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I'm an M2. My husband and I have been going in mental circles with these issues for a couple weeks now and I/d appreciate advice and opinions.
We've been trying to decide when we could have a baby that would be least disruptive to my career path. We've considering the pros and cons of different times and I would love any insight you could offer.
Option 1: give birth about 4 months into fourth year.
Adv: this is the least demanding year I'll have for a while. Baby would be older when I start internship.
Disadv: Money (we won't have very much). The possibility of doing poorly, or being evaluated poorly, or getting bad rec letters in my sub-I, if there is any bias toward women who are clearly pregnant. Should there be complications, taking time off earlier than 3-4 months into fourth year would be difficult for me.
Option 2: give birth at the end of the fourth year.
Adv: is easiest to arrange time off. Money is better because I'd start getting paid soon.
Disadv: match day will be late in pregnancy, and if we end up moving and my husband can't find a new job right away, he might have to stay behind and work, and what would we do with our baby then? Hard to do an internship with a young baby at home. Window to conceive at this time is small. Most concerning to me: trying to time it so I won't be noticeably pregnant while on residency interviews.
Option 3: give birth during residency, possibly at the end of PGYII year.
This is impossible for me to think of pros/cons because I don't know what specialty I'd like to practice yet. Ideas I've had: anesthesiology and PM+R (seem divergent, but both involve pain management which really interests me) as well as FP and peds because I know they'd be rewarding, and I've heard they're more permissive of Dr. Moms.
Option 4: wait until residency is complete.
Adv: easiest in terms of both money and maternity leave, and timing of being obviously pregnant (and thus open to judgment from colleagues about being on the 'mommy track')
Disadv: concerns about fertility and, thinking about choosing this option makes me sad and a little angry, that we both would have to set aside starting a family when we want to so that I can pursue my career.
I honestly don't know much about other options that might be out there: delaying graduation, an internship with a non-traditional start date, etc. Please share any thoughts you might have on what constitutes good timing in the long run. Thank you!
We've been trying to decide when we could have a baby that would be least disruptive to my career path. We've considering the pros and cons of different times and I would love any insight you could offer.
Option 1: give birth about 4 months into fourth year.
Adv: this is the least demanding year I'll have for a while. Baby would be older when I start internship.
Disadv: Money (we won't have very much). The possibility of doing poorly, or being evaluated poorly, or getting bad rec letters in my sub-I, if there is any bias toward women who are clearly pregnant. Should there be complications, taking time off earlier than 3-4 months into fourth year would be difficult for me.
Option 2: give birth at the end of the fourth year.
Adv: is easiest to arrange time off. Money is better because I'd start getting paid soon.
Disadv: match day will be late in pregnancy, and if we end up moving and my husband can't find a new job right away, he might have to stay behind and work, and what would we do with our baby then? Hard to do an internship with a young baby at home. Window to conceive at this time is small. Most concerning to me: trying to time it so I won't be noticeably pregnant while on residency interviews.
Option 3: give birth during residency, possibly at the end of PGYII year.
This is impossible for me to think of pros/cons because I don't know what specialty I'd like to practice yet. Ideas I've had: anesthesiology and PM+R (seem divergent, but both involve pain management which really interests me) as well as FP and peds because I know they'd be rewarding, and I've heard they're more permissive of Dr. Moms.
Option 4: wait until residency is complete.
Adv: easiest in terms of both money and maternity leave, and timing of being obviously pregnant (and thus open to judgment from colleagues about being on the 'mommy track')
Disadv: concerns about fertility and, thinking about choosing this option makes me sad and a little angry, that we both would have to set aside starting a family when we want to so that I can pursue my career.
I honestly don't know much about other options that might be out there: delaying graduation, an internship with a non-traditional start date, etc. Please share any thoughts you might have on what constitutes good timing in the long run. Thank you!