The answer is entirely dependent on your relationship with your soon-to-be-ex. I'll caution you that even if you believe that she is a reasonable person, this could all go out the window if she is advised by an "aggressive" lawyer that the more physical custody she retains of your child, the more money she'll be entitled to (this is often exactly how things work out). If she's determined to use her child as a weapon, doesn't matter how excellent a father you are, or if you have an impeccable record with excellent references and people to write statements on your behalf. I hate to sound cynical, but it can get that way. Do whatever you have to do to retain a good lawyer, and also do whatever you can to maintain a decent relationship with your ex. For men, your ex has the potential to destroy you (and unfortunately, the life of your child) if she has a mind to do so and a lawyer who works that way. (I'm not recommending that you go on the offense here - I hope that the mother of your child is a good and decent person, but why would you be divorcing her if she was? - but absolutely be prepared to mount a strong defense for the sake of your kid.) I hope that your situation is not so unhappy, and that you both are able to work out a decent parenting plan for the sake of your child (and your sanity). Divorce is hard, and contentious custody arrangements can make it nearly impossible. If things go south, remember that the one battle you absolutely can fight and win is that for your own well-being; if it gets to that, rather than endless rounds of fighting in courts that will leave everyone penniless, focus on your own sanity and happiness so that you can be a good father to your child throughout her life, not only her early years. Don't let guilt consume you. Good luck, and I hope that your situation is a good one that will render you both able to be excellent co-parents. The key is flexibility - the courts may say one thing, but if you and the ex have a good relationship, you should be able to work out a schedule where you can see your child as much as possible, working with EOW and 1/2 of vacation time as a baseline.