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Hi all! Ever since I chose psychiatry as my intended specialty to match into, I’ve had changes in my relationships outside of academics/work. Friends and acquaintances have chosen to disclose their mental health diagnoses and this has affected our friendship in ways I hadn’t anticipated. Before, when I just wanted to do primary care, I thought it would be nice in the future if I could assist family and friends with my knowledge. Now people with anxiety, depression, and substance use disorders have latched onto me and expect me to act like their psychiatrist. I’ve tried to explain to them that I just want to act as a friend should and not their mental health provider, but this answer isn’t met with open arms. No matter how much I redirect, they mostly just want to talk about their problems. I think the difficulty lies with the feeling that, before if I gave advice, it was as a friend without any psychiatry knowledge. Now if I am asked for advice, it’s as if I’m straddling this line between friend and psychiatry-hopeful. I personally have some difficulty choosing my words carefully, but on top of that, people are expecting me to respond a certain way now.
For example, I have a friend with severe anxiety problems and nowadays I feel like our friendship involves me placating his anxiety more than us just hanging out. If I ever get short with him or disagree, he becomes angry/disappointed and always states that, “You’re supposed to be a psychiatrist!” This is actually a statement I get commonly now when I do something whenever I’m in disagreement with a friend, acquaintance, or family member.
Any advice would be fantastic, as I have been struggling with developing ways to establish proper boundaries in my personal life regarding their expectations.
For example, I have a friend with severe anxiety problems and nowadays I feel like our friendship involves me placating his anxiety more than us just hanging out. If I ever get short with him or disagree, he becomes angry/disappointed and always states that, “You’re supposed to be a psychiatrist!” This is actually a statement I get commonly now when I do something whenever I’m in disagreement with a friend, acquaintance, or family member.
Any advice would be fantastic, as I have been struggling with developing ways to establish proper boundaries in my personal life regarding their expectations.