, my father is a neurologist, my mother is a pediatric neurologist. They are both super old school (so old school my father got grandfathered out of one of his boards) and were doing their residency in the era where everyone had to moonlight in the ED. Another little tidbit to add, my mother would love for nothing more than for me to match into optha or derm and just the thought of me being in either racks me with shudders.
So anyway, as i've been making my way through medical school, i've come to the startling realization that I'm a cutter, a butcher if you like. I quickly narrowed down my choices to EM or surgery. So I break this wonderful news to my parents (this has to have been at least 8 months ago) and they pretty much freak out "Do you know how crazy it is in the EM, it's super stressful, why would you want to do that, there's no prestige in EM, you can't really advance anywhere in EM, the best part of medicine is seeing what happens to your patients, etc etc etc." One time I called my parents because I was ecstatic that I got a hundered percentile on my neuro shelf, my mother responds with "why are you wasting such great grades on EM."
Fastforward through several months of EM jabs and my mother tells me to try a week of ENT and if I don't like it, then she will support my decision to go into EM. Of course, I try it for a week and I barely make it through without killing myself, and when I tell her that on the phone the other day she drops the ultimatum, "don't go into EM, go into anything other than EM, if you love me you'll go into anything else, if you love me you'll go into general surgery."
My parents love me, and I know they think they know what's best for me, but dealing with this is exhausting. I know that at least a dozen people will have snide comments to make so i'll preempt that by saying, yes I know I'm an adult and this is my choice to make and yes I know I'm pathetic.
So I guess the point of this huge point is to ask if any of you have had any similar experiences, and if so, how did you deal with it.
Thanks
-SM